Pregnant after 35

Goodbye :(

I may delete this later. I was supposed to be 13 weeks yesterday by ultrasound age estimate. We had our nt last week and things looked great. But yesterday I felt a bit off all day like I was coming down with the flu. I started spotting a little bit of bright red blood last night. I called the after hours number and the on said it was likely nothing but to come in for ultrasound this am.

I kept staring at the screen during the ultrasound looking for any sign of the fluttering heartbeat or crazy moves we saw at the nt scan last week. I knew. I knew. But I was hoping I didn't understand what I saw seeing.

The tech began I'm sorry and I bursted into tears. A d and c is scheduled for the am.

Ladies rub yyour bellies and hug your babies for me. I don't post much but you all are a wonderful group of ladies. I wish you happy and healthy nine months.

I am trying to remember I'm lucky. I have a 19 month old daughter who is the light of my life.  Sorry to ramble.

Re: Goodbye :(

  • I am so very sorry. M/c's are awful, I can't imagine going through that at 13 weeks. I'm really so sorry.
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  • I'm so sorry you have to go through this.  ((Hugs))


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  • I am so sorry for your loss. 
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  • Hugs for you. Getting this far makes saying goodbye so hard, especially after seeing the u/s last week. I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Please take care of you and do whatever you need. 
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  • I am so very sorry.  Thoughts and prayers your way. 
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  • I am sorry for your loss (HUGS)
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  • I am so sorry... T&P's to you and your family.
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  • ((((hugs)))) and ((((more hugs))))

    I am so sincerely sorry for your news.  I'm glad you had the chance to see your little one's heartbeat and moves earlier, and that even at that stage you were the perfect mother for that little baby.  May you find solace in your grief and rest in your 19mo's hugs. 

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  • Oh Java, I'm so sorry. 
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss.
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  • I am very sorry for your loss.  My thoughts & prayers are with you in this time of sorrow.
  • (((Hugs)))  I am so sorry for your loss!
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    5/11 Femara-Bravelle-Ovidrel-IUI#2-progesterone=BFN.
    6/11 Femara-Ovidrel-IUI#3-progesterone=BFP!
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  • ((hugs)) I am so sorry
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  • I am so sorry for your loss ((hugs)).

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  • I am so very sorry for your loss.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.  Hugs to you!!
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  • I am very sorry for you. I have been there we lost a girl a year ago at 14 weeks. I found out at my monthly check up. I know it is devastating and words can't always help. Big hugs!!!!It does get better and maybe someday you can try again, if you want.Happy
  • So sorry for your loss.. my stepdaughter was pregnant with me and she too lost her baby at 13 weeks ( 2 weeks ago).  She started spotting after sex and we didnt think it was a huge deal.. but they went in for a checkup and they couldn't find a heartbeat either... and they told her and her fiancee the baby stopped growing at 9 weeks. 

    It was hard, they were due their first U/S within 3 days, so the first time they got to see the baby was bitter sweet ..and she also had to have a d & c.  I lost a pregnancy at the start of the year too, but it was very early and less traumatic.

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  • Thank you everyone for your kind words. They were vary comforting particularly since we hadn't told many people about the pregnancy. I had the d&c today -- well actually they said it was a d &e because of gestational age. It could be the morphine talking but I feel better than expected.

    I will be lurking to look in on you guys from time to time. I saw the BFP and heartbeat posts above and  I was very happy to hear the good news. I love hearing about AMA babies. 

  • I'm glad you feel better, my step D said she was shocked/surprised at how quickly her body recovered afterwards as she'd been in a lot of pain just before.  Now you just need time for everything else to heal ..

    Hugz don't give up believing.  I never thought I'd be where I am right now.
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  • My thoughts and prayers are with you and I'm deeply sorry for your loss!

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  • I am so sorry you are going through this, I too don't post much but find so much comfort and support in reading the posts on this board. I am 39 and went for my first u/s at 8w on Monday. There was a hb but the baby is measuring at 6w. My Dr is not optimistic but I go back on Tuesday to see if lo has grown any. If not, I'm looking at a D&C unless I miscarry before then. I know the pain and I'm so sorry that so many of us have to endure this. I want so badly to give DS a sibling but I fear I am running out of time. Hug your little one, I know that's the only one that keeps me going right now. Lots of hugs and prayers your way!

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