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I can't watch Birthing shows on TV anymore

Ever since Mason was born via an unscheduled c-section I can't watch a baby story or one born every minute.  I used to love those shows, watched them all the time.  But now when I see them it makes me wish I could have a do over and try harder to push him out instead of a c-section.  

Yes, my c-section was necessary and I realize that.  His head was tilted and got stuck on my pelvic bone.  I pushed for 4 hours and while my doctor was willing to let me keep going  he didn't think it would work.   But it still makes me sad and I can't wait to get pregnant again so I can hopefully experience a vaginal birth. 

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Mason James 
July 23, 2011



Baby Girl Due June 9, 2015

Re: I can't watch Birthing shows on TV anymore

  • I totally understand...I went through pretty much the same thing.

    With me, my little one's heart rate went down, and since I had a midwife she told me to take a break. I didn't want to because I could even feel my baby's head if I reached down...but I took the break. It took only 20 minutes for him to go all the way back up the birth canal, then he got stuck! I had to go for a cesarean because he couldn't be turned.

     And I even had to stop watching birth shows as well. I get all miserable and upset. I wish I could have delivered naturally as well, but in the end, we both survived. That's the most important thing. 

    I hope you get to experience a natural birth just as much as I wish I can experience my own one day. :) And maybe we can finally watch those shows again! Haha, I mean it!

    Happy Trails :) 

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  • I had a rather traumatic experience with my previous Emergency CS. so yeah, I get your reservations. I couldnt watch those shows this time around at all. I wanted to cry several times while watching "the business of being born." and the other day, we were watching a movie(dont remember what) but a lady was in labor and I had to leave the room.

    Going VBAC this time. Wish me luck!

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  • I think it took me until I got pregnant with #2 to watch them again with some hope.  I had a c/s, but I feel like mine was unnecessary, so it's not like I feel it was at least for the health of my baby or anything like that. 
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  • I can't watch them either - I end up crying the whole time! (not for the same reason though) I never even thought of having a vaginal birth - not with three!  I find I want to watch super nanny or nanny 911 now!
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  • I am right there with you. Hunter was born via unscheduled c section too. I had been pushing for like 3 hours with no pain meds and he would not come out. He was sunny side up and stuck on my pelvic arch. He had a line across his forehead from where his head was hitting my pelvis.

    I used to live for the baby shows, wathced all of them all day long throughout my pregnancy. But now I just get mad at all the women who have these "perfect" births. My c section was medically necessary, LO might not be here without it. His heartrate had dropped, from incision to birth it was 3 minutes. It still makes me sad though. I so badly wanted a natural delivery. I am happy we are both here and healthy, now.

    But baby shows are a no-go these days. I just can't anymore.

  • I was thinking about posting this myself!

    I can't watch them either.   I had an unscheduled c-section  after being on pitocin for 30 minutes (induced early because of PIH).  I never went into labor.   DS had five heart rate decelerations in the thirty minutes.   I know my c-section was necessary, but doesn't stop me from feeling disappointed with my birth experience. 

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  • I went through the same thing.  It took me a while to realize my c section was necessary too.  DD was breech, but small. 

     But, i would torture myself and watch them, and I found myself wishing bad things on people, I was in a very dark place.  But 8 months later, and I am doing much better.  I was happy to see the 2nd season of One Born Every Minute had started.  While I am going to do everything in my power to VBAC, I have accepted that it is very luckily I could have a rcs.  I am O.K. with this, as long as I get to stay awake.  And I want a mirror.

  • I can't either. I will only have rcs
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  • I have a hard time watching them too and if I am able to get pg again I will most likely end up with a rcs.

    P.S. You have great taste in names. My son is Mason James too!

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  • I like the ones where they have c-sections because they are familiar to me and I remember seeing my boys for the first time. It doesn't bother me to watch the other ones but it used to a little.  I have never and will never have a vaginal birth so I just can't relate to them. I was angry for a long time about my first c-section but I moved past that and chose one the second time.
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  • I went through that, too. I'm one and done, so that only intensified this. I came to terms during the third tri. Breech baby who refused to budge decided for me his delivery method. I was just happy to have a healthy baby at that point and everything happened so fast with my emergency c-section that I didn't have time to process major surgery. This was the first time I was ever in an OR or hospitalized in my life. Talk about scary and unprepared. The anxiety hit me a few hours after my section realizing what just happened.

    I never went into labor since LO was so high up in my ribs that he never set the 'wheels in motion' so to speak. Some people say I was fortunate to skip over that part, but still feel like I missed out on birthing my son myself. My son is almost a year old, so I must move on from those feelings. He is a happy little boy and almost quadrupled his birth weight. He came a long way from being as small as he was.

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  • I can't either.

     I feel like I have come to terms with ending up with a c-section but I have not fully comes to terms with being under general anasethsia and missing my son's birth. I feel a lot of bitterness and sadness when I see the experience mother's have seeing their child being born. Some day I will be able to watch them again though! Just not now.

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  • I am thankful for my c-section and healthy baby, of course, but I feel the same way. 
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  • I torture myself and still watch them.  Recently there have been a string of first-time mom inductions where the doctor comes in and is like, "well you've been at 7 cm for an hour, looks like it's time for a c-section!" and I just want to grab her and say, "No!!!!!"  That's more or less what happened to me, and it just makes me so, so, angry to watch. 
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  • I can't either. For me, DS was rushed to the NICU so I literally had a single glimpse of him for 12 hours. He was full term and I had a great pregnancy so I was completely unprepared for that. I'm still not sure if it's so much the birth itself that I can't watch or the moment where the baby is held against the mother. That's the lost moment I mourn, despite having a healthy, beautiful boy today. More than 2 years later and I still have no desire to watch a birth show.
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  • I have a hard time watching them also. I can never have a vaginal birth because I'm too narrow. My ob has said that even if DD had been 3 lbs, I would not have been able to push her out.

     I had a scheduled c/s. I was able to see DD for the first 15 minutes. While I was recovering and they were trying to locate a room for me to move to out of recovery, I was separated from DD for almost 5 hours. That's the part that is heartbreaking for me. Not being able to hold her as soon as she came out or even keep her near me.

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