Circumcision..

kellymiller409 · November 2011

Thank goodness I am having a girl this time around because I have no idea what we would decide. I have been doing tons of research and I think I am leaning more toward to not circumcision side, but DH would prefer to circumcise. What are you ladies deciding? Are any of you in disagreement with the daddy? How do you deal with that? I am nervous for the time when we have a baby boy.

kms34 · November 2011

Personally, I don't have a preference. It was important to DH that we do it, so we did (and will again). He has the penis in this relationship so it was ultimately his decision. The research for and against circ is kind of a wash IMO.

mle5d · November 2011

We're team green, so this was a conversation we had recently. When I talked with DH about it, he was adamant that we circumcise if it is a boy. I've seen the research both ways, but will probably go with him, as circumcising is my preference as well.

runrinserepeat · November 2011

I lean towards no circumcision, but DH feels strongly that if we have a boy we should do it. At this point, I would defer to his opinion on the matter, since I don't have a penis. I am, however, glad that we're having a girl and don't need to actually make the decision this time around.

jmccall79 · November 2011

We are in a big disagreement. I say Do It, he says Don't! His reasoning, which I can see, is that there's no medical reason to do it and it's mutilation...though SO is circumsised. My thought is, though it's becoming more of a norm not to, that most boys are circumcised and I don't want him to be too "different" as kids have enough to deal with. I know it's not like he'll be going around comparing body parts, but "seeing" is an issue sometimes and I don't want any issues down the road. The way we resolved it...we didn't! I'll just be having it done.

goldenleaves · November 2011

I had mixed feelings but DH really wanted it done so we had it done. NBD. I actually saw a couple of circ's done while in nursing school and both times the baby cried a little, but certainly no more than they do for a shot, even the Hep B shot they get right away.

If we have another boy for #3 we'll circ again.

kellymiller409 · November 2011

I just watched one being done on youtube and oooh, it made me so sad to hear the crying, but if we were to do it...I think I would have to stand somewhere out of earshot. I am happy we don't have to decide this time around.

Mar5195 · November 2011

We will do it if the baby is a boy. My father is from another country where they don't do that. And he had to get circumsized in order to join the Navy.

He has pushed we do it. I don't see it as mutilation. To me it's like having a baby girl's ears pierced. But that's just my 2 cents.

cabee310 · November 2011

I circumsized my first son. I was young and it just seemed like the thing to do. I will admit not too much thought was put into it. It seemed like the norm.

This time around, if this were my first son, I'd prefer NOT to circ. DH is, and wants to circ his son, so I really am going to let him have final say. Plus, with my first son having a different last name and such, I don't want him to feel any different than he already has to.

soralette · November 2011

I'm against it (if the kid wants it done later, he can have it done!), but leaving the decision up to my husband; he's got a penis and I don't, so I figure he knows more about how such things might affect him.

DH has mixed feelings, but is also leaning towards "no" due to it being an unnecessary medical procedure with questionable benefits and some risk.

BlakeG · November 2011

kms34:
Personally, I don't have a preference. It was important to DH that we do it, so we did (and will again). He has the penis in this relationship so it was ultimately his decision. The research for and against circ is kind of a wash IMO.

I agree with all this. DH wasn't and had a terrible experience and had to get one when he was in elementary school. It's really important to him to get our boys circumcised because he can't imagine them having to possibly go through the same thing.

btartaroind · November 2011

kms34:
Personally, I don't have a preference. It was important to DH that we do it, so we did (and will again). He has the penis in this relationship so it was ultimately his decision. The research for and against circ is kind of a wash IMO.

This exactly. I was leaning towards yes, but left it up to DH. He was a definite yes, so yes it is. Plus I talked to my OB about it, and I really trust her. She is a surgeon and will be doing it herself.

ryry1977 · November 2011

We had to decide when DS was born. I read up on it a lot and was against it, DH wanted it done. Finally our doctor told us (in the hospital after he was born) that there was no medical reason to have it done...and that won DH over to my way of thinking. So we didn't have DS done.

HEmery · November 2011

Snip, snip for us!

annapolischick · November 2011

We are. DH wasn't when he was a baby and as a result had complications for that later in life so at the age of 25 he was circumcised. OUCH! That was not a fun recovery.

I don't see any justification NOT to. Like real legit reasons. The baby's penis is numbed.

DH is having DS circumcised and i back it 100%

SmashleyHop · November 2011

I had my first son snipped- My ex-husband wanted them to "match" so to say. However, my second son we left be ( again by my now husbands request) thing is, it's not the "done" thing over here in the UK and you would be shocked at how angry people get about the subject. People here see it as barbaric and totally unnecessary; liking it to African female circumcisions!!!

I was a bit surprised my hubby decided against it- as he had to have the procedure done at the age of 25 due to medical reasons. Though he did say that he wished he never had it done now, and that he wanted his son to have his foreskin. Frankly I think people should do what they feel is right, and shouldn't be judged for choosing to do it or opting out of it.

meaghansmith09 · November 2011

I don't care either way but I am leaving it up to my DH and he wants our DS to be circumcised.

corbinsmine · November 2011

I am having a little boy and we both agree on circumcision. I have seen a circumcision myself, and dont like the idea of any child in distress. At the same time we think its best for him in the long run. I think the idea of contantly cleaning it and pulling back the skin to avoid a infection is way worse than a 15 minute procedure that can be done when he is young and not a ten year old. However, we do plan waiting till he is a week or so old. I was adviced this by my bro inlaw who is a doctor, bc the baby does go through so much stress during delivery.

kellymiller409 · November 2011

corbinsmine:
I am having a little boy and we both agree on circumcision. I have seen a circumcision myself, and dont like the idea of any child in distress. At the same time we think its best for him in the long run. I think the idea of contantly cleaning it and pulling back the skin to avoid a infection is way worse than a 15 minute procedure that can be done when he is young and not a ten year old. However, we do plan waiting till he is a week or so old. I was adviced this by my bro inlaw who is a doctor, bc the baby does go through so much stress during delivery.

You're actually not supposed to pull the skin back. That causes issues. It will naturally retract on it's own when they're older. I only know this because of the research I have done and I asked a couple women with un circ boys.

Court1 · November 2011

I'm really surprised at how many answered "DH can decide because he has a penis". But you're both the parents. This baby is a girl, but we didn't circ DS after doing a ton of research on the subject. DH was not on board for a while, but came around after looking into it. And we're in the midwest where it's definitely not the norm not to do it yet.

MollySm · November 2011

We are having a girl, but when/if we have a boy we won't circumcise. H isn't, and never had a problem with it growing up. We don't see any reason to circumcise.

Shmogan09 · November 2011

DS is and this one will be too. My cousins was done wrong and he ended up with partial foreskin. My aunt has told me stories about how she had to come make him clean it in the shower when he was 7 because he hated cleaning it and would tell her he did it when he didn't, then get an infection. I just felt it was one more thing to have to bug him about and worry about over the years.

Also, my mom went with DS and they let her give him a little sugar water while they did it and he did not shed ONE tear. Some babies scream their little heads off every time their diaper is changed so I think it's possible that some babies just cry because they don't want to be messed with.

jju_stb_jju · November 2011

Dh is and says his sons will be as well! i am glad though he said yes cause i was already leaning that way anyways!! just made my choice making easier!!

bluejayway · December 2011

Court1:
I'm really surprised at how many answered "DH can decide because he has a penis". But you're both the parents.

This also surprised me. If LO is a girl like me, I wouldn't be the sole decider on whether or not we gave her cosmetic surgery when just days old. And if LO is a boy, DH certainly won't be either. We're team green, and while DH was initially leaning more toward circ'ing (status quo), he did and has done no research. He doesn't seem to mind too much either way, when it's been discussed. I managed to convince him that putting our baby through surgery like that would be traumatic for the baby AND us.

I also don't buy the whole "LO will feel different if not circ'd" argument. If you look at percentages, even by region, a good chunk of boys are not circ'd already, so it's not like he'd really be the odd one out.

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