- Pregnancy
- Baby & Toddler
- Parents
- Getting Pregnant
- Baby Names
- Product Reviews
-
Registry
- Community
-
More
Want a personalized experience?
Download the free app
Adoption
Michelle3081
member
Looking forward to adopting domestically!
Michelle3081
member
in Adoption
My husband and I are looking to build our family through domestic adoption in the state of Wisconsin. We've researched many adoption agencies and found that they are all very similar. One thing that we found was that the state of Wisconsin is one of the more strictly regulated states when it comes to the birthmother giving up parental rights (up to 4 weeks for birthmother, birthfather, or certain tribe rights if a Native American baby). We are looking forward to adopting but what are some remedies you have found to keep the wait period stress free?
This discussion has been closed.
Re: Looking forward to adopting domestically!
Welcome
I took up knitting!
Good luck with the wait! - in our state (GA) it is only 10 days and that applies to the BM and BF only. Family doesn't get a say.
We're from Wisconsin, and that's why we chose to adopt from Utah instead. We are going to start the process for #2 in a few months though, so we may reconsider using a local agency at that time.
Welcome and good luck!
We live in Wisconsin, and DD1 was also born here. TPR is typically scheduled for approx 30 days post placement, and during that time the birthparents can decide to change their plan. I am not aware that grandparents have any rights regarding TPR, but the laws may have changed in the past 3 years. I am also not familiar with Native American adoption other than to know it is pretty complex, and something you need to have a very experienced attorney if you're considering.
For us, we had a very good relationship with DD1's birthmom (birthdad was not in the picture), and we had high confidence that everything would work out, but there was always still some worry! The best advice I can give is to be sure you know and trust your agency to council birthparents thoroughly so when a decision is made it is most likely to be a final decision. If you or your caseworker feel there is a risk the birthparents will decide to parent, you can have the baby placed into bridge care until TPR. As I understand it, you and the birthparents would both have access to the baby during this time (so long as the birthparents give permission for you to see the baby. After TPR, you would become the legal guardian until your adoption is finalized.
I'm not a lawyer, so please don't take anything I've written here as gospel, and please find a good agency so a professional can help you with your concerns.
If you have questions about agencies and whatnot, feel free to PM me!
Good luck to you!
Hi!
My DH and I are also in the beginning stages and our state is also a little more pro-bio family (which is cool, but already feels so stressful!). One thing we are looking at is using a facilitator in California so we'd finalize there. We are trying to decide if the added expense of travel out of state is worth not having quite as much stress in the relinquishment phase. Not sure yet what we'll decide...