Should I mind my own business? FB related.

MDmama519 · November 2011

I posted yesterday about a classmate from H.S. who is 36 weeks pregnant and has been trying to induce labor for almost a month.

Today she writes "Just left the doctor... FINALLY I'm starting to dilate and thin. Going home for now but hopefully little man will kick it in gear sooooooon"

Please God, I want to say something. WTH do you mean FINALLY? You're only 36 weeks.

Should I say something about how important the final weeks are for brain & lung development? FFS, no area hospital even has a NICU if something were to happen, God forbid. The closest NICU is over 2 hours away.

daniek2407 · November 2011

I'd probably just keep it to myself... even if you did say something, it probably wouldn't phase her anyway it sounds like.

TheOriginalSP · November 2011

My guess is she will either a) ignore you or b) get super pissed off at you and probably defriend you after she defends her decision to try to evict her baby early.

I would just stay out of it and if possible block her FB status updates for another 4 weeks. Then when she hits 40 weeks unblock her and laugh for every second over due she is.

NayNaysPlayPen · November 2011

In my opinion, no.

Your 100% absolutely right, she is being rediculous and the last and final weeks of pregnancy ARENT fun or easy. But they are so incredibly important. She should be happy for every moment baby stays inside and cook!

However, I wouldnt say a word. It would just cause her to have unpleasant feelings towards you probably. I would put money on the fact that your not the only one thinking the things you are.

jkfranklin · November 2011

I think I would say something passive aggressive. Like, I hope your baby is healthy if its born so early. I do like the thought of laughing at her when she goes overdue. Hehehe.

MDmama519 · November 2011

14 people have "liked" her status - mostly moms.

I don't understand why people can't read a news article or a book, FFS. God made humans pregnant for 40 weeks for a reason, you know?

I'll keep my mouth closed and just straight up have to hide her. I'm sitting on my hands trying to not say anything.

okate0213 · November 2011

That is SO hard to not say something! Ugh...what an idiot.

Musiclover2012 · November 2011

jkfranklin:
I think I would say something passive aggressive. Like, I hope your baby is healthy if its born so early. I do like the thought of laughing at her when she goes overdue. Hehehe.

Yes, I LOVE being passive agressive when the need arises.

Ha, I'd be like "Oh wow, I'd be so scared to have my child early as there are so many possible complications" Wink

ChelseyB5186 · November 2011

Aside from her being clueless about how long pregnancy is supposed to last, I'm just grossed out that she feels the need to let everyone know the status of her cervix.

I would block her status updates- it would probably irritate me too much...

HannahO28 · November 2011

I'd probably say something like "I thought your due date was December 24th?" or whatever it is. Then see how she responds. Is it possible that you're mistaken about how far along she is?

NayNaysPlayPen · November 2011

But if you DO decide to say something, please tell us what you say and all responses. I despise being in FB drama but I live for hearing about other people's facebook drama Big Smile

PS 14 people "liking" it...ugh. That would piss me off.

I stand by the fact that I personally woudlnt say anything...but now I kind of want you to LOL thats just me being a lil devil today tho Devil

JFH2010 · November 2011

HannahO28:
I'd probably say something like "I thought your due date was December 24th?" or whatever it is. Then see how she responds. Is it possible that you're mistaken about how far along she is?

I like this. It's not overtly snarky, but it may give her pause - and it prevents an awkward situation for you just in case there's a good reason she's trying to go early.

MDmama519 · November 2011

Unless those weekly pregnancy updates on FB are wrong, she's shy of 37 weeks.

DragonflyBelle · November 2011

Me, I would, as sarcastically as possible, be like... "Girl!!! You better hope that baby bakes a few more weeks!!! 36 weeks isn't full term!!!". People can be such idiots!

jesbeth · November 2011

HannahO28:
I'd probably say something like "I thought your due date was December 24th?" or whatever it is. Then see how she responds. Is it possible that you're mistaken about how far along she is?

I'd say this too, or even something like "How many days overdue are you?"

LDW80 · November 2011

I'd just roll my eyes and keep scrolling down the page like I do to half my friends who update with stuff like what they are doing every hour of the day.

gisa886 · November 2011

I'd just tell her to quit being a twit and that she isn't even full term. Tell her the longer she goes the better it is for the baby. Good gravy! That is ridiculous.

AmyJoy728 · November 2011

Maybe the 14 people that liked it, liked the part about her getting closer to going into labor? I mean, you can be 1cm dilated and start to thin for weeks, can't you?

In my head I always like thinking of snarky and sarcastic things to say but don't usually have the balls to say it. The "I thought your due date was Dec 24" comment could work, and maybe those that liked her original update will join in?

Harper'smom · November 2011

You could post the following on your FB feed, indirectly, and hope she sees it

https://www.marchofdimes.com/pregnancy/getready_atleast39weeks.html

Or, email it privately if you are comfortable being that direct.

I'm hoping this campaign starts to make an impact.

FusionLMT · November 2011

Harper'smom:
You could post the following on your FB feed, indirectly, and hope she sees it

https://www.marchofdimes.com/pregnancy/getready_atleast39weeks.html

Or, email it privately if you are comfortable being that direct.

I'm hoping this campaign starts to make an impact.

This is what I would do, just post some article about how important the last few weeks are.

mgra328 · November 2011

I would probably say something, but try to be kind. Like, "oh, hunny, babies come when they're good and ready. there isn't that much you can do to control mother nature. maybe he just wants to stay nice and warm in there for awhile."

it doesn't directly get the point across, but it keeps you from saying something that could antagonize her.

but really...some people are insane! i would totally be in the same situation as you, btw!

gisa886 · November 2011

Let her know you know someone who was at a 1 for like 4 weeks. Haha I was and it felt like forever!

FusionLMT · November 2011

gisa886:
Let her know you know someone who was at a 1 for like 4 weeks. Haha I was and it felt like forever!

My practice won't start checks until 40 weeks, since they are pretty meaningless. I know women that can walk around at a 3 or more for weeks, and others that are completely closed and then have a baby a day later.

gisa886 · November 2011

FusionLMT:

gisa886:
Let her know you know someone who was at a 1 for like 4 weeks. Haha I was and it felt like forever!

My practice won't start checks until 40 weeks, since they are pretty meaningless. I know women that can walk around at a 3 or more for weeks, and others that are completely closed and then have a baby a day later.

I don't know what this new practice does, but I might request that they don't check until 38 or 39. It was pointless. I was at barely a three when my water broke at 40 weeks 6 days so that 1 meant nothing.

bio-oesch · November 2011

jesbeth:
HannahO28:
I'd probably say something like "I thought your due date was December 24th?" or whatever it is. Then see how she responds. Is it possible that you're mistaken about how far along she is?
I'd say this too, or even something like "How many days overdue are you?"

I think you definetly should ask "How many days overdue are you?" Just as if your sincerly unaware and she must obviously be overdue to be b!tching like she is.

dojo1 · December 2011

I think you should contact Children's Aid and report her. Just kidding. I think you should keep it zipped. Who cares what she does? It's not like she's trying to induce you.