Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Lisamarie913
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Re: breech. again.
have you tried the exercises on the spinningbabies.com website as well? This site talks about breech babies
https://spinningbabies.com/baby-positions/breech-bottoms-up/about-breech
Thanks both of you for your suggestions! I tried the positions to do on spinningbabies.com for DD and it never worked, but who knows with this one! I had the version done as well which was unsuccessfulwith DD. I asked the dr if they could try with this one and she said there is too much risk involved and they wouldn't do it after a c/s. I will definitely research the chiropractor!
Thanks for your suggestions!
DS also went breech at around 30 weeks. I started seeing a chiropractor (specialized in pre-natal and Webster) twice a week. I had another u/s at 32 weeks, and DS had gone back to head-down. I continued seeing the chiro 1-2 times a week until I delivered and did the positions recommended on spinning babies, and DS stayed head-down. Have you considered seeing one? I was able to get a discount by paying in advance, and my insurance reimbursed me for some of the costs after I filed with the claims with them. FX you can get him back to head-down asap!
FWIW, I have always been told that breech positioning is not likely to repeat itself. It's possible but not a 100% certainty.
~Sweet Girl *8/18/08* c-section ~ Sweet Boy *12/2/10* VBAC ~ Sweet Boy *8/14/12* VBAC~
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This is my fear too. My baby was head down at 27 weeks, but it feels like his head is up now... I'm having an ultrasound tomorrow with my perinatologist to check my cervical length, so I'm going to ask if the baby is breech... With my son, I felt his head right under my right ribcage around 28 weeks, and then his hip got stuck between my pelvic bones, so he stayed breech. My previous ob didn't even try to turn him because of it, and also because of preterm labor. My current ob says she is not worried until 32 weeks or so, but I'm very anxious. I'm definitely going to go to see my acupuncturist if the baby is breech tomorrow.
Proud mother of two breech babies:)
My older son turned breech at 39 weeks, which was the reason for my c/s. My younger son was breech until 36 weeks. I started seeing a chiropractor around 30 weeks. She did the webster technique. I spent a ton of time in the pool and did a bunch of the spinning babies web-sites.
As far as a version, I don't have the research anymore, but a version is NOT contraindicated for a prior c/s mom. If your doctor won't perform one, ask for a referral to someone who will. My doctor doesn't do versions (because he isn't good at them. Said he's never once been able to turn a baby) but he referred me to a doctor who does them. Fortunately DS2 turned head down before I needed the version, but it was nice to know the option was available.
I know how stressful this can be. Good luck!
So I had an ultrasound today at my perinatologist. Everything is good, thank goodness, but my baby is breech now. Ha! I knew it! I can feel the baby's head right under my left rib cage. I called my acupuncturist, and she told me to call her if the baby is breech at 32 weeks. Keeping my fingers crossed...
Proud mother of two breech babies:)
There are at least 4, albeit small, studies that show ECV is safe in VBAC candidates. If your uterus wouldn't hold up to the ECV, chances are it won't hold up in labor! I'd be grateful to have a problem then (if I had to have a problem), since you will be in/near L&D and they will monitor you and be ready for a c-section.