Guess it is time for me to GBCB

llc730 · November 2011

Yes. My father dipped his finger in his beer and let my 9/10ish month old DD taste it. He did it to all of us as kids, my younger cousins, and more. No one has ever been upset by it. I don't really see why it is so amusing and it makes me roll my eyes but it definitely didn't hurt her so I didn't make a big deal about it. Just to respond to a couple points before I go.

1. I had already talked to my father about giving DD things that could be allergens. He was very respectful of that. The only allergen that could be in beer is wheat and by that point DD had already had wheat baby cereal so allergies weren't an issue.

2. My father loves his granddaughter more that his own life and I would NEVER use something that petty as a reason to keep her away or restrict his time with her. IMO that is just plain cruel.

quidditchcapn1120 · November 2011

I think the whole thing got blown out of proportion. People on here get their panties in a bunch over the weirdest things. Different strokes for different folks.

I personally would not be happy if someone did this with my kid. However, I can see how it would be NBD at a family function as a kind of off-the-cuff humor thing.

sodelish · November 2011

Link please!

ASmallWonder · November 2011

Ok so I know this is directed at me because I'm the one who side eyed the whole beer on the finger thing. I stand by thinking that I'd be WAY more upset over that than frosting on the lips but I think you're taking this further than it needs to. GBCB? Because I don't agree with something your father does? And I NEVER said you should use that as a reason to keep her away from him. Never ever said that or implied it.

ETA: Ok so I apparently have an inflated sense of self because I assumed this was about my comment last night. I just found out there was a second post. Everything I've said here is still true but I realize now that this wasn't about me :-/

Heather R · November 2011

this is stupid.

I don't see what the big deal is. Gramps is not having your kid do keg stands, for fucksake.

On the other hand, these farewell dramatics are trite.

shakes · November 2011

ashleyatjewell:

I think the whole thing got blown out of proportion. People on here get their panties in a bunch over the weirdest things. Different strokes for different folks.

I personally would not be happy if someone did this with my kid. However, I can see how it would be NBD at a family function as a kind of off-the-cuff humor thing.

This is what I meant. If a stranger or even an acquaintance did this I would snap, but my 82 year old grandpa letting DS suck on his knuckle that lightly grazed the red wine...yeah it's just funny.

shakes · November 2011

llc730:

2. My father loves his granddaughter more that his own life and I would NEVER use something that petty as a reason to keep her away or restrict his time with her. IMO that is just plain cruel.

100% agree.

MNgirl326 · November 2011

I would just let it go. There is no need to GBCB over it, in a few days there will be something else to get panties bounched over.

It's all good.

ASmallWonder · November 2011

I sincerely say, don't GBCB over this. I'm one person with an opinion - just like everyone else on here. I never meant to make you feel like I thought you (or your father) was horrible. I was just amazed that there were people willing to cut a friend out of their life over frosting and no one thought beer even warranted a "Hey dad, please don't give my kid beer." But like I said, I'm one person on the interwebs and not worth leaving the bump over

marriedinaugust · November 2011

elmoali:
Ok so I know this is directed at me because I'm the one who side eyed the whole beer on the finger thing. I stand by thinking that I'd be WAY more upset over that than frosting on the lips but I think you're taking this further than it needs to. GBCB? Because I don't agree with something your father does? And I NEVER said you should use that as a reason to keep her away from him. Never ever said that or implied it.
ETA: Ok so I apparently have an inflated sense of self because I assumed this was about my comment last night. I just found out there was a second post. Everything I've said here is still true but I realize now that this wasn't about me :-/

I am pretty sure this is about me. The poster asked for opinions and I gave MY opinion about MY child and MY situation. I also said I do not care what other people do with their children. I never argued that I was right and they were wrong. I definitely never got my panties in a bunch. I just defended my opinion for my child. I don't understand everyone who thought their opinions were being attacked by my opinion.

marriedinaugust · November 2011

elmoali:
I sincerely say, don't GBCB over this. I'm one person with an opinion - just like everyone else on here. I never meant to make you feel like I thought you (or your father) was horrible. I was just amazed that there were people willing to cut a friend out of their life over frosting and no one thought beer even warranted a "Hey dad, please don't give my kid beer." But like I said, I'm one person on the interwebs and not worth leaving the bump over

I feel the same about myself.

spring_time · November 2011

It is silly to get upset over this. One of the posters who was so horrified about their child getting a fingertip of beer plainly states that neither she nor her husband drink any alcohol. She already has an extreme view on alcohol, so keep that in mind when weighing her opinion on the matter. It is already skewed by her own relationship with alcohol.

Also, I feel badly that you think people are attacking your father. Again, I think they have their own personal issues. My DH's family has alcoholism in it. None of them even keep it in the house. He rarely drinks. His opinion is influenced by his family's past. He would probably "freak" by this whole idea. On the other hand, my sisters and I grew up getting sips of my dad's beer. In fact the smell of beer and chips reminds me of my dad. We don't have any negative experiences with it and I am sure none of us would have a problem with a taste. It is all based on your own experiences and relationships.

ames71 · November 2011

Heather R:
this is stupid.

I don't see what the big deal is. Gramps is not having your kid do keg stands, for fucksake.

On the other hand, these farewell dramatics are trite.

This. Dramarama.

scoutkate · November 2011

Heather R:

this is stupid.

I don't see what the big deal is. Gramps is not having your kid do keg stands, for fucksake.

On the other hand, these farewell dramatics are trite.

This. FFS.

historychick79 · November 2011

Just make sure you don't leave your baby in the car with a FF carseat and a snippy dog while you run into Walmart to chat with whorefaced cashiers and eating a fingernail of feta. You'll be fine....