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missyjg
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What are your feelings on bullying
missyjg
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B/c I have to go to a memorial/candlelight service for a 14 y/o who was relentlessly bullyed at school and took her own life. Is it really that much worse then when we were in school? I just wish kids didn't feel like this was the only way out. My heart breaks for this family. So sad...
TTC since 6/2003. m/c 9/14/03 8 weeks, 5 chemical pregnancies, mmc 6/04 12 weeks, Michael born sleeping 5/25/05 at 22weeks always our angel, fought ovarian cancer and won, m/c 4/06 5.2 weeks and 7/07 6.6 weeks,Our Miracle baby girl born 4/8/10,mc 12/18/11 at 5.3 weeks, BFP 10/26/12 dating u/s on 11/8/12 showing a strong heartbeat!EDD July 4,2013. RCS on 6/27. Baby boy in NICU for 8 long and scary days before he was able to come home. We are now a happy family of 4
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Re: What are your feelings on bullying
It's probably not worse - it's just easier and there are more avenues to do it - like facebook. So so so so sad. One of the old partners at my DH's firm had a teenage son that ended his life and my DH said you can tell that it affected him every.single.day...even like 40 years later. I can't imagine.
OMG! I did not hear about that. That's AWFUL and disgusting! I'm going with a friend for emotional support since she was very close with the family.
I don't know much of what happened but just that it's horribly sad.
TTC since 6/2003. m/c 9/14/03 8 weeks, 5 chemical pregnancies, mmc 6/04 12 weeks, Michael born sleeping 5/25/05 at 22weeks always our angel, fought ovarian cancer and won, m/c 4/06 5.2 weeks and 7/07 6.6 weeks,Our Miracle baby girl born 4/8/10,mc 12/18/11 at 5.3 weeks, BFP 10/26/12 dating u/s on 11/8/12 showing a strong heartbeat!EDD July 4,2013. RCS on 6/27. Baby boy in NICU for 8 long and scary days before he was able to come home. We are now a happy family of 4
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This breaks my heart, all I saw on the news is that she died suddenly and they were investigating social media sites for clues. That makes sense now. I agree that there has always been bullying, and probably always will be, as long as there are kids who are insecure enough to torment others. It is just so much easier now, since everyone is "connected" 24/7 through the internet and text messaging, etc.
The world has changed so much, it terrifies me to think of what it will be like when our kids are in HS.
I agree that there are more outlets for the bullying to occur than before. I also wonder how much parent involvement affects things, too. Like, if parents allow their kids to be on Facebook or whatever for hours on end each night without monitoring what is going on, who they're talking to, etc. and not know if their child is the target or the aggresser - how much could incidents be reduced?
It is so hard to hear that a teenager takes their own life because they believe there's no other way out. I feel like I'm going to be a hypervigilant parent to Ian because of the things I see around work everyday.
I agree that there are so many more venues for the bullying to occur these days with social media. This story is so sad.
I have a friend here in the Albany area who is dealing with her kids being bullied on the bus. They have been bit, hit, kicked, etc and the social worker and school psychologist both said that her kids need to "develop a backbone because they aren't assertive enough". Ok, let's blame the victims. It makes me so mad to know that the people who are supposed to be protecting children are just making the problem worse.
It bothers me to no end. I agree with social media, phones, texting. It's so easy to stalk someone. Kids make FB pages for other kids just to make fun of them, hack into their accounts, make hate blogs. It's really awful.
I feel strongly about LO not having a social media account when she is of age, nor a texting plan when/if we get her a phone. I feel like if a parent can control some of this then they should. Sadly so many parents let their kids do whatever they want on computers and cell phones.
Clearly if LO creates a social media account behind our backs all hell will break loose. I think that is the other difference is that I don't see kids getting grounded anymore for bad behavior. WTH? Your kid screws up, punish them so they learn. If you don't they will learn what they can get away with and how to work their parents. I do not want to be worked over by my kid. I feel a parent of a teen always has to be on the offensive and look for these things.
This is what I think as well...it seems to be more widespread in who it is told to. It breaks my heart when I hear about anyone being bullied, especially when it affects kids to the point that they feel that they need to take their life.
I went to a very small school (less than 100 people in our 1994 graduating class) and 2 kids committed suicide while I was in high school. Looking back, I know that at least one of them was bullied pretty bad. Nobody every talked about why it happened.
It's the same remarks being made...but social media has widened the audience of who hears that remark and who laughs/joins in. You used to be able to get away from it at home and on the weekends...and now facebook follows you 24-7.
Well here's the problem - just by blocking your own kid from accessing these things at home...bullying can still occur and who knows, maybe even become worse because they aren't not with the "in" crowd texting and all that. All that stuff could be going on but there would be no way for you to know about it- until their friends show them at their house or whatever. I think a better solution is to set rules and limits and make sure they have things to do other than sit in front of a computer or text all day/night. I think the most important thing to do is make sure they find their niche in life - whether it's sports or dance or music or history...and create a group of friends to confide in. All of these teens have NO friends at all. It's not like they were just a math geek or something...they are always complete loners.