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treble_clef
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Waaaaayyyyy TMI question about pushing...
treble_clef
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So, I had a c-section with my son. My husband was a little bit freaked out about seeing me cut open, but when the time came, he saw everything, and he was perfectly fine. He was telling me what was going on, and I wanted to removed the small curtain at my chin and watch it together:D
Well, if everything goes well with this pregnancy, I will have a VBAC, and it'll be my first time to push. I know many women poop while pushing, and I can understand that. BUT I know, this, my husband will freak out! I know for sure he doesn't know it could happen to anyone. How do I explain to my husband it's normal? I guess I'm just uncomfortable to bring it up.
What do you think? TIA!
m/c - Dec 2005,
DS - March 27, 2007,
m/c - Oct 2009,
DD - Feb 20, 2012
Proud mother of two breech babies:)
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Re: Waaaaayyyyy TMI question about pushing...
I told my husband that I would rather him stay by my head while I'm pushing and he was all about that. (He doesn't want to know anything about what's going on downstairs while it's happening.)
I would just tell him that it's normal. Because it is normal. From what I've heard, the nurses get it cleaned away so fast that it's almost like it was never there to begin with.
If I did, my h did not see it. they are very, very quick to clean things up.
I would just tell him it makes sense that it might happen given that you are told to push the same as if you are pushing out a poop. Also, if he is worried, just have him stay up by your shoulder, he shouldn't see anything he doesn't want to.
The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.
DH watched DD's birth and didn't see anything. Either I didn't do it or they cleaned it up that fast. Which is a total possibility, they do this everyday multiple times a day and I'm sure it's not even a second thought to them.
Most guys know this happens even if he's never told you this. Guys talk about these things too, even if it's not as frequently as we do.
I first heard about "pooping on the table" from these boards.
I just kind of lightheartedly brought it up with DH and was like, "I hope I don't poop!" But like pp's have said, the way the bed is broken down, your butt is at the edge of it and there's a giant bag to catch stuff, so it's not like you'd be laying in poop if it happened. DH says I didn't poop with DD1, but I still am not sure if I believe him or if he was just trying to be nice. 
Either way, it's no big deal and it won't even be on your mind when you're pushing. All you'll be thinking about is getting the baby out.
Also, for some women, when they're in early labor, their body will clean itself out, so when it's time to push, there's nothing in there left to come out but the baby.
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even if you pooped he probably wouldnt notice you did. if he can handle child birth theres no reason he couldnt handle you taking a dumper.
I was talking to someone about this last week. She pooped with her first child and so asked her doctor to help make that not happen with the second. She did the enema, but it was a mistake for her because rather than 'poop' she had all of this runny stuff- a total mess.
She said that looking back the poop is taken away so quick that most people wouldn't even know it happened and that when it happens it's actually a sign that the baby is just about there, so a moment later you have a baby!
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Buy him the children's book "Everybody Poops" then tell him that he may see you poop while you're pushing your beautiful baby out.
DH watched the whole thing. In fact, while I was pushing his eyes were "down there" with a huge smile on his face because he saw DD's head slowly come down with each push. It was a huge support for me seeing his smile. His favorite "non-baby" part was watching me shoot large blood clots at the nurse. haha. He even said while I was pushing "wow that sucker went 2 feet!"
Thank you for your replies! My mom said she peed right after I came out, so I know things happen. I'll just light-heartedly bring it up to my husband:)
I guess I'll ask him to stand by my side, but I know he's going to want to see when the baby comes out...
Proud mother of two breech babies:)
If he can handle watching you get practically gutted I think a little poo won't be a big deal. =p Plus they clean it up so fast he prob wont even notice.
I know I pooed a little and DH didnt care with all the other commotion going on.
By lilenatalem at 2012-01-28
YAY For a VBAC! I just got mine November 17th =] Good luck to you!!
Congratulations! I hope I can follow your foot steps:)
Proud mother of two breech babies:)
Honestly, it may gross you out now. But the last thing you will be thinking about when pushing a baby out of your vagina, is if you are pooping or not.
DH told me that all I kept saying was, "GET HER OUT!" not, "Am I pooping?"
this. exactly.
You might be surprised.
My DH swore he didn't want to see anything going on down there, but when the time actually came and the doctor announced that he could see hair, DH had to take a look. He actually watched the majority of the rest.
You're not gonna care. I promise. Everyone will be all up in your junk, and you're not gonna care who sees what.
I asked afterward if I had pooped. DH said he didn't see anything, and the nurse said I didn't.... but that doesn't mean they were necessarily telling me the truth.. haha