Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
marissa422
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Re: 32 weeks and delivering soon; advice? personal experience?
I was in your position with my boys and we were able to delay delivery for 8 weeks (went into labour at 25 weeks, delivered at 33). I hope that you can make it as long as possible.
That said, you are in a great position. I was always told that 32 weeks is a "magic" number in terms of the baby's development. Add to that the fact that you have had the steroid shots and I think every thing will be fine. Have you talked to the neonatologists? When I was finally in full blown unstoppable labour, a neonatologist came in to tell me what to expect. I was told that babies born at 33 weeks generally have minimal complications and exceptional long term prognosis. That made me feel a lot better.
I think it is important to keep repeating to yourself that you have done everything you can do.
Please keep us posted!
Thank you! How long did your boys have to stay in the NICU? Yes someone did come in and talk to me, it was reassuring when she said i shouldnt expect worse than what happend with my first which made me feel good being that she did so well.
I have a very positive attitude about everything which is good since i know some people have a much harder time with it, but the way i look at it is there is no sense in getting upset or worked up about something thats not in our control. everything happens for a reason so i know it will all work out
thanks for sharing, glad to hear your son is doing well! prayers sent your way
I will join that group for sure, thanks for the recommendation!!
They were in the NICU for two weeks and had uneventful stays. The main issue we had was feeding and growing (other than one of my guys going on and off CPAP a couple of times)
wow thats fantastic
how much did they weigh at birth?? ya know something i forgot to ask was if they require babies to be atleast 5lbs before they go home...i know that that rule has changed in some places...im under the impression that as long as they are gaining weight that it doesnt really matter..
My DD was born at 33w 4d due to pre-e. I came into the hospital at 33w 3d because my blood pressure was through the roof, plus I had gained about 20lbs in two weeks, all signs of pre-e. I got one steroid shot for DD before my water broke over night (not sure if my water breaking was due to mag. salfate or if it was ptl). Anyway, my DD spent 3 days on CPAP, 3 days with IV in, 3 days under the bili lights for jaudice. By the end of 12 day stay she mainly a feeder/grower. She was born weighting 4lbs 10.5 oz, 18.5 inches long. She is now a healthy and happy two year old.
Praying that you can keep your LO cooking as long as possible. Please keep us posted.