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Two Under 2
Thorns and stings
And those such things
Just make stronger
Our angel wings.
~Terri Guillemets
Those with 3 or more...
I have 2 little ones and I feel like I am really wanting at least one more. I just don't feel 'done'.
My last pregnancy was awful due to a handful of health issues (all mine, DD was perfect) and I spent at least 4-5 months really sick, but I love my DD more than anything and know it would be worth the suffering again.
My husband is military and gone a lot, which is why I originally said I wanted only 2. For those that have 3+, how hard was the transition to 3 and is it a lot worse than 2?
My DS is 24m and DD is 4m right now and things are hectic but manageable.
TIA 
Thorns and stings
And those such things
Just make stronger
Our angel wings.
~Terri Guillemets
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Re: Those with 3 or more...
Right now I'd say the transition from 2-3 is pretty easy. I'll come back when #3 is out of her "lump" stage:).
I also thought the transition from 1-2 was pretty easy. The toughest for me was going from 0-1... I think it was the whole giving up my personal time that was rough.
We are in the same boat as you, we just don't feel done.
Ditto all of this! I don't think it's harder in anyway, just different, new experiences.
So far, the transition from 2-3 has been a MILLION times easier than 1-2. Like pp, I'll let you know when DS2 does more than sleep and poop.
Ask me again this time next week. DH is leaving for 16 days starting on Monday.
Thanks everyone for your responses. I agree 1-2 was not as hard as 0-1, at least so far. I think I am most worried about being pregnant and sick and watching 2 children, but hopefully they will be older and can entertain one another a bit.
The earliest we will start trying is after DD bday (in Aug 2012) so I have awhile to prepare myself.
I have always imagined myself with 3 children, and I just don't feel complete as a family yet.
Im pg wth #3 and in the thick of sickness so make sure you know that when reading this
I always wanted more than 2, def 3. 4 or 5 was my real dream. Dh works offshore, 3 weeks on 3 weeks off. I always said that his job would not dictate the amount of kids we have...until I got pg this time (planned) and was SO sick trying to deal with the 2 toddlers. DD was 15 m when I got pg and DS is almost 3 next month. With a little baby, like DS was when I was pg with DD, it was easier almost. He didnt care about getting out of the house, he napped twice a day until 12 months it was easier even though I was sicker. THis time Im not as sick, but SO tired. DH was home from weeks 7-10 and I thank God he was. 8 weeks hit and the sickness was horrendous. even on zofran. I am feeling a bit better now, but have my days. I had horrible headaches for a few days and it was insane.
My point is, that we think this may be it. If nothing else, I will not be pg again. Adoption may be in our future as we always wanted to. who knows. I am SO happy I am pg again and I love my kids, but these are hard ages to just stay home and not get out. I know it will get better, but its rough. I give a lot of credit to the ladies with more than 3 kids. I cant imagine dealing with 3 kids while sick.
If you know you arent done, then go for it. Just make sure you mentally prepare youself as well as get a babysitter when you need it. have help. I dont and it bites. I think if we had more kids in the next 2 years then I would be so worn out I may not be the best mother I could be.
Thank you for your honesty. I am sorry you are so sick, I hope you start feeling better soon. I had so many heath issues my last pregnancy, DH and I swore it was the last.
I live near (well 3 hrs away) from family, but that could change in the coming months. I have a lot to think about, and a lot will depend on how DH feels about having a 3rd (he wants another but is worried about my health).
Take care I hope you get some relief soon.
We only have 2 kids, we always wanted 3. I had high risk pregnancies. With both pregnancies I was diabetic on insulin, had issues with PTL, became pre-eclamptic, and also had c-section deliveries. Even though we always wanted 3 kids, I know it's not smart to push it for a 3rd.
I'm not sure what kind of issues you had, but pregnancy can have very serious complications when people keep pushing the envelope just to have more. Maybe your issues aren't that serious, but if they are, maybe you should consider not having more.
I work in L&D and see some pretty scary stuff. Maybe I'm just more sensitive to all the bad stuff, but knowing what I know...some people should definitely stop having kids, but don't. I'm not trying to sound biitchy, just trying to give the other perspective. Do what feels right for you and your family. Good luck in your decision.
Our first two children are 19 months apart and that transition was harder than when DD#2 came. We would have loved to have 2u2 again with DD#2 but struggled to get pregnant so our older two were 5 and 3 1/2 when she came so that may have helped.
We are now expecting our 4th; DD#2 and this baby will be 25 months apart, so we just missed 2u2 again. We are not expecting it to be too tough. DD#1 and DS LOVE DD#2 and she LOVES babies so we are hoping it will be a smooth transition.
When DS was born, DD#1 wanted to help and she was very attentive to him: babbled at him, gave him toys, wanted to be near him constantly. She could go get me a diaper or a paci if I needed it. We did the same when DD#2 came - we had them help us with her as much as possible and that is our plan again - keep them involved, praise them when they help, encourage them to talk to baby/hold baby etc. The older two are very excited. DD#2 doesn't know what's coming ;-)
I can't imagine! Hugs to you