are you going team green again with baby # 2?
I loved not knowing and so did DH. As we get closer to our target TTC # 2 date, DD has expressed A LOT of interest in getting a baby sister, but definitely not a baby brother. We've tried to explain that you can't choose (and obviously, have made it very clear that we're not having a baby at all right now), have pointed out how much fun baby brothers can be, too, etc., but this does not seem to dissuade her. She even told me to consult with a friend of mine who recently had a baby girl. "She knows how to get a girl baby in her tummy," DD said!
It makes me think it might be better to know ahead of time and prepare DD. But maybe an extra 20 weeks wouldn't matter anyway if she doesn't get what she wants.
I have no reason to be pondering this right now except that DD just told me for the 900,000th time how much she wants a baby sister.
Re: if you were team green with baby # 1...
This was my DH & I. He was upset that we didn't find out, so I promised we would find out for any other children we may have. I would much rather not know- the surprise is so much fun!
This is huge topic in our house right now. We had our anatomy scan this week and are still team green. However it is SOOOOO much harder this time, I tried to peek and failed, and I didn't foresee DD having such a strong preference or wanting to know so bad. I think it would be nice to prepare her and didn't consider that before hand. Also, since this is our last baby I'm so much more curious about this final piece to our puzzle. The first time I was ambivalent but now I have a very concrete idea of what having a daughter is like and the thought of a boy makes quite nervous.
We stuck to our guns for a few reasons. The first is that DD so badly wants a sister and I do not want to spend the next 20 weeks dealing with her disappointment. The second is that finding out that she was a girl was the positive memory I have from my c-section. If this VBAC doesn't work out I would regret finding out now. And, not to sound selfish but, we give so much and sacrifice so much for our daughter that I'm just kind of not willing to short change my moment for her curiosity or ease of adjustment.
I am torn on this, and need to decide by my ultrasound in early January. My daughter is a little young to have a preference. She doesn't quite get the whole pregnancy concept, so I am not taking her needs into consideration.
Wanting to know the sex was great motivation for pushing as long as I did (almost 5hrs), but the way I found out was really anti-climatic. Before they whisked her away they presented her to me genitalia end first. She was so swollen, and I was so tired that I had no idea what I was or wasn't seeing. I wish they had just announced "It's a girl".
So I have no idea if we will find out or not.
We were team green with L, and we'll definitely be team green next time, too. There were lots of times I wished I knew what he was, but in the end I loved finding out in the delivery room. I agree with HarpersMom that that was the best part of my (also c-section) delivery.
Does she have any baby boy dolls? Maybe, as you get closer to ttc again, she could dote on a little boy doll and that might help in case #2 is a boy?
I just want to give you a world as beautiful as you are to me.
I just want to give you a world as beautiful as you are to me.
Ditto! I didn't even recognize you at first :-)
We were not team green either time, but DD was insistent that it was a girl prior to our anatomy scan. For weeks after we told her it was a boy she would argue with me and insist that it was NOT a baby brother, it was a baby sister! She was definitely not happy about it. But, she has adapted to the idea over time (although she now insists that she has a baby sister in HER belly). Of course, she's a lot younger than your DD, so it's hard for me to say what I would do in your shoes, but in our case I'd rather deal with the objections before the baby is here rather than after.
When we finally granted DD1 with the sibling she had been asking for every day she was so excited. We knew we wanted to find mostly because she always asked for a baby sister, and since we had adopted DD1 at 2 yrs old we didn't have any infant items in our house.
She did however say on the way to the anatomy scan "if we're having a boy can you give it back and try again?".
When my mom was pregnant with my baby sister, I said I wanted an older sister. She explained that's not how it works and I told her she could adopt one. I adjusted
We will be Team Green again for #2, but there will (hopefully, probably) be a #3, and I think we might find out then, just for a different experience and for knowing ahead of time what our complete family will look like. That's not 100% decided, but it's something we've talked about.
We were team green 2x. DD now expresses that she wants a baby sister and several times has said stuff like, can we trade baby DS for someone else's baby girl, or take someone's baby girl, etc., but she was thrilled when he came home.
My dad is an MD and I gave him access to view my first anatomy scan online and he thought DS was going to be a DD and TOLD my DD this, but my DD argued with him and thought all along that the baby was going to be a boy. Turns out she was right.
If we go for #3 I will be very tempted to find out, simply from the "purging of baby stuff" side of things.
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