Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Would you travel with a 1-month-old??
DD was such an easy baby, it would have been a breeze with her. The last few babies that have been born that I know are colicky, I don't think it would fly w/ those babies.
This. I wouldn't subject an infant that young to the ordeal of so much travel, germs and people.
Im thinking health wise for you and baby should be fine, its just sanity wise, its a bit of a risk.
I will be travelling a lot with baby on 2 4-hour plane trips probably 6 months after LO is born. I know from seeing friends do this that after a couple of times you get into a groove and know exactly what to do.
Just keep telling yourself, "its an adventure!"
My daughter was 15 days late and I had a c-section. I didn't even leave the hospital until 18 days after my due date. And after that, you're really supposed to hang low for at least 2 weeks. I didn't really feel good until 6 weeks.
So, short answer, NO.
It's easier sure - but not in the first few weeks. There's a reason that most STD covers 6 weeks - because you need that 6 weeks to recover and get accustomed to baby. I flew with DD at 4 months and it was so much easier then at 2 years. At 1 month past my due date, I still wasn't allowed to lift anything more than the baby and I couldn't drive.
yes I would BUT i have heard some airlines wont let the baby fly earlier than 6 weeks and you need a pedi's approval.
If that all went through then yes, they are easy to transport and you just nurse/feed while taking off and landing. now the amount of stuff you need is insane, but id say before 6 months is th easiest time to travel witg kids.
My husband and I planned a week long road trip with our son to visit family when he was approx 4 or 5 weeks old. We breastfed. I had a c-section with him, and was recovering well, but still had some difficulty getting around. As long as I had hubby with me, I was FINE though. I didn't feel the section held me back at all. However, every woman's recovery is different.
We had a blast, and apart from stopping every 2 hours or so to feed and snuggle, he did really well.
Like most others have said, I found the newborn stage to the be EASIEST to travel with babies. They eat, sleep, poop, and look around, and just go with the flow. They are easy to wear or carry, they sleep in the car, and as long as you can deal with the sleep deprivation from normal night wakings, they really don't care where they sleep (crib, pack and play, bassinette, in your bed, etc) like older babies tend to.
We also travelled out of country (again by car) when he was about 7 weeks old, stayed in a hotel, ate out all the time, etc, and again, he did great.
I have also flown with our son when he was 10 months old, and it was night and day. He did decently, but it was a constant dance of bouncing him in the Ergo, playing and reading books, walking him up and down the aisles, trying to get him to nap, and trying not to annoy your plane-mates. Again, he did great, but it was a lot more energy and worry.
All this to say - you can definitely make it work, and it's probably the best time to travel, IMO - BUT - Every woman, baby and recovery is different and you really won't know what works for you and your family until baby is here and you have a sense of how things are going!
Don't rule it out, but don't make a decision right now if you don't have to!
Personally- no. Our pedi recommended keeping DS away from crowds (including large family functions) until after his 2 month shots.
Also I personally had a horrible recovery. Due to some rare complications that i had I was basically on bedrest from wks 4-6 post-partum due to large gushes of blood. (Within seconds I would pass a clot, and then a gush of blood that just getting up to put DS down in the pack and play next to me- i had blood overflowing the hospital pads and running down my leg.) My doc had given my a choice a meds that may help but would also completely stop BF, or go on bed rest and wait until my 6 wk appt to see how i was healing.
With my first baby, no. Too many unknowns and anxiety issues for me then.
With my second baby, I might. I feel more experienced now and might attempt it.
IMO, it totally depends on the child. My son was a TERRIBLE sleeper, I was awake pretty much all night for months, and any trip would have been miserable for us and for anyone in the next hotel room.
I'm planning on going on vacation towards the end of July. If I have the baby the end of May, then he/she will be about 6 weeks old. However, this vacation is very low-key. We rented the same cabin on the lake last year and it was fantastic. It's unfortunate that this is the only week available, but it is what it is. Worst case scenario, we come home early (it only cost us $400 for the week) and it is only a 2 hr drive from home. Just a lot of relaxing and feeding ducks ;-)