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Hi. My name is Mominator, and I have an eating problem.
I am so disappointed in myself. I admit, I am a stress eater. I was overweight the majority of the time that I was married and as my marriage came to end, my weight ballooned. I was finally at a point in my life where I was getting over the marriage, the ex was leaving me alone and I was happy. When happy, I managed to lose over 100lbs. And then the stress came back. Work stuff. ExH stuff. Kids stuff. Money stuff. Next thing you know, it is 5 months later and I've gained back 35lbs. I am disgusted with myself. I am disappointed in myself.
Today is a new day. I am jumping back on the wagon even if I break both ankles in the process. I can no longer let food control me, I need to control the food that I put into my mouth. Honestly, I really think that I need therapy.
Ridley Run 3.1 - 4/9/11 - 34:24 - 1st race evah!
Kelly Monaghan's 5K - 5/15/11 - 3rd Place in AG
Walk the Talk 5K - 5/18/11 - 31:12 PR
Ridley Run 3.1 - 4/14/12 - 1st race of the year, 32:45
Kelly Monaghan's 5K - 5/15/11 - 3rd Place in AG
Walk the Talk 5K - 5/18/11 - 31:12 PR
Ridley Run 3.1 - 4/14/12 - 1st race of the year, 32:45
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Re: Hi. My name is Mominator, and I have an eating problem.
(((hugs))).
I stress eat too. It's so hard to turn it off, but you've already done the hardest part by losing so much weight. You KNOW you can do it. Just treat each day as a new day. Don't dwell on how bad you were yesterday, but instead think about how you'll do better today.
Oh big hugs to you. I understand, I truly do.
I lost 90 pounds about 8 years ago (I was overweight my whole life). I got down to a super healthy and perfect weight for me. Then I got married, had a baby.. baby is now 5 years old, and I never lost that pregnancy weight. All in all, I regained 40 of the pounds I lost and bounce between losing 10, gaining the 10, losing the 10, gaining the 10- terrible. I'm stuck here.
Losing weight is such a mental battle, and a true hard one. I say every week I'm gonna "restart" and then I eat a snickers bar. ::rolls eyes:: it's so freaking hard.
::hugs:: you can DO it!
(((hugs))) Life happens and we all deal with it in different ways.
I too lost a lot of weight and after two kids I gained quite a bit back - so I know how shiity it feels. Today IS a new day - great attitude to have. You can do it and don't get too down on yourself.
I stress eat too. And it's hard when you know you can lose the weight and it doesn't happen.
It's like you said... it's a new day. Start from here. You know what you need to do. Don't beat yourself up over the past. Move forward from here!
You're not alone in this. Every day, every meal, every time I think about it, I have to give myself a mental pep talk. I also have to ask myself if I'm really hungry, or am I just bored/stressed/emotional/etc.
Have you read anything by Geneen Roth? I've only ready one (Women, Food, and God) but have a few others sitting on my shelf waiting for me to pick them up. She's very down to earth about a woman's struggle with food. I definitely recommend picking up a book or two from her.
Seeing a counselor is probably a good start, too! I look forward to seeing mine.
You definitely aren't alone. I'm going to sound like a holy roller or something (and I'm SO not) but I was at a ladies breakfast this weekend at my friend's church (I like going every year because I get out of the house for a few hours, eat a yummy breakfast, chat with girlfriends, hear an inspiring speaker - even though I'm not Baptist - and do a little shopping afterwards!) and one of the speakers recommended this book Made to Crave
https://www.amazon.com/Made-Crave-Satisfying-Deepest-Desire/dp/031029326X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1323098711&sr=8-1
I thought it sounded interesting and made a mental note to check it out sometime. Then I saw your post this morning
I just read the description on amazon and it sounds promising! Good luck - you CAN do it!
You are not alone. I've been the same weight (within 10lbs up and down, up and down) since 6 weeks after DS2 was born.
That is anywhere from 15-25lbs over my 'normal' weight. Blech!
I keep mentally yelling at myself ("You're going the wrong way!!!!" <Planes, Trains and Automobiles>). So far, that is not working. Nor is wishing it away.
I don't have any suggestions, just wanted to let you know you are not alone.
(((HUGS)))
I think you should look at it like quitting smoking. You need to replace that time with something else a little at a time. When you want to eat, go for a walk, clean the bathroom, clean the windows... anything really. When you're stressed, try to put your energy into something more useful.
Totally easier said than done, but once you learn a new coping mechanism, you'll be fine.
I used to stress eat. Now I clean. I clean like a freaking mad woman which is only part of the reason why my house is so spotless right now.
OR just like a smoker, make yourself only buy what you're really not interested in. When I tried to quit, I bought the nastiest cigarettes. I didn't smoke them. Buy, rice cakes or carrot sticks or whatever. Sounds silly, but everytime you turn down the aisle for junk, tell yourself that's not you anymore.