Can I vent? re: PP AF and BC question

lalaellac · December 2011

After I lost Ella, it took 14 weeks to get AF. I ended up going into the office, the OB did an us to verify I wasn't pregnant, did blood work and sent me home with a script for progesterone and that very afternoon AF started- what a vengeful beeotch, could have gone without having to go back into the office AND see my very empty ute on the screen. All I wanted every day of that 14 weeks was for AF to arrive so we could start to TTC again.

Two days ago, AF started. At first I thought maybe just some random PP bleeding, but I stopped bleeding 2 1/2-3 weeks ago and this is definitely AF bleeding. Seriously?! 5 weeks PP?! GRRRRRRRRR I was hoping for another few weeks with no bleeding. UGH. And, if AF stays regular like I was after last pregnancy, I'll start my next AF the day I go back to work. Double UGH!

I have my PP appointment Friday and I know the OB will bring up birth control. I don't want an IUD as I think we will start trying for baby #3 next summer, and in all honesty I don't want to be on ANY bc, but don't want to get pregnant again for a while. Any recommendations for something that worked for you that you liked? I was on BC for 8 years prior to getting pregnant with DD, was on a variety of BCP and ended on Yaz. I wasn't thrilled with any of them, I felt like they all made me have wild mood swings.

Thanks for letting me vent and thanks for any recommendations you have!

Amanda78 · December 2011

Boo for AF!

I have an IUD so I have no advice. I would have gone with condoms if DH wasn't comfortable with the IUD.

KCKSarah · December 2011

Blerg. Sorry its starting again so soon. No fun! Mine hasn't started yet, but now that kiddo is not BFing all the time and is eating more solids, I expect AF anytime now.

No recommendations on BC. I went with an IUD since we won't be trying again for a couple of years. Maybe you could look into the sponge?

Karen1998 · December 2011

I'm sorry. AF sucks. I'm in your club of early AF with BFing. It started here about 8w PP, less than 2w after I stopped bleeding from giving birth. I had to do 10 days of progesterone to get it started several months after my m/c and it starts on it's own within 50 days of giving birth. Nice, eh?

We went with condoms. I don't want to deal with the issues that come with hormonal BC and we're very consistent with using condoms, so that was our best choice. I also didn't want to have to deal with going off of BC three months before we started trying again or the chance that hormonal BC would affect my supply. I had a supply issue early on as I had a super grower, and I just am unwilling to add something to the pot that could hit my supply.

FWIW, my supply takes a real hit during AF. It usually drops 30-40%. However, it always comes back. I EP and I've tried pumping more and doing all of the usual tricks to up supply and none work. It's completely hormonal. So, your supply may take a hit too and you just have to come to terms with it as you can't do anything about it.

lalaellac · December 2011

RachaelA:

I'm sorry about AF! I'm sure mine will come soon too since I'm FF.

For BC, I'm just going to keep charting. We are going to start trying for #2 next Oct/Nov so I don't want to deal with getting an IUD for a short amount of time and I refuse to go back on any hormonal BC. We'll probably use condoms (if we have sex anytime soon. My vag still feels broken!) until I'm sure my cycle is back to normal (or to see what my new cycle is). My doctor is on board with me just continuing to chart.

are you temping when you chart? just wondering how that is affected with waking up multiple times a night with a baby. i've never really charted, just use fertility friend to note when AF comes and to mark BD while we were TTC.

lalaellac · December 2011

Karen1998:

I'm sorry. AF sucks. I'm in your club of early AF with BFing. It started here about 8w PP, less than 2w after I stopped bleeding from giving birth. I had to do 10 days of progesterone to get it started several months after my m/c and it starts on it's own within 50 days of giving birth. Nice, eh?

We went with condoms. I don't want to deal with the issues that come with hormonal BC and we're very consistent with using condoms, so that was our best choice. I also didn't want to have to deal with going off of BC three months before we started trying again or the chance that hormonal BC would affect my supply. I had a supply issue early on as I had a super grower, and I just am unwilling to add something to the pot that could hit my supply.

FWIW, my supply takes a real hit during AF. It usually drops 30-40%. However, it always comes back. I EP and I've tried pumping more and doing all of the usual tricks to up supply and none work. It's completely hormonal. So, your supply may take a hit too and you just have to come to terms with it as you can't do anything about it.

i only BF for 6 days, my milk never came in, so supply isn't really an issue at this point. I wish BF had worked, but nothing I can do about it. i also hate condoms, haven't used them in 9 years since DH and I started dating, but they might have to be our option unless we just do P&P!

sarahandeddiejune212008 · December 2011

We used BFing and pulling out. It worked until I got AF back. Now I'm pg after only 3 cycles. I would probably try FAM. It seems to work for most who are really strict about temping, checking CM, ext.

lalaellac · December 2011

RachaelA:
lalaellac:
RachaelA:

I'm sorry about AF! I'm sure mine will come soon too since I'm FF.

For BC, I'm just going to keep charting. We are going to start trying for #2 next Oct/Nov so I don't want to deal with getting an IUD for a short amount of time and I refuse to go back on any hormonal BC. We'll probably use condoms (if we have sex anytime soon. My vag still feels broken!) until I'm sure my cycle is back to normal (or to see what my new cycle is). My doctor is on board with me just continuing to chart.

are you temping when you chart? just wondering how that is affected with waking up multiple times a night with a baby. i've never really charted, just use fertility friend to note when AF comes and to mark BD while we were TTC.

Yeah I'm going to temp. I'm just going to have lots of open circles because I'll just temp when DD wakes up. She usually wakes up between 4:30 and 6:30 so it won't be too off (she only wakes up once a night and has STTN a couple times already). I always woke up to pee multiple times while TTC so I never fully got 3 hours of sleep and I could always still see a temp shift confirming that I Oed.

Can you tell Emmy to tell Charlie to STTN?! I would love to sleep til 4:30! We get up around 11, between 2-3 and then between 6-7 for the day. How much is she eating? I've been toying with the idea of increasing his feedings (currently 3oz at a time, usually every 2-4 hrs) to 4 ozs, but the few times I have he seems to spit up more, so I'm not sure if he's ready.

pepomntpat · December 2011

We do FAM and condoms. It worked for TTA for two years before we started TTC and it was great when we were TTC. Got PG cycle one with both pregnancies. It was a little hard to get into the swing of it with a baby, so we used more condoms at first, but now I am back into the swing of temping and check CM each day.

BobbiJanay07 · December 2011

I took the mini pill for 8 or 9 months after Ian. And then the shot for years before that. As for now we are using condoms, I tried the mini pill again and I was unhappy. So we are happily using condoms.

lalaellac · December 2011

RachaelA:
lalaellac:
RachaelA:
lalaellac:
RachaelA:

I'm sorry about AF! I'm sure mine will come soon too since I'm FF.

For BC, I'm just going to keep charting. We are going to start trying for #2 next Oct/Nov so I don't want to deal with getting an IUD for a short amount of time and I refuse to go back on any hormonal BC. We'll probably use condoms (if we have sex anytime soon. My vag still feels broken!) until I'm sure my cycle is back to normal (or to see what my new cycle is). My doctor is on board with me just continuing to chart.

are you temping when you chart? just wondering how that is affected with waking up multiple times a night with a baby. i've never really charted, just use fertility friend to note when AF comes and to mark BD while we were TTC.

Yeah I'm going to temp. I'm just going to have lots of open circles because I'll just temp when DD wakes up. She usually wakes up between 4:30 and 6:30 so it won't be too off (she only wakes up once a night and has STTN a couple times already). I always woke up to pee multiple times while TTC so I never fully got 3 hours of sleep and I could always still see a temp shift confirming that I Oed.

Can you tell Emmy to tell Charlie to STTN?! I would love to sleep til 4:30! We get up around 11, between 2-3 and then between 6-7 for the day. How much is she eating? I've been toying with the idea of increasing his feedings (currently 3oz at a time, usually every 2-4 hrs) to 4 ozs, but the few times I have he seems to spit up more, so I'm not sure if he's ready.

We're at 2.5 every 2 to 2 1/2 hrs during the day and 3 oz at night (before bed and the one feeding between 4:30 and 6:30. It took us awhile to get to the 3 oz because she was spitting it up a ton. She'll probably want the full 3 oz all day over the next couple of days.

Have you tried going from 3 to 3 1/2?

Haven't tried 3 1/2. I know I should, but its a pain to make 1/2 ozs, its easier to just feed him a little more frequently for now.

MrsAtch · December 2011

I had an IUD before my first pregnancy and I HATED it. Not going there again. I also don't want to be on hormonal BC so we will use condoms or P&P. We will start TTC #2 next fall so I don't want anything messing with my hormones or supply between now and then.

tew213 · December 2011

I also got what I think was AF 5w PP. However it only lasted a couple days so I am still unsure...

As far as BC, I had my PP appt. yesterday and honestly hadn't thought about until she asked. I decided to go with nothing. Since we've been married we used condoms or P&P. It worked for us. So I think we'll try that again, as we plan to TTC #2 possible end of the summer (jury's still out on that one!).

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