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What do you think his texts mean?

Crystal318Crystal318 member
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Short back story - My ex is a drug addict and due to recent events I am pretty sure that he sees a custody battle in his future.

In the mean time he has been sending some extremely out of character texts - he wants me to text him a picture of our son. He wants to tell our son that he loves him so so much. He wants to talk to him before he goes to bed. Last night I went to bed early and woke up to "I know you are drinking a glass of wine and either on the computer or watching TV, but either way I know you have your phone on you so why are you not responding to me"

He has NEVER called to say good night to LO or asked for a picture of him - EVER!!!

I feel like the texts can mean one of four things:

1 - He knows something is coming (a custody battle) and he is trying to make himself look good and me look bad - so he is sending these texts to have something to show in court. Which is why I think he specifically said he thinks I am drinking a glass of wine which was completely irrelevant.

2 -He is "trying" once again but pretty much he is just coming off as his manipulative self and all these texts will most likely be over with by next week. I am not falling for it this time.

3 - He is reaching for things to communicate about because he likes to keep tabs on me. He has always been a very jealous person.

4 - These texts are completely genuine (99.9% doubtful)

 Thoughts?

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Re: What do you think his texts mean?

  • JenniferTXJenniferTX
    I say #3.  Is he smart and calculated enought to think of #1?  Does he have an atty that would be advising him?  In my experience I just don't think guys that have been withdrawn and careless wise up enough to think this far in advance.  #2 I doubt because I think he would be asking more for things like lets all go to the zoo together or let me bring over dinner so you don't have to cook (things that would be more about you rather than about your son).  I think #3 because he's just reaching for anything to talk to you about and how are you really going to turn down him wanting to interact with his son.  I have the exact same thing going on as #3 except he insists on doing the face to face feature on the iphone and then comments on anything he sees in the background that is out of place or asks me if I've been drinking because of how I look etc.  If he calls your son he will know if you aren't at home or he can listen for the guy he probably thinks you are hiding in your closet.  :)
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  • mdotm0904mdotm0904 member

    trust your instincts. if you don't think he's being genuine, than more then likely he's not. but if i had to take a vote...i'm thinking number 1 & 3.

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  • Crystal318Crystal318 member

    imageJenniferTX:
    I say #3.  Is he smart and calculated enought to think of #1?  Does he have an atty that would be advising him?  In my experience I just don't think guys that have been withdrawn and careless wise up enough to think this far in advance.  #2 I doubt because I think he would be asking more for things like lets all go to the zoo together or let me bring over dinner so you don't have to cook (things that would be more about you rather than about your son).  I think #3 because he's just reaching for anything to talk to you about and how are you really going to turn down him wanting to interact with his son.  I have the exact same thing going on as #3 except he insists on doing the face to face feature on the iphone and then comments on anything he sees in the background that is out of place or asks me if I've been drinking because of how I look etc.  If he calls your son he will know if you aren't at home or he can listen for the guy he probably thinks you are hiding in your closet.  :)

    LOL - to the man hiding in the closet!  He even brougt up the other day that I am whore, slut, seeing someone else, etc. I said "when do I even have time???? Am I bringing LO on dates with me??  WTF??  He is so irrational. There is something wrong with his brain, I swear!!  (drugs - a key factor)

    I definitely dont think he, on his own, is smart and calculating enough for #1 and I know he doesnt have $$ for an attorney - however with the help of his family I think they could come up with the money and the calculations behind #1.

    I do agree with you about #3 and assume that is why he is asking for pictures.

     Also, I am sorry you are going through this too!  I know it is so hard and completely sucks!

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  • JCGreene85JCGreene85 member

    He's manipulating you. My ex does this. We don't communicate via text anymore unless it's an "I'm on the way" for visitation. I send him 1 weekly update (if I have anything to say). Other than that we don't communicate. If you ignore him hell back off. 

    You could set up a weekly email update so he can't say you're keeping LO away from him.  

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  • achase123achase123
    Not even a question, #3.  Ignore.
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  • Crystal318Crystal318 member

    Thanks Everyone. Just wanted to make sure I was not going crazy - as I have been lead to believe on occassion by my ex!

     I have just recently started documenting everything (within the past week). I have a calendar that I keep at work and everyday I come in and document the communication from the day before. That way I have it all just in case I ever need it.

     Thanks Ladies!  I am sure there will be many posts to follow!!  I know I am just getting started!

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