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I feel like a bad mom

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I am depressed lately because I feel like a bad mom. My LO seems more fussy and cries more compared to all the other babies at the early childhood centre we go to. I am worried he's taking on my personality trait (specifically, depression). I know he's very young but I worry about this constantly..him inheriting depression from me.

He doesn't yet sleep through the night either (is up every 1-2 hours just to suckle on my boob). I can't bring myself to let him 'cry it out'. I'm worried I'm going to make him too dependent on me and feel i'm overprotecting him for not wanting him to cry it out to go to bed.

Sorry if this doesnt make sense, I am tired. He's just over 4 months and has been waking every 1-2 hrs since a few wks old.

Just a vent but any advice would be appreciated. thx

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Re: I feel like a bad mom

  • bebebear2011bebebear2011

    I find it amazing that you just posted this--I was just sitting on my sofa, with my 19week old on my lap looking at him and bawling my eyes out thinking of how badly i feel that this smiley little baby may one day feel like me. Be depressed for no reason, like me. It makes me feel so bad.

     

    thanks for posting. 

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  • Kristine SchillingKristine Schilling

    To both OP and PP:

    first off... yes depression can be hereditary. My grandmother, my aunt, my mother, my sister and I have all had to battle with Depression and anxiety all our lives.

    HOWEVER... this is not something to be concerned about right now. Crying and fussyness at this young age are not indicators of future depression issues. It could be colic, hunger, a larger urge to communicate, tiredness, any number of things. Including you just being more sensitive to your LO's crying and not noticing the others.

    IMHO, 4 months is too young for a "cry it out" round anyway. But I am a major advocate of "no cry sleep solution" and attachment parenting. My DD didnt start slowing down on feeding until 5 or 6 months.

    Just make sure your LO is getting enough to eat, is held and loved, and make sure YOU get some free time regularly!! Both of you, please talk to your OB or PCP o.k.?

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  • SilentSymphonySilentSymphony member
    Im right there with you guys! I feel terrible because I've been diagnosed with Major Depression for the past 4 years but it seemed better only because I was acting out. Now I'm 7 weeks PP and I'm terriified that my DD will become depressed and turn out like me :( Thought she only wakes up once during the night, shes starting to fight sleep in general now.... And I feel bad cuz I cant hold her all the time since Im home alone 20 out of 24 hours a day so I have to clean.... IDK what to o... :((((
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