Mom's of Multiples, I need a PEP TALK bad

Paulsaggiebride · November 2011

So, my girls are six weeks this coming Friday. Honestly, they are great babies but it is still OVERWHELMING. My days consist of making bottles, burping, changing diapers, putting the girls down for naps, hoping they will stay down for longer than an hour.....etc.

Just let me know that I am not alone and that it does get better. Please and Thank You!

LALASEPT05 · November 2011

I am sorry. I think that the 6 week time frame was really about the toughest. They seem to kind of wake up after being sleepy for the first few weeks. Their bodies are experiencing new sensations and you are just constantly on the hamster wheel with no downtime. It's a huge adjustment going from having free time to having none. But in time you will adjust to your new lifestyle and the babies will adjust and develop personalities. It will get better. Not easier maybe but better. We were driving around this weekend after a disastrous trip to the mall for Christmas outfits. We looked at the car next to us and they had a bumper sticker that said 'I used to have Time, now I have Twins'. We laughed and thought that just about summed it up! Hang in there we've all been there...the newborn stage is difficult.

pea-kay · November 2011

Oh, it WILL get better. Imagine, one day, your kids will ENTERTAIN each other! You will hear them tell each other things that will make your heart melt. You will forget (sorta) how hard the early days were.

Soon2beMrs.Sivert · November 2011

pea-kay:
Oh, it WILL get better. Imagine, one day, your kids will ENTERTAIN each other! You will hear them tell each other things that will make your heart melt. You will forget (sorta) how hard the early days were.

This is so true. For us it was hard until about 9 months when they actually started to sort of play together and today they are each others best friends. My friends talk about their kids constantly needing to play with mom and dad but we (MoMs) are lucky because our kids will always have someone to play with. It is absolutely amazing to watch that friendship grow, the way they play together, and the way they care for each other.

MADforever2009 · November 2011

Promise, promise, promise!!! There are still many days I have to tell myself, "this too shall pass." I would just remind myself of all the different phases my kids will come across and I'll never get that phase back. (some of them, I don't ever want back.) before you know it your babies will be turning 1 and you'll be planning they're party.

Omega20 · November 2011

You are in the toughest stage, and it definitely gets so much easier. Around 3 months I felt a HUGE drop in stress. Also, when they learned to sit up on their own I noticed it became so much easier because they could entertain themselves a little.

You are still in survival mode and you're doing it!!!

MADforever2009 · November 2011

Eewwww did I say they're party? My own pet peeve. Their party.

iluvadam · November 2011

It WILL get better. I promise. (((hugs)))

missfire · November 2011

It will get better, but in the meantime, find a good babysitter and take some me time! Make sure you are getting some sleep, somehow, and some nutritious meals. Your hormones are still adjusting and your body needs some TLC too. If you get in the habit of refueling yourself, it will make it much easier to take are of your babies. Things will be hard for a long time, to be honest, so don't try to just wait it out!

MrsLnt · November 2011

6 weeks was a low point for me. I think it is for most people. You've got babies that are more awake and needier than ever, and you've got 6 weeks of sleep deprivation catching up with you.

The first few months felt completely mechanical. I was miserable and probably cried every single day. And then I'd feel guilty about not being more grateful for having healthy take-home babies and I'd cry about that. I made a very similar post to this right around when mine were 6 weeks old. It's just a really, really hard time.

Slowly though, things get better. Then they get really, really fun. More often than not, my tears these days are from laughter, not exhaustion or frustration. We've all made it through and you'll make it through this, too!

jenn_darrin1515 · November 2011

It will get better!!! one day they will be laughing/playing together and it will make those early weeks so worth it!

Around 6-8 weeks my girls started sleeping for 4-5 hours a nite and it was a god send...if it doesn't happen soon, swing shift with your dh so you can both get some uniterrupted sleep for a couple hours.

Also, around 6 weeks I started getting out of the house at least once every other day.,..even if it was only to hit up the drive thru for coffee or do a 30 min walk at the park, it gave me a sense of accomplishment...

Fancy3Face · November 2011

Aw, it totally does get better! Hang in there Momma, you're doing a fantastic job. Getting acclimated to having two babies is TOUGH. You're absolutely not alone!

One thing that got me through that first 6-8 weeks was being able to get out of the house for a little bit each day. When your H gets home from work can he sit with the babies for a while so you can get out to the supermarket or take a walk? I remember being in tears a lot of evenings just waiting to hear his truck pull up so I could run out the door for a little while!

It doesn't make you a bad mom, it makes you HUMAN.

amy1007 · November 2011

In the thick of it now with you and praying it gets better.

jdancer5 · November 2011

For us there was a HUGE shift when we followed their cues & shifted their bedtime earlier around 3mo. Having my evenings back was amazing. By 4mo they were eating so much faster and yielding to my regular nap schedule. This was when I really had time to do housework again. By 5mo I stopped pumping after every feed which was huge for me personally and at 6mo they started STTN. Literally every month after 3 has gotten easier and easier. It's coming!

jamdonut · November 2011

You are not alone, and was just in your shoes! It does get better and soon! My boys are 10 weeks today and life is 100x better. They are starting to sleep 6-7 hour stretches at night and take good naps during the day. They also are starting to really react socially, laughing and cooing up a storm. Yes, I still change a tons of diapers, make lots of bottles, but with more sleep I can find the pleasure in these small details and not feel like I am on a hamster wheel. As PP mentioned, make sure to take time for yourself! Even a long, hot bath without the baby monitor on while DH watches them is heaven! Sorry for formatting, on iPad.