TTC After a Loss
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Now I'm dreaming/hoping...
I do a lot of my thinking when I'm in the car driving to and from work. I saw a little boy with his dad at the bus stop and it instantly brought having a baby to my mind. Just last year I was thinking about TTC and knew it could take some time to get pregnant. I never knew I would struggle with keeping the baby. Now instead of thinking I will have a baby one day..I dream/hope I will have a baby one day. My husband always says, "when we have a baby..." I always respond, "if we have a baby..." He tells me not to think that way. But honestly, there is no other way for me to think. *Sigh* Having a miscarriage takes out all the innocent feelings of pregnancy.
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Re: Now I'm dreaming/hoping...
It definitely does. But try not to give up hope. *hugs*
BFP #2 12-6-11 and 12-7-11; EDD 8-17-12. US 6w6d measuring 5w6d. Misoprostol Assisted m/c 1-16-12 at 9w3d.
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This is my biggest fear about actually getting pregnant, that I won't be able to be blissfully happy..but try to stay positive. Tell yourself "when" not "if". You can do it!! FX for you for better luck in the future.
It does...and I hate it! I agree with Max and your DH...try to keep positive thoughts!
BFP #1 and M/C 5/2011
BFP #2 7/1/2011, Blighted ovums officially diagnosed at 9w6d, D&C 8/19/2011.
BFP #3 12/7/2011, EDD 8/15/2012, Harper Lorelai born 8/09/12
BFP #1 2/24/11 EDD 10/21/11 Natural m/c at 8weeks 3/15/11
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BFP #2 on 2/10/12 - Little Nugget's EDD 10/23/12, Natural Miscarriage on 2/29/12
BFP #3 on 6/7/12 - BB's EDD 2/19/13, arrived 2/18/13!
This. Even the first go round, I was more terrified of the thought of a m/c than I was having a small human to take care of should the pregnancy go full term. Now that I've had my worst fear confirmed once, I'm nervous that I'm going to be a complete basket case next time! Since we had TTC issues getting the first BFP, I've said "if we have kids..." for the last few years. My DH always corrects me too.
Anyway, All I can say is GL and I hope you get your BFP soon!
After 7 years of no ovulation...
BFP#1 10/24/11 ~ EDD 6/29/12 ~ Natural m/c 11/2/11
BFP#2 2/3/12 ~ Alice born 9/26/12
I'm the same way, sadly about thinking "if we have a baby"...It sucks but sometimes after a loss that's just how we feel.
((Hugs)) to you. And for the record, I say keep on dreaming and hoping. It's better to be hopeful and optimistic than to always be down and negative.
I hope you get your sticky take home baby soon!
BFP Apr 2012, EDD Dec 19 2012 * twin h/b at 6wk, 9wk scan * Baby A lost at 12wks
Baby B was my rainbow born at 36wks on Nov 27 2012
BFP#1 10 wk missed mc
BFP#2 DS born at 40+2 on 8/14/12 BFP#3 DD Born at 39+3 on 5/13/14
Yes, I too say "if." I think that's very normal for us, because we have sadly learned that we are not in control of having a baby or not. RedRose, FX for a BFP and a sticky baby soon. I very much want it to be "when" and not "if" for you! I know it's hard, but success and a take home baby are in the future for most of us, and I hope you get yours soon!
Thank you so much ladies!
Living - That is a great way to look at things! :]