bump-conscious anyone?
Baby Lynn
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okay..i may be the only one on this board but i would love to hear that i'm not alone! let me start by saying i love being pregnant and having my little one grow however..i am so self conscious of my bump! if i go out anywhere (even to work where everyone knows i'm expecting) i have to wear a shirt that shows of my baby bump. i'm always afraid people are sitting there wondering if i'm pregnant or just fat. although you can tell that im pregnant not fat since i have only gained my baby bump weight and not anywhere else. i have always been self conscious of my body and now that i have my bump i feel like i'm worse. does anyone else feel the same way? i also find it hard to get into "sexy time" my SO still finds me attractive and is always trying to initate sex but once i feel like i have to be sexy i suddenly feel very unattractive.
i should also throw in here that i do eat like i should. so i'm not starving him by anymeans. and that i personally love my bump just not when i want to be sexy.
i would love advice as to how to get over this or how to feel confident and sexy with my bump! and just to know i'm not alone since i feel pathetic for posting this in the first place! TIA!
Re: bump-conscious anyone?
No advice, but I feel the exact same way. I don't feel sexy at all and don't even want DH to look at me
He says I'm still as sexy as the day he married me (this is also said while he's trying to put the moves on me so I don't know if I should take him seriously) but I really hate that my belly keeps getting bigger. I've dealt with weight/confidence issues my entire life. I've always been heavier than my sister who is younger and not thin enough for my mom (even now she still makes comments like when I wore my Browns jersey a few weeks ago she told me to "just give it to your sister it will look better on her now anyway).
Before I got pregnant I lost 20 pounds and was down to a weight I hadn't seen in YEARS and then BAM I get a BFP and I've just put 15 of those 20 pounds back on. Don't get me wrong, I love Mason and will do everything I can to have a healthy baby boy in my arms in March but it's such a confidence deflater when I look at my size 10 jeans hanging in my closet and realize I can't fit in them anymore
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I have no advice, sorry...
But I am the same way about the shirts.. I have always had body issues, was previously overweight, and even since being at a healthy weight I've never been 100% thrilled with my body. I love my bump, and so I feel the need to make sure that's it's obviously a bump! I won't wear anything where it could be mistaken! Although I've only gained there and now it's getting much more obvious so I think I won't be as 'bad' about it anymore
That is EXACTLY what happened to me...I had lost a ton of weight and gotten into great shape. And then found out I was pregnant. It took a few weeks to accept that...but it will be great motivation for the post-baby shape-up, at least!