Single Parenting
nicolealexandra2385
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Has anyone ever had your significant other leave you before the baby is born?
I'm currently going through this and I'm not sure what I should do.I know I can do it but I'm still scared.I know I'm probably going to make mistakes.It just really sucks that I'm having to go about this alone.This was never part of my plan but I guess I'll have to deal with it.
I'm not really getting an encouragement from my family.They are saying that its all my fault for staying with someone who doesn't care or want to take responsibility for anything.They are probably right but that's not what I need to hear right now.
I'm really depressed but hopefully things start looking up.I go to a new doctor tomorrow. I'm really excited about it.
But anyways I hope someone here knows what I'm going through and can lift my spirits about things.I still have nine and a half weeks left and I really hope it passes quickly so I'll have my baby girl here.At least then all the things won't matter as much
M/C October 25th 2010. Its been almost 6 years since I said goodbye
Re: Single Parenting
The Bump has a board specifically dealing with Single Parents. They might be able to offer suggestions.
So sorry you are going through this! T & P to you!
I'm so sorry. Even more so because your family isn't there for you right now. It's going to be hard but you can do it. Your daughter will help you through this more than you will ever know. Yes, you'll make mistakes....we all do! It's inevitable so don't beat yourself up or blame yourself. You've got a beautiful little girl who will be here soon!
I highly recommend going over to the Single Parents board and lurking around a bit. From what I've heard they are a really supportive group and have lots of really good advice....from legal to emotional. They've been through it and come out on top and so will you.
((hugs))
love is for every her, love is for every him, love is for everyone
You can do this! I literally decided to divorce my exDH, started getting organized, and took a pregnancy test a couple days later. Many things happened between that last, fateful time we DTD and when I took that PG test. I was totally freaked out, and decided I would have to stay with him.
I made it less than six months after the baby was born before I was truly done. I honestly would have been better off if I had filed prior to the birth of the baby. Being with someone who is not the right partner for you is IMHO worse than being on your own with an infant.
If this is your only baby, being a single parent is nowhere near as hard as the media and pop culture would lead you to believe. Even if you have other children, we had one other child already, it's just really not that bad. Here's what people seem to not understand: A man present, but not engaged or overly helpful, is worth very little. A woman present, and not struggling emotionally with a relationship that is failing, is a stronger, better mother. She is not weighed down by that man, that relationship or anything other than normal life...and a baby. A baby + a normal life without a man is easier than a baby + a fraught life with a man who is not engaged with the baby, or is engaged with the baby but has other issues.