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December 2011 Moms
Lexie Marie
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I feel like a wimp :( - Post Appt
Lexie Marie
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We had our 39 week appt today and when I had my internal exam (this will be my 3rd one) I was about ready to fall off the table. I wanted her to sweep my membranes but there was NO way in hell I could sit through that right then and there by the way it was feeling. She asked while she was up there and I said NOOOOOO! I feel like a wimp and am very upset with myself for not getting it done. I had it set I wanted to try and see if it would spark anything. Once she left the room I started crying because I felt like such a failure/wimp, DH comforted me but still I can't help but feel like how am I going to get through labor?!?! I am planning on the epi but I am just really nervous now. Found out I am 2-3 cm dilated and 60-70% effaced. I am wondering if the more dilated I get the more it hurts because that sure as hell is how its been. Also last week I was told his size isnt a concern...now they are flip flopping and saying they are worried he is going to be a BIG boy. She told me not to expect a little baby. I guess all in all my anxiety and hormones are just jacked ever since my appt. I've had some mild cramping and spotting since the internal today...I wonder if it will set me off. Last week I lost my MP a day after a internal exam so who knows! My next appt is my due date (12/9) and if he isnt here by then we will talk induction as she wants me to deliver before 41 weeks because of his size.
Liam Tyler & Emma Grace
...baby #3 boy MC at 10 weeks
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Re: I feel like a wimp :( - Post Appt
Thanks dear... I will have to go read your post! Yes my DH was 11 lbs 11 oz at birth...FML!
Yep! Me too! She was up there forever, it hurt SO bad
And she didn't offer to strip me, double 
And after all that I'm now 1cm and 50% effaced compared to "a fingertip" last week. Scheduled an ultrasound, fluid check, non-stress test and my next appt for next week....after my due date. I'm going to be the one 2 weeks past my due date, I just know it!
I actully burst into tears when the doctor left the room, my mom was laughing. I'm pregnant and can't help it!
my check at my 39 week appt on Monday was WAY more uncomfortable than my previous ones (and I only went from closed to 1cm).
I have heard that the more dilated you are the more uncomfortable they are because your cervix is getting shorter and therefore they have to reach further.
I'm sorry you didn't get your membranes swept. I want to ask about it too, but I'm being wimpy!
LCT - 5.15.14 ~ 9lbs, 22.5 inches
Seriously, don't feel like a wimp at all! It is so uncomfortable and hurts every time I get checked and unfortunately - it hasn't gotten any better the more I go through it!
As for the stripping of the membranes, you had every right to be freaked out! To me, it hurts like hell!!! I had it done for the first time last week and again today and it wasn't any better the second time around. I didn't want to do it again but she said it helps reduce the chance of being induced, so I agreed but DANG! It's not a good time. I get the willies just thinking about it and my eyes always water when she's done. And if it makes you feel any better, having my stripped did absolutely nothing for me! I was sitting at 3 1/2 cm, 80% effaced last week, had the membranes stripped and today I was about a 3.75 and still 80% effaced. Go figure, right?
If you look back a few weeks when I had my first internal I screamed and cried .... the doctor had to stop because she couldnt get to my cervix ... it was tucked under the baby
It hurt SO stinking bad - she promised not to check again for a few weeks and she hasnt ... TODAY she asked if I would be okay letting her check me at my next appt 40 weeks ... I agreed just because its 40 weeks ..
Im secretly terrified
As much as it sucks, I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one who has had rough internals lol. Maybe we will both get lucky and our LO's will come right before our 40 week appts
Sorry to hijack your post but you know what I don't get (and forgive me if this is a dumb question)?
Why do our internals hurt but sex doesn't? It's not like I'm constantly getting it on over here but still...makes no sense to me.
Hijack away
I think mostly because when we have sex we have to ease into it...where as the OB just kind of goes straight for the gold. Plus you have to think they stick there hand (fist and all) up there and it goes further then our DH's lol. My Dh is well-in-doubt but I think a fist might have him beat lol!
can I just say how relieved I am to read this?? We haven't had sex in a long time but I've been thinking about it lately but have been way too nervous since my internals are getting more and more uncomfortable. Maybe it won't be as bad as I'm picturing! DH *might* just get lucky this weekend
LCT - 5.15.14 ~ 9lbs, 22.5 inches
I find sex to be uncomfortable now...as in mostly unenjoyable. If hurts a little at first but we just move slow and ease into it and it is mostly fine. I'd rather have sex 105 times before feeling that feeling of todays internal exam!
yeah, I figure it will be uncomfortable, but I've been imagining pain based on my internals and just the fact that I feel like I've been kicked in the crotch!
LCT - 5.15.14 ~ 9lbs, 22.5 inches
Don't feel like a wimp!! At my 38 week appt I cried while my doc did the internal and then he stripped my membranes wihtout saying a word to me first. After he and the nurse left I sat and cried for a few minutes then went into the bathroom and cried more. I was only dilated to a 2 and his head was right there. That next morning I went into labor.
I also wondered how I would handle labor if I couldn't even handle an internal and it actually wasn't as bad as I had thought it would be. Don't get me wrong, it still hurt like helll and was the most difficult thing I have every done, but the most amazing
Hang in there, I bet you'll do great!