Donating Eggs?

Tellyb0228 · December 2011

Lets face it, times are hard. Money is tight. So, would you donate your eggs? Why or why not?

prncsstp · December 2011

I thought about it in college - I was even going to - except that they are VERY strict on Medical history, and since I have a very strong lineage of breast cancer in my family, I would not have qualified.

The only downside that freaked me out can be the same issue thats arising with men giving multiple sperm donations: What if your kid meets and falls in love with their half sibling?

mesr · December 2011

i'm 30 now, so i think no one would take me. plus my sickle cell trait might not be appealing to potential recipients.

but let's say someone really wanted my eggs... my big concern is my fear of needles. i guess if they paid me enough i'd do it.

kellymacc · December 2011

Yes - I wouldn't hesitate if someone asked and I have actually been thinking about being listed as a donor. We had fertility issues ourselves and ended up having to do IVF. We got to use my own eggs and DH's own sperm but not everyone is that lucky.

I've already gotten over my crazy fear of needles, and the surgery to retrieve the eggs really wasn't as bad as I thought it would be.

I just turned 30 (I was 28 when I had my done for IVF) so I don't know that there would be many takers now, but I wouldn't hesitate at all to do it again if a need arises. I think my only request would be that I have the doctor that saw me through our IVF cycle do the retrieval.

3Girls3xsTheFun · December 2011

No I would be a paid surrogate as long as my eggs weren't used, though. I can't stand the thought of my biological child being with strangers. I would feel a sense of responsibility. But I could definitely carry someone else's kid.

kellyloveszach · December 2011

I wouldn't do it for the money. It's a lot of work and if it's like IVF with stimming it's very painful if you get a lot of eggs. I am too old to donate. I think the max age is in your 20's, they prefer people to do it in their early 20's because the egg quality is best.

DH wants to donate our embryos, we have 5 on ice. There are so many considerations. I really like the idea of helping other infertile couples. However it is full blooded siblings of my children. What if they meet? Would I able to see a blond child and not think it might be mine? We have 2 more years to decide.

amypogg6 · December 2011

I would help someone if I was asked to donate an egg or be a surogate, but I wouldn't randomly donate eggs. It just seems too hard to know you have a child out there and you know nothing about them or anything. What happens if he/she had a really bad life? I would have added to that.

jkchs2003 · December 2011

Not to sound like a horrible person, but I couldn't do it. I couldn't handle the fact that a child of mine was out there somewhere and not under my care.

LaRue86 · December 2011

I *may* offer to be a surrogate. Very good friends of ours have major fertility issues. If we decided we are done after 2, we may offer. If we decide to have 3, we will have to consult with the doctor as I will always deliver by cesarean. It will really depend on the scar tissue and how my body has healed...

AlyciaandRich · December 2011

jkchs2003:
Not to sound like a horrible person, but I couldn't do it. I couldn't handle the fact that a child of mine was out there somewhere and not under my care.

I am the same. I don't think it makes you a horrible person, I mean a lot of men don't want to donate sperm and they get pain a lot less and don't have to go through any of the pain or side effects. I could not do it or be a surrogate. Well I would consider surrogacy if it was for family but I don't know if I could do it even then.

dicer2 · December 2011

I don't think I could donate my eggs. It would tear me apart not knowing what happened to them. The only exception would be if my sister needed them. I would do that in a second.

That being said, I think it is a wonderful thing for those who do choose to donate. One of my best friends recently became pregnant with donor eggs and it is the greatest miracle for her.

We have two on ice and we'll definitely give them both a try, so we won't have to decide what to do with them in the future.

just kita · December 2011

I have mixed feelings about it. I would rather my eggs be a living child with another loving family than just go to waste. I flunked out of a college once though, and my bmi is kind of high, and I'm already 30, so I don't think I'm a real candidate for it. I'd also be worried about judgement from my family, I would definitely consider it if someone wanted my eggs.

AlyciaandRich · December 2011

jkchs2003:
Not to sound like a horrible person, but I couldn't do it. I couldn't handle the fact that a child of mine was out there somewhere and not under my care.

I am the same. I don't think it makes you a horrible person, I mean a lot of men don't want to donate sperm and they get pain a lot less and don't have to go through any of the pain or side effects. I could not do it or be a surrogate. Well I would consider surrogacy if it was for family but I don't know if I could do it even then.

magnoliablossom00 · December 2011

dicer2:
I don't think I could donate my eggs. It would tear me apart not knowing what happened to them. The only exception would be if my sister needed them. I would do that in a second.
That being said, I think it is a wonderful thing for those who do choose to donate. One of my best friends recently became pregnant with donor eggs and it is the greatest miracle for her.
We have two on ice and we'll definitely give them both a try, so we won't have to decide what to do with them in the future.

This. I would offer my eggs to my sister or be a surrogate if she needed it. I might consider doing this for a very, very, intimate friend or family member also, but I could never "randomly" give away eggs. At the end of the day, that is your own biological child and I would have to know him or her.

MommaA117 · December 2011

Never. I just couldn't. Knowing that a part of me could be running around Without me there. It would be too much for me.

Dani0701 · December 2011

I thought about it when I was younger before our wedding to make some money. My brother's GF at the time was also doing it, but when I found out about all of the needles, I thought I'd just have to work overtime! LOL! I'm such a baby!

IdigDirt · December 2011

I have done it 3 times. One was an open donation and I am still in contact with the couple and I have met the babies. I am too lazy right now to write a long response but please feel free to page me with any questions at all. I don't know if I would do it again only because I feel 3 times is enough and I had to have surgery from the first one which ended up costing $4,000 because of my high deductible so the $5,000 was not really worth it. I have a friend looking to do it as a "career" so she can stay home which kind of skeeves me out but to each their own.

gymnst1013 · December 2011

Absolutely! Not for the money though. I know several people who have used donor eggs and it's such a huge gift to them. I would do it for that reason alone. But I'm too old

kimbo1216 · December 2011

Most likely not.

I used to think about it. I mentioned it to my friend who is a nurse practitioner. She gave me more details about it.

Yes. The money may seem good, but you earn ever. single. penny. You put your body through a lot in order for them to harvest your eggs. It's not a simple matter of signing up, going in and having them take them. From my understanding, you basically have to go through a lot treatments (as if you had infertility problems and were preparing for IVF).

It's just a lot on your body, and I just don't know if it would be worth it.

Spartanmama722 · December 2011

For my siblings, definitely. For DH's sister if she ever needed it, absolutely (she's the only girl in their family so there's no sister to do it for her). Anyone else, I doubt it. Like PPs have said, I think it would be hard to imagine a child out there that's half me that I have nothing to do with. But I also feel like having a child has been such an amazing miraculous experience that if one of the people I mentioned couldn't have children without it I would absolutely want to help to allow them to have that experience too.

SarahP15 · December 2011

Yes, I would. The money isn't that great when you consider all the appointments and time you spend doing it but knowing you were helping another couple have a baby would be extremely rewarding. I couldn't imagine not being able to have children of my own...or even struggling to get pregnant, and know that some people so desperately want children and it's not always possible.

With that said, a few years ago I went to the clinic and they concluded I had too many follicles and taking the hormones would increase the # to a dangerous # (I guess I'm not quite sure how it all works - this is just how they explained it to me.) So I didn't end up doing it. My family was VERY against it, saying the reasons stated above about having a child that's partly mine out there and never knowing him/her.

gymnst1013 · December 2011

kimbo1216:
Most likely not.
I used to think about it. I mentioned it to my friend who is a nurse practitioner. She gave me more details about it.
Yes. The money may seem good, but you earn ever. single. penny. You put your body through a lot in order for them to harvest your eggs. It's not a simple matter of signing up, going in and having them take them. From my understanding, you basically have to go through a lot treatments (as if you had infertility problems and were preparing for IVF).
It's just a lot on your body, and I just don't know if it would be worth it.

Yep, it's a ton to put yourself through. Invasive testing, multiple shots every day, daily or every other day blood draws and monitoring appointments, risk of hyperstimulation, etc.

IdigDirt · December 2011

gymnst1013:
kimbo1216:
Most likely not.
I used to think about it. I mentioned it to my friend who is a nurse practitioner. She gave me more details about it.
Yes. The money may seem good, but you earn ever. single. penny. You put your body through a lot in order for them to harvest your eggs. It's not a simple matter of signing up, going in and having them take them. From my understanding, you basically have to go through a lot treatments (as if you had infertility problems and were preparing for IVF).
It's just a lot on your body, and I just don't know if it would be worth it.
Yep, it's a ton to put yourself through. Invasive testing, multiple shots every day, daily or every other day blood draws and monitoring appointments, risk of hyperstimulation, etc.

This. I did work for every penny but it was so worth it when I saw the happiness of the men I donated to the first time and when I got a nice letter from the second couple.

photogirlchrissy · December 2011

I wouldn't donate eggs but I would be a surrogate and I might actually get the chance to be. My 25 year old sister had a hysterectomy a month ago. She has no kids of her own. I have offered to carry a baby for them. At this time, they are still just thinking about the offer. My only stipulation is that I have to have my second baby then I would be opening to carrying theirs.

runnergrl6675 · December 2011

No, I wouldn't do it. Maybe I'm cold and mean but I would always wonder what that baby was doing, etc and mentally it would be too hard for me. Plus, I'm 35 so my eggs are past their prime and no one would want them.

bunnymama625 · December 2011

I couldn't do the eggs, but I've always wanted to be a surrogate! (With someone else's eggs/sperm)

Sadly, I think b/c I'm already 32, and we want to have our kids first, I might be too old to be considered by the time I could do it.

There is no one in my family now with fertility issues, or I would totally offer.

I've also always wanted to be a foster mom for emergency cases- so maybe I'm just odd...

monkeysmama62 · December 2011

I totally but I wouldnt qualify because of my family history.

sunset+skies · December 2011

We don't even get paid to donate here in Canada (aside from medical costs being covered), and I would still do it if I had a clean medical background. However, because of my family and personal medical history, I would not feel comfortable passing on my genetics to someone I wasn't going to be raising, and couldn't support through any health issues that may arise.

Surrogacy, I would do in a heartbeat, if the egg belonged to someone else. That being said, I don't know if DH could handle watching me go through a pregnancy for someone else. I think his only exception would be my sister, who has PCOS and endometriosis, and may not be able to have her own kids.

Birdies08 · December 2011

I went through a most of the process to do it while in college, but it kept getting dragged out, and then I was getting married/starting a job and couldn't commit to taking the time off.

I would happily sign up to do it again, but I'm BFing right now and there'll probably only be a short time where I'm not BFing before we try for #2.

I have thought about being a surrogate once our family is complete, if they'll have me- I don't know what the age cut off is.

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