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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
i feel terrible even saying this
But I don't think chemical pregnancies or miscarriages at 7 days dpo is a real loss. And a naming ceremony, really? She knew about the possibility of a baby for maybe 7 days. I just think you guys are taking this too far with the mourning and the memorial services and the angels in the siggy.
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Re: i feel terrible even saying this
this
Whatever. At least my kid can eat food and not paste.
Oh, goody, another unimportant AE with an unimportant opinion. Because we need more of these around here.
Yes. I'm friends with nealb and didn't want to hurt her feelings.
I had to get this off my chest.
Well in that case I'm glad you're not one of my friends.
Why, I can't imagine someone else' loss could possibly burdeon you so much that you have to act like a total douche in order to free yourself from that burdeon.
How does someone else's siggy affect you?
To each their own. If you ever lose a baby at 7 dpo no one will make you put it in your siggy or have a naming ceremony. If that's not your thing, fine, but STFU about other people mourning in their own ways.
I've never suffered a loss. Have you?
Until you have walked a mile...STFU
This exactly.
BTW you're a fuucking idiot. If she tested positive them miscarried a week later and two weeks later, then neither were chemical pregnancies or a 7dpo pregs.
If you're going to be a douchebaag, then at least be accurate.
Touche. Only my kid does eat food. Again, no clue what you're talking about. But good job making yourself look like even more of an ass. My kid btw? Very loved, so I think he'll be okay.
Then why say it? I feel bad for you that you do think this way. You are a mean person. Why do you care how I heal or deal with my losses.
I don't care what your real SN is you are not my friend.... Not if these thoughts crossed your mind and certainly not if you felt like you had to type them up.
I agree. I'm sorry you had to see this thread at all, and have some jerk claim to be your friend. I'm sure you're friends are better than this, truly care about you and would never try to hurt you.
I usually don't feed the trolls, but I think is is important to point out how much of a jerk you are. And well, put out there that I'm sorry for your kids (clich?, I know, but oh so true in this case). I hope they don't grow up to be idiots who make fun of grieving moms and other people's conditions.
And if you feel terrible, why are you even saying it? why put it out there for your friend to see?. Grow a pair and post under your real SN.
Ok hook line and sinker I took the bait to this nonsense.
I did not have a ceremony for my M/C. The Catholic church is now having a yearly sunday night mass that is for Miscarriages and still born babies and I attened it. If you choose, you can name your babies and a prayer is said for them. It was very nice and very healing.
Anyway I appreciate the backup support from everyone who has responded. Lets be done with this post though.
Since this is an AE I will probably continue to be nice to your real SN. I am not going to waste my time trying to figure out who you are. I am not really close too very many on here except those under the TTC Thursday post so my guess is you are on there. I am sorry you are struggling to get pregnant like I am and I am even more sorry that you felt the need to be a mean person.
In the spirit of the holidays I forgive you for this post. Regardless if you are looking for forgiveness!
Now lets all move on and have a Great Week
Nealbl- I am sorry for your losses as well. I had a chemical pregnancy right before DS, and I was devastated. I was on this board at the time, and had such a great support system with all the ladies. I had mixed emotions on how I should feel about it, whether it was silly to be sad about something I barely knew about, etc.
A loss is a loss no matter how early.
Please don't take this "troll" to heart. There are many of us that understand.
Geez, even I think this is overstepping. A loss is a loss and all m/c sucks.
That being said, after my first m/c, I was having a conversation with my OB who had also m/c. She mentioned a % of pregnancies which end within the first week. These are pregnancies we would be unaware of if so many women didn't test so early. I only test after I miss my period.
You feel terrible saying it because it's a biitchy thing to say.
Mom to Carter (6), and Calianne (1).
Proud VBAC, natural birth, breastfeeding, cloth diapering momma!
meh, since it's no big deal to you, then I must admit I would rather you experience a miscarriage than me, since I found the whole thing pretty fuckings traumatic.
I had a chemical pregnancy and for me, it didn't feel like I lost a baby. The egg was fertilized by the sperm but they didn't implant in my uterine wall. Therefore, I mourned the loss of my first pregnancy (after years of infertility) , but I didn't mourn the loss of a child. Hence the reason I don't have a ticker or anything about it.
HOWEVER, I would never tell anyone that they were not entitled to mourn or feel the way they do about it. Everyone handles things differently. The way I handled it was what was best for me, but some people may need to mourn the actual child that didn't get to grow. That may be what's best for them.
Ouch, harsh much?
Grinch!