MIL thinks baby name is jinxed?

surromama6 · November 2011

My husband and I have names picked out already and we excitedly shared them with family over the holiday weekend. If we have a girl we are naming her after my husband's late grandmother, Cecilia Grace. If we have a boy we are naming him Caleb Daniel. We have always loved the name Caleb and want to stick with "C" names. Daniel is my father's name.

When we told my Mother-In-Law the names she immediately said she hated the name Caleb, which was hurtful, especially since we chose to name a girl after her mother. When we asked about her feelings she said her friend's granddaughter had a stillborn who she planned to name Caleb and the name was jinxed.

I don't really know this friend of hers and I honestly think it was in bad taste to bring it up to us, because I am a little superstitious and now I feel like if we find out we are having a boy we are either going to have to change the name, or worry about problems with delivery for the rest of the pregnancy. Do you think we should consider new boy names? Was my Mother-In-Law right to tell us about the name in the first place? Any advice would be help!

allisonmarie22 · November 2011

I think your mother-in-law is a crazypants.

gisa886 · November 2011

allisonmarie22:
I think your mother-in-law is a crazypants.

Get out of my mind!

sassafras007 · November 2011

name your child what you want and do not listen to what other people have to say.

brideofscowboy · November 2011

allisonmarie22:
I think your mother-in-law is a crazypants.

This.

And this is reason #24933432194659413659924359496435 why announcing potential baby names so early if at all can backfire.

srhcmt · November 2011

Well I'm not superstitious, but I do associate names with the people I knew that had those names...I tend to have a bad feeling about Jessicas now cuz all the Jessicas I've known are horrible. But to not name your kid because of a precious baby that had no chance...that's entirely up to you. If it was me and that was my choice I wouldn't let someone else's issues change my mind. But if I thought all I ever was going to see by naming my kid Jessica was those crazy Jessicas I would definitely change my mind. Ultimately it's your baby and you know yourself. Don't let others influence such an important event in your life. If you want Caleb it's very likely that when your boy is born she will change her tune about the name Caleb.

AshEliz · November 2011

I think she is a horrible person! This is exactly why we decided not to share baby names with people, even close family. The reactions some people had when my sister was sharing names were just cruel and blew my mind - it's not your baby people! Everyone can come up with a bad story about someone they knew with "X" name. It's just a matter of if they have manners and keep it to themselves. If you love the name, keep it and don't worry. I would come up with a replacement name to tell your MIL. As far as our family is concerned, our baby's name is Optimus Prime.

Deltadawn8 · November 2011

Sounds like your MIL and my MIL should gtg and play. When we told my MIL that we had picked out the name Brianna for our DD #!, she flat out told us,and everyone at my baby shower that she didn't like the name Brianna and that she was going to call her Gracie. Seriously, who does that?

I have learned to just let her talk and ignore most of what she says and to not take it personal - as it's just her crazy nature/personality. Do what you want for your children. You are their mother- not her. I like your names and their meanings to you and your DH. No name is Jinxed - she should not have said those things - but too late - just try to let those comments just roll off you - I know it's hard and hurtful - but in the end it will be for the best.

surromama6 · November 2011

Thanks everyone! We aren't telling many people because you are right, telling people names can backfire...but we thought it was safe to tell our parents! Especially since we wanted her to know that we would be naming a girl after her Mom. I don't think we are going to change the name...I just wish she had kept her mouth shut!

zenneedles · November 2011

I can't believe she said that to you! You name your baby whatever you want!

Natalie&Mark · November 2011

Just focus on the 4,327* baby Calebs that are healthy and happy born just last year.

*Number pulled from a**

marybridges · November 2011

So does that mean every still born's name is jinxed? Bc that's a lot of jinxed names...

ChevTrucksr4Grls · November 2011

allisonmarie22:
I think your mother-in-law is a crazypants.

ditto

AliciaS1411 · November 2011

I think your mother in law sounds insane.

and Cecelia is my girl name to!

merryally · November 2011

allisonmarie22:
I think your mother-in-law is a crazypants.

DITTO

Blue Pansy · November 2011

Both names are lovely, and luckily, your MIL doesn't get a say!

sweetgotham · November 2011

MissMusic:
We're not all so bad

Sure we are!

shrtfrkgrl · November 2011

Don't worry about your MIL! I don't think it was the name that caused the stillborn, most people don't know why stillborns happen. It's probably just coincendence that you want to name your baby Caleb if it's a boy. I would stick with it, it's your and your husbands decision. And it isn't like she is going to hate her own grandchild when it is born. She will be madly in love with him(if it is a him) when it is born.

shrtfrkgrl · November 2011

srhcmt:

Well I'm not superstitious, but I do associate names with the people I knew that had those names...I tend to have a bad feeling about Jessicas now cuz all the Jessicas I've known are horrible. But to not name your kid because of a precious baby that had no chance...that's entirely up to you. If it was me and that was my choice I wouldn't let someone else's issues change my mind. But if I thought all I ever was going to see by naming my kid Jessica was those crazy Jessicas I would definitely change my mind. Ultimately it's your baby and you know yourself. Don't let others influence such an important event in your life. If you want Caleb it's very likely that when your boy is born she will change her tune about the name Caleb.

That's kind of hilarious, my husband and I feel the same way. I have a cousin named Jessica and whew she is a *** and he has a sister named Jessica and she is a ***. We totally have met so many Jesssica's that are either crazy or a ***!

pinotgirl · November 2011

shrtfrkgrl:
srhcmt:

Well I'm not superstitious, but I do associate names with the people I knew that had those names...I tend to have a bad feeling about Jessicas now cuz all the Jessicas I've known are horrible. But to not name your kid because of a precious baby that had no chance...that's entirely up to you. If it was me and that was my choice I wouldn't let someone else's issues change my mind. But if I thought all I ever was going to see by naming my kid Jessica was those crazy Jessicas I would definitely change my mind. Ultimately it's your baby and you know yourself. Don't let others influence such an important event in your life. If you want Caleb it's very likely that when your boy is born she will change her tune about the name Caleb.

That's kind of hilarious, my husband and I feel the same way. I have a cousin named Jessica and whew she is a *** and he has a sister named Jessica and she is a ***. We totally have met so many Jesssica's that are either crazy or a ***!

I've known many Jessica's (including myself) that are neither crazy nor bitchy. Well, there's one who's bitchy, but the rest of us are just fine!

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