DH just found out that he was one of the Wing's selections for an upcoming class. He's still not guaranteed to go (I guess MAJCOM gets the final say), but it is likely that he would. At this point, he could turn it down. The class would be fantastic for his promotion chances. He would be crazy to say that he doesn't want to go.
The problem? I would be 37w4d on his graduation date. Considering I had DS at 37w3d, this makes me nervous. I know tons of military wives have babies while their spouses are gone. I feel like if it were a deployment, there is no choice in the matter, and I would just deal somehow. But this is technically optional. How would I handle knowing that DH missed the birth because he chose to go to a class? On the other hand, if DH doesn't go to the class and I end up going 38+ weeks, I'll feel terrible that DH missed out on a great opportunity for nothing.
Trying to get another class date is most likely not a possibility. The following class starts 10 days after my due date, and the graduation date for it is 2 weeks after his (already delayed due to my pregnancy) RNLT date for a PCS. DH may have an opportunity to go at his next base, but it is not a guarantee. He would just have to see if he gets selected by the leadership at the new base.
We are both so conflicted. I know no one can tell us what to do. I just wanted to get this off my chest.
Re: ugh. DH was selected for a class, but...
You guys will ultimately have to make the choice, but if this is something he really wants to do I would not pass it up.
My DH was re-training in tech school when I was pregnant (I quit my job and moved to MS with him since his class was 6 months long), and he talked with his leadership as soon as he got there. He was told he could miss one day of school.
At 36w, I went in for a routine exam, and was sent directly to L&D to be induced. My DH was not allowed to have his cell phone at the time on so I left him a voicemail. He didn't get it until he was waiting for me at lunch to pick him up. After that, they allowed him to keep his phone on vibrate so I could get in touch with him. I gave birth 2 days later, and he was able to be there. So, in our case, they were very understanding and I am so thankful.
Has he checked with leadership to see if this is an option?
Pregnancy Week by Week stuff.