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SD is back with the boyfriend.  She hadn't called DH since she was guilting and begging him to come get her.  She stayed with a friend for awhile, and now she's gone back. 

I believe that when she's really ready, she will figure out how to leave on her own. Or, she will approach us for help with a different tone and attitude.  You don't yell and guilt someone into bailing you out of a mess you put yourself in. You go to them humbly and ask for help respectfully. She hasn't figured that out yet.  

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  • emma7875emma7875
    Wow...  Sounds like my SS's BM.  She calls screaming at DH saying that all of her bad choices somehow are all his fault.  Its just a coping mechanism I guess, to blame others for your mistakes.  I hate it when people are so dependant, it reminds me of my mom.  Hopefully someday she will realize that her life wont get any better until she puts in the effort to make it that way, and that calling daddy everytime she messes up will not help her ever learn to be a grown up.  GL with that one!
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    Blaming others is just one of many coping skills my SD has.

    It's been real easy lately because DH deals with it all.  And I've developed a few of my own healthier coping skills. For the most part - I just do not take on their drama any more.  They are adults.  I have my own problems to deal with.  Had my own problems to deal with when I was their age.  I figured it out.  On my own.  They can too. 

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    Honestly, I don't know how you make it to noon without drinking.  Those kids would make me insane.
    This. Awaiting the next time she 'leaves' and wondering what approach she will take.
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    Ha!  That's easy. The exact same one she's always taken.

    Get into fight with boyfriend. Guilt daddy into rescuing her. Get lecture from daddy. Get mad and go stay at friend's house for a couple of days. Return to boyfriend.

    Rinse. And Repeat.

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