Some of DH's friends and cousins have asked when he was going to have a diaper party. DH's keeps telling them he does not know if he is having one, then comes home and ask me what to say to them. I don't know if this is right or not but I thought his dad or my dad is who normal throws the diaper party. If so this is a problem my dad does not talk to us and his dad is not to excited about his first grandchild on the way. So my question is would it be so bad if I sent out invites for the party to be at our house for the same time my baby shower is? The baby shower is not at our house but if he is going to have a diaper party it needs to be the same time due to the fact some of the husbands/wife's would be driving 2 hours.
Any thoughts would be nice. He is not trying to be gift grabby, he just wants to get together with friends and family.
Re: Who throws the diaper party for men?
All of the guys in our group have a diaper party. It is usually thrown by the brother of the father-to-be and if he does not have a brother it is usually his best friend or a very close friend or maybe a cousin.
Here, the grandfathers usually don't get involved. They are invited and usually attend for some portion but it is mostly an event for the younger men.
Yeah, the guys bring diapers/ wipes and they have a cook out (it will be winter in mi so no cook out but food). Then the guys who are dad's give the soon to be dad advice. Buts it's also a chance to spend some guy time together before baby is born knowing that it may be awhile before they get together again.
having the diaper party at the same time as your shower seems like a great idea. Then the SOs will have something to do, plus you don't have to worry about hauling a bunch of boxes of diapers home.
It is just an excuse for more guy time! They get together and have a cook-out if the weather is nice, if not they go to a bar and get wings and such. Smoke cigars, drink beer or whatever they want to drink. Each guy brings a pack of diapers. They all come home smelling funky with big smiles on their faces! All in good fun and nothing expensive/catered/decorated/etc. I know in some circles they will go to strip clubs afterward (which I really could care less about) but none of the guys that we know have done that.
This! Except we will all be in the big party room at our condo. They will be playing fooz ball or pool or xbox and we will be doing the regular baby shower things, and they will join us for the gift opening!
i haven't either and this is #2 for us, lol!
Nothing is ever customary anymore. I threw my sister's baby shower, and she will be throwing mine. I then found out from my SIL that her Aunts want to throw me a baby shower (Apparently that is the custom?). Anyway there will be 6 people in on the baby shower.
We are planning on having a shindig at our house for the guys the same day as the shower. I am having my sister throw a notice in addition to the shower invites, well into certain ones as it is more for DH to have his pals over for BBQ and drinks.
Same here. #2 and never heard of it before. I guess you learn something new everyday!
#3 for me, and never heard of this before.
I had never heard of a diaper party until my sister was discussing my shower and mentioned it. What a fun way to get the dad's invovled and have guy bonding time!
My BIL offered to throw it for DH. Our family is so spread out that it doesn't make sense for his family (or my dad) to try to host. They are actually going to go bowling or Dave & Busters, instead of hanging around the house.
Of your DH's friends/cousins, is there someone that would be open to "hosting"? Maybe you could pull them aside and ask if they would mind since no one else is stepping up/available. You could still send the invites if you wish, but the RSVPs would go to that person. Depending on how many people you are inviting to your shower, you might want the guys to be out of your hair. LOL
I personally don't like the idea of the mother to be sending out the invites, like you're throwing your own party....
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That is what DH was thinking when a friend was telling him about it. And it would work really good for DH because most of our friends who do have children their children are older (3-7 years old). So I'm sure they will have lots of advice for him.