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Is your DH "into" Xmas?

MrsWhiteonWhiteStMrsWhiteonWhiteSt
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Mine is SO not. I try not to let it get me down. MIL makes sure to bring up every year she doesn't like Xmas so I think it's just how he was raised. I think Xmas was just a present grab on dec 25th. My family- we never had a lot of presents but we had so many awesome traditions that I am just obsessed with the season (not necessarily Xmas day- that's kinda chaotic). Decorating, the music, photos, cutting the tree, the cookies, xmas even dinner, seeing santa- I LOVE it all. He won't even do outside lights- I've done them every year myself. He has never Xmas shopped or wrapped a gift. He grins and bears it for a lot but I could tell he was annoyed yesterday cutting the tree with 3 kids in the mud. It's not like he's crabby it's just that he's missing that excitement, ya know what I mean?

Is your DH into Xmas or is mine the only "grinch"?

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  • Irisheyes1247Irisheyes1247 member
    DH couldn't wait to get the lights on the house, but I think the rest of it is kind of just a "hassle." Like, he did some Christmas shopping for his family, but he isn't really into the music and the decorations and baking cookies and things. He lets me get into it though, it isn't like he hates it, he just doesn't really mind either way. The lights tho - he thinks he is Clark Griswald and keeps trying to think of things to add on. We'll drive past a house all done up and he is like,  "Now THAT is what I'm talking about!"
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  • JenJarJenJar
    I think mine got into Christmas after realizing I'd always make a big deal out of it.  I can remember for a few years after we moved in together him making such a fuss when I wanted to decorate.  Now, he's the one that brings it up first usually.  He loves decorating with me, and loves buying for the kids (too much...I say we're done and he wants to go buy more!)  I always made buckeyes with my friends every year at Christmas time, and now that we're so far from friends and family, he makes them with me each year.  I'm glad he's into it...it would make the holidays really depressing if we were so far from family AND he wasn't in a good mood!
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  • missyjgmissyjg member
    DH is very similar to yours. His upbringing wasn't all the Christmas Traditions that I was used to. It was more adult holiday gatherings and then Christmas was tons of presents. When he thinks back to childhood, Christmas to him was gifts, Christmas to me was cookies, decorating, TV specials, sleigh rides and christmas carols. I think that's the difference. DH was against real trees, doing any of the fun traditional stuff and decorating. But since DD was born, he's come around. Last year she was a bit young, but this year I put up lights outside and he actually said "that's so cool" when he heard B squeeling and pointing with delight at the simple lights we put outside. I don't think I'll ever get him to decorate but he's coming around:) He even asked me if he could go shopping for some of B's presents. Hey it's a start.

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  • wendyjwendyj member

    I think he was OK with Christmas before me, but has really started getting into it since we've been together. He can't wait to get the tree up after Thanksgiving, and likes to go Christmas shopping, those he's one of those Christmas Eve shopping guys. And of course, he can't wait until I start baking so that he can sample everything! He was all for taking Ian to see Santa, and can't wait to see Ian's face on Christmas morning. We don't do lights on the house, but he has threatened to go Clark W. Griswold on me one of these years. Yeah, I think he's into it.

    MrsWhite - I'm sorry your DH doesn't quite get what it's all about. Hopefully one day it will dawn on him what a fun family experience the season can be.

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  • TinaL99TinaL99 member

    DH is definitely into Christmas.  Besides going all out on gifts every year for our families, he puts our lights up each year and puts the lights on the tree.  This year he went crazy and hung some decorations from the drop ceiling in our basement and added a few extra deocrations around the tree.  I think it makes him even more excited b/c of Stella and her excitement. 

    I'm sorry MrWhite is a "grinch" about Christmas.  Hopefully he'll come around eventually!

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  • jewelsonujewelsonu
    He loves it as much as I do.  I can't wait to get the lights up and he will decorate while I am at work.  He is excited for the traditions we are going to do with the kids. I am really lucky.  I think we also feed off of each other b/c we both like it it makes the other one more excited
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  • BelhurstBrideBelhurstBride member

    DH has always been pretty whiny about the work that goes into decorating but loves it when it's done. He's never refused to do something, but isn't the first one to suggest going outside and hanging lights. My parents were always pretty over the top with the decorating and I don't think he grew up with that same experience.

    This year he was so excited about decorating the new house so it wasn't as bad. Plus he was more on entertaining-the-toddler duty than anything else, so that helped. 

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  • octoberbridesruleoctoberbridesrule member

    Yes, he is. I'm more like the grinchy one.

    Christmas was never my favorite holiday because my mom would host for 30+ people and be stressed out. I don't know if I will even have the tree up before the baby comes.

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  • dle927dle927 member

    My Dh grew up not celebrating Christmas until he was 15 years old so his Christmas wasn't routed in tradition, or really even gifts from his family.   When he was older he always volunteered to work the Christmas and Christmas Eve shift because his family didn't really even get together.  I didn't know he didn't celebrate Christmas until 2 years or so after we started dating (another weird story - he didn't tell me because my family is REALLY into it) so the first Christmas tree he ever put up was mine....he just acted like he knew what he was doing.

    Once we started dating, he started to like/appreciate Christmas.  It's no where near the level of my family still but things certainly were ramped up once we had C.  Now he helps pick out ornaments for our tree when we go on vacation & helps pick out the kids gifts, etc.  I do understand he doesn't have the history with the holiday that most of us do so I cut him a little slack but I basically think, once we got married he was required to amp it up.  We're slowly working on it. 

     

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  • jnk062602jnk062602
    Nope!  In fact, just this morning he told me we should skip putting up the tree and decorations.  Umm, no way with a 2 yr old, she will love it
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  • battybtagsbattybtags
    He's into it! I do most of the shopping and wrapping, but he does a little here and there. As far as decorating, the tree, etc....he's all about it. He had Xmas music queued up on Turkey day and plays it non-stop when we're home! 
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