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jjolijjoli
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I am now a separated from my husband single mom of a 28 month old gorgeous girl! who is freeloading (they are happy to have me I know) at my parents house because I am techincally homeless, jobless, and have no idea what I am going to do! 

I am tired, angry, and sad trying to keep it all together and be the strong independent person I know I am even though I rally just want to curl up in a ball and beg my husband to pull his head out of his ass and work with me

Any words of encouragement are greatly appreciated. 

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  • JCGreene85JCGreene85 member
    There is no begging. None. Why did you guys split? Were you a SAHM? Continue to be strong for you DD and try and find a job. I am living with my Mom for the time being and she really helps me out. Please don't be afraid  to post! The ladies here are full of awesome advice :) 
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  • Annplus1Annplus1 member

    This part is the worst. So heck, you are almost through the worst! I am not saying the next part is much better, but it IS better. Have you started therapy yet? It's a life saver, and a pride saver. Because you will text or call, and you wont' get the answers you want. And I am hugging you from afar when that happens.

    Do it a day at a time. And if that gets too long, try an hour at a time. Take every day (or hour) that you don't beg or call as a success. And soon you will be full of successes. 

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  • jjolijjoli

    We split because he is (all his words) unhappy and trying to grow up a little and be responsible for himself..which in turn means that he doesn't want his family and wants to be free to figure out things for himself... 

    Yes I was a SAHM and I am a fulltime student.  

    I am trying really hard not to be angry even though I think I have every right to be.

    I am in limbo at my parents house for a little more than a month until I get my aide from school, that will get my daughter and I started and then I can get a job (which I have a few leads)...

    I have just been so sad and very angry which I rarely get angry so it is new for me to be so angry.   

    I made it clear to him what I wanted which hasn't changed for the past five years.. Despite everything I still want to be with him and to be a family and fix things.  But... we will just see how everything goes and in the mean time i guess I just have to stay strong and keep going.

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  • jjolijjoli
    No, no therapy I can't afford it.  Thanks for the hug. 
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  • mamastichmamastich member
    imagejjoli:

    We split because he is (all his words) unhappy and trying to grow up a little and be responsible for himself..which in turn means that he doesn't want his family and wants to be free to figure out things for himself...   

    this is my exact story, i was 2 weeks away from quitting my job to SAH... how 'needing to grow up' means abandoning your family ill never know. Im also moving back into my moms house (across the country)..

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    imagemamastich:
    imagejjoli:

    We split because he is (all his words) unhappy and trying to grow up a little and be responsible for himself..which in turn means that he doesn't want his family and wants to be free to figure out things for himself...   

    this is my exact story, i was 2 weeks away from quitting my job to SAH... how 'needing to grow up' means abandoning your family ill never know. Im also moving back into my moms house (across the country)..

    I am sorry.. I don't understand it either.  My parents house is only 35 minutes from where my husband and I lived... but it isn't permanent because they are getting their house ready to sell.  I am at the point where I have no idea what to do about anything.  I did just write him a letter and gave it to him when I went and saw him yesterday.

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