I'm guilty.. please don't flame lol

appleseed1986 · December 2011

Sooo.. I told myself from day one that DD would sleep in her crib.. but she doesn't and hasn't. She sleep in bed with me. (dh sleeps in the other room because he snores) Well, I'm starting to kick myself in the arse because I want my bed back. lol I have a cold, and when I cough DD wakes up.. so it's interupting her sleep. I try putting in her crib but she just screams and I'm not ready for her to CIO yet. Another thing is that to get her to nap, she needs to cuddle with me for atleast half hour until I put her in her swing, or she'll wake up. Did I start a bad habit..? Is it to late to break these habits? And should I just start putting her in her crib, and stick with it? I feel like I'm spoiling her..

futuremrsofficer · December 2011

My DS has been sleeping in his crib since we brought him home, so I can't speak to that, but I did want you to know that every family is different. Whatever you're comfortable with is what's right for your family. Don't feel guilty. If you want your bed back, you could start by having her nap in her crib, after snuggling.

lysetterae · December 2011

My advice to you is to start now and STICK with it!! It'll be hard initially but the pay-off will be better for all of you. Good luck!

kellbranc · December 2011

I tihnk 3 mos is a good time to start trying the crib! Have you tried doing the pick up /put down method that the baby whisperer discusses? Or maybe put her in her crib drowsy then soothe her to sleep (shhh-ing loudly in her ear, rubbing her belly etc)? 3 mos is still little and you can't really spoil them - I personally could not let them CIO yet either!

aliska · December 2011

Do you have a pack and play? You could put that by your bed so that she gets used to sleeping by herself but near you. Then you could slowly move it away from your bed each night. DD slept in our room and sometimes our bed for the first 3 months. It wasn't until 13 weeks that she slept in her crib. Now she spends the whole night there! I don't think you are doing anything wrong. You are comforting your baby. She'll sleep in her crib when she is ready...which hopefully is soon.

AshleyM1985 · December 2011

My LO is 5 1/2 months old and we still bedshare. My LC and Dr told me to break it over a weekend or when I have a week to be up all night. There advice was generally the same. Nurse or feed them and at bed time put them in there crib and walk away. If they start to cry, let them cry for no more than 5 minutes, go in and pat there butt and talk to them, comfort without picking them up. Once calm and done crying, wait 2 additional minutes, leave. They might do this all night. Keep crying but don't let them cry more than 5 mins. If it's a hungry cry, feed them. Put them back in the crib. They said don't give in by putting them back in the bed. I know its going to be hard for me because I hate letting LO cry. I plan to do this over Christmas week where DH and I will both be home!

princessjulia28 · December 2011

LO has been in her crib since 6wks. I let her CIO for 3-5mins she will usually soothe herself, if she is screaming I go in immediatly, I can tell though if she is gonna go back to sleep or if she needs more. She refuses to nap. She usually only naps if I am holding her or cuddleing her. She wont nap in her crib or anything. I havent been to strict on naptime I should prob get a move on that. It works for us though. Do what works for you.

ElatedMom2B · December 2011

lysetterae:
My advice to you is to start now and STICK with it!! It'll be hard initially but the pay-off will be better for all of you. Good luck!

I agree with this. Having learned from my mistakes with my older daughter. The earlier the easier....if you wait it will only get harder. We have never bed-shared in our house and have always made it pretty clear that Mommy and Daddy's bed is our bed. My 3.5 year old sleeps in a regular twin bed on its frame and doesn't get out when she wakes up - she calls us. If she has a bad dream, she calls us; if she has to pee, she calls us; if she's thirsty, she calls us, etc. - so far, we've never had a late night visitor in our room.

That being said, we had plenty of other habits that we had to break when she got older and I found that by waiting to quit them it was only harder - the pacifier was the biggest one! Start now and stick to your guns. In the grand scheme of things, it is only one more hurdle to get over and once LO is used to it, it will be one for the history books.

MrsCodeMonkey · December 2011

It would be nice if there was a magic formula to get them to sleep. My DD was sleeping by herself in the crib up until Friday. All of a sudden she refused to sleep in the crib. Out of desperation I brought her into bed with us. She's been bedsharing since and my hubby is in the guest room. I tried drowsy, but awake and fully asleep. I also swaddled, used a woombie, sleep sack and footed pjs. Nothing has worked. She wakes up crying in her sleep and moves her head from side to side. Sometimes she grabs her ears. I had her checked out today and no ear infection. She's teething. I think I can feel her tooth poking through. Poor girl! I will admit, I'd rather have her in her crib, but I also want to comfort her. I don't want to do CIO.