TTC After a Loss
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First post, hoping it will make me feel better
monvon
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This is my first post ever, frequent reader but never posted. My husband and I lost our first on Oct. 20 at 6w5d and ever since then I have been anxiously awaiting TTC again..but now that we are almost ready to start trying again (8 days away!), I am so nervous! I have been having a tough time relaxing, forget about sleep and I can't help but worry that all this worrying is going to mess me up! Does anyone have any helpful advice? I know that worrying is the last thing I should be doing but I can't seem to stop.
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Re: First post, hoping it will make me feel better
I'm sorry for your loss.
Welcome to the board. You won't find a better group of ladies around. As far as the worrying, I think it's just part of post-m/c life to be honest. I have no helpful advice, just take it a day at a time!
After 7 years of no ovulation...
BFP#1 10/24/11 ~ EDD 6/29/12 ~ Natural m/c 11/2/11
BFP#2 2/3/12 ~ Alice born 9/26/12
So sorry for your loss!
Welcome to our board. Its full of amazing ladies full of advice. Unfortunately the way you feel is the norm. It gets easier over time but the worry will always be there. Good Luck to you next cycle...hope its the one and your stay on TTCAL is short and sweet! ((Big Hugs))
Your siggy pic is super cute!
BFP #1 and M/C 5/2011
BFP #2 7/1/2011, Blighted ovums officially diagnosed at 9w6d, D&C 8/19/2011.
BFP #3 12/7/2011, EDD 8/15/2012, Harper Lorelai born 8/09/12
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First, I'm so sorry for your loss....Good thing about this board, is we all know how you feel...Even though I wish NONE of us knew what it was like to lose a baby....
I know it's hard not to worry and I know this is the LAST thing you wanna hear but, I promise you, it does get easier. You'll never forget, things will always trigger that memory, but it won't be as hard to deal with...Time heals is what I'm trying to say....
I hope you find lots of info on this board as well as support.
Try to Stay Strong... (((Hugs)))
I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board.
There is a ton of great info in the TTCAL blog... many of the ladies here have a link in their siggies.
My Blog: One Emerald
BFP#1: 9-13-11 EDD: 5-26-12 MMC: 11-4-11 D&C: 11-8-11
BFP#2: 7-6-12 Elizabeth Faye ("Zuzu") born 3-21-13
[spoiler] My Blog: Grow Baby Grow
BFP #1: 12/2009 m/c 1/2010 BFP #2: 6/2010 m/c 8/2010
BFP #3: 10/2011 ectopic 11/2011 (right tube removed, learned left tube was probably nonfunctional due to scar tissue from infection after m/c)
3 failed IUIs, IVF #1: 18R, 12M, 10F, 3 poor quality 5d embryos transferred= BFP #4!!!!!
Betas: 9dp5dt: 64 ~14dp5dt: 91 (expecting miscarriage, doubling time of 236 hours) ~16dp5dt: 200~18dp5dt: 500
First Ultrasound at 6w2d revealed two sacs, only one with a heartbeat
LK arrived after 42 weeks on August 14, 2013! Beautiful, healthy, and happy!
TTC#2: IVF booked for April 2015
Surprise BFP#5 February 19, 2015 EDD: November 2, 2015
Betas: 10dpo: 10, 14dpo: 77, 17dpo: 270
First Ultrasound at 5w1d showed a miracle UTE baby! And right ovary ovulation to left fallopian tube.
JD arrived at 38 weeks on October 20, 2015.
TTC #3: Since October 2017. BFP #6 July 2, 2018 EDD: March 16, 2019 [/spoiler]
BFP #1 2/24/11 EDD 10/21/11 Natural m/c at 8weeks 3/15/11
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2nd BFP 10/10/11, EDD 6/2/12,natural m/c 10/13/11 at 6w5d
3rd BFP 12/25/11, DD born 8/31/12
5th BFP 11/15, DS born 7/24/16
6th BFP 7/14/16, EDD 3/20/18
Welcome to the board. So sorry for your loss, and that it means you have to be here, but this is a wonderful group of ladies.
*hugs*
Sorry for your loss! But welcome to the board. The ladies here are a wealth of wisdom and comfort.
I know what you mean about feeling anxious and worrying! This too is our first cycle since our last m/c TTC, and I still get anxious a lot. It helps to try to take a minute and remember that worrying wont get you anywhere. It wont help you get pregnant that's for sure! So try not to waste your energy on that. I would advise you to start temping and charting (if you haven't already). It's a great feeling just to know what's going on in your body! It certainly has helped me feel more in control to be doing something towards TTC other than worrying!
GL and I hope your time here is short and sweet.
Welcome. I'm so sorry for your loss. I understand the anxiety around trying again. Some amount of anxiety is common around here. Since you asked for advice, here's mine:
If you are far more anxious than you normally would be then you might want to take a step back and consider whether you are truly ready to try again. I know how hard it is to hear that right now, I really do. If you are losing sleep and worrying about how much you are worrying - just think about how anxious you might be if you were to get pregnant on the first cycle after your loss.
It took me two weeks into my first cycle TTCAL to know if I even wanted to try that month. I too was nervous and still heavily grieving. Once ovulation approached I got really excited about the possibility of a new pregnancy, so we went for it.
Trust your instincts. You'll know what is right. GL!
BFP#1 April 12, 2011, EDD December 24, 2011, strong heart beat at 7w3d, d&c at 10w6d
BFP#2 Oct 24, 2011, natural miscarriage, EDD unknown
After RPL testing my losses and subsequent infertility are considered unexplained.
Cycle #22: Femara, TI, and progesterone = BFP!!
BFP#3 Dec 21, 2012. Beta #1 @14dpo = 134, progesterone 67.8. Beta #2 @ 17dpo = 664! Team green, EDD 9/1/13, healthy baby boy born 9/12/13!
Congratulations to the fabulous KGS2003! Her sweet boys are here! Grow boys grow!!!
Yup, this is me exactly. We're literally going to start TTC again tonight and I'm totally freaked out. I am definitely ready, but I'm so, so scared. Being on this board has been enormously helpful and I hope you find some help here too. I think it's just helpful to know that other people are feeling the same thing sometimes.
Good luck and I hope your stay here is short and sweet!
BFP Apr 2012, EDD Dec 19 2012 * twin h/b at 6wk, 9wk scan * Baby A lost at 12wks
Baby B was my rainbow born at 36wks on Nov 27 2012
BFP#1 10 wk missed mc
BFP#2 DS born at 40+2 on 8/14/12 BFP#3 DD Born at 39+3 on 5/13/14
I'm so sorry for your loss. *hugs*
The best advice I can give is to just go with whatever you're feeling. Don't question why. You have a very valid reason to feel the way you feel. Try to relax and not worry too much, but don't try to hold things back and not allow yourself to feel the way you're feeling.
BFP #2 12-6-11 and 12-7-11; EDD 8-17-12. US 6w6d measuring 5w6d. Misoprostol Assisted m/c 1-16-12 at 9w3d.
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Welcome! I am also so very sorry for your loss. Please know that you aren't alone. We are here to listen. I too wish I could tell you that the worrying goes away but it really doesn't. As days go by it does get more manageable but it is an experience that you will never forget. Unfortunately having gone through this very sad experience, it will be something that is a part of you and it is really hard to be naive. My DH and I started to try for our first in early 2010, had 2 losses and have taken the past 8 or so months off just to try to cope with everything and to start fresh in 2012. However, to tell you that I am not terrified to try again would be a lie because I am, but I am just taking it a day at a time and trying to be positive about the future because I have realized that this is all really out of my control.
Just take it a day at a time and don't set any expectations on how you are supposed to feel. If you feel like crying, cry and if you feel happy don't feel guilty about it. Allow yourself to just be. That is what seems to get me through this. Sending tons of hugs your way!