- Pregnancy
- Baby & Toddler
- Parents
- Getting Pregnant
- Baby Names
- Product Reviews
-
Registry
- Community
-
More
Want a personalized experience?
Download the free app
December 2010 Moms
pitterpatter129
member
Would this bug you? (vent)
pitterpatter129
member
So, I've made my husband angry and I feel the need to vent about it to someone. Someone being you. 
Today is one my days off. All week we've had people to see and things to do. This morning DH asked what was on the agenda today and I said I just wanted to have a quiet family day where we didn't have to do anything. Then his mom called and wanted us to come visit because an uncle decided to show up in town. Fine, whatever, add something to the list.
Then, DH decides his friend (whom I do not like at all) is going to come over and visit. I said, no thanks, no visitors. I'd like a house where we can just be ourselves today. He says nothing. A few hours later, I start nursing the baby and talking about naptime. I've turned off all the electronics and toys and lights. We've had lunch. It's obviously naptime. He says he's going to go pick up friend-I-don't-like so he can come over for a just a few hours. As in right now, during naptime. (Oh yeah, friend does not have transportation or a permanent housing arrangement - he's 29 years old.) I have a fit.
Now, he's going to go hang out with his friend instead of bringing him here. He says as he leaves, "I don't know what we'll do, since he doesn't live anywhere." I feel like a witch because I know the guy has nowhere to live, but everytime he comes over he spends HOURS here, like the entire day. He brings all his stuff like he's moving in, and takes over my couch and computer and TV. And I don't feel comfortable nursing the baby when he's here. I just wanted one damn day in my own house where I can breathe in silence during naptime. I feel like the friend needs to grow up, get his own job/apartment/family, and my DH can go visit him at his house, OR at least DH should schedule the visits (since they take up my time/day/house/sanity and DH knows I don't like him) a few days in advance so I can plan to be somewhere else. I will say that when I have friends over, I always ask DH if he minds if so-and-so drops by or I put it on the calendar in advance, and they don't stay for more than an hour when they drop by. Two of us live here. Vent over, thanks for "listening". It's nice to have a place to vent so a real life person doesn't have to hear it.
This discussion has been closed.
Re: Would this bug you? (vent)
I'm so having a quiet time now! But, friend and H went somewhere else. I don't care what they do as long as I'm left alone.
I guess my complaint is that while friend is here, he's so loud and intrusive, the baby couldn't nap and all areas of the house get overtaken with friend. The dogs bark the entire time. He always wants to download music and make CD's with the computer, watch football on the TV, and borrow stuff. H and friend end up drinking beer and doing all these things, plus guitars end up being played in the living room. Friend is intrusive for long periods of time. I don't care if H goes off and does his own thing somewhere else at all. Our house isn't big enough for separate activities within the same space though. When friend is here, I can't find a place to escape and that's what bugs me. If we had a bigger house with another area for these activities, that would be sooo nice.
Bahahaha!
I love how he played the victim, like, I wonder where we will go since he doesn't live anywhere? Last time I checked, the world was full of bars, restaurants, malls, movie theaters, parks, coffee houses, and strip clubs. He might want to investigate those options.
Ginny DX 21-Hydroxylase Deficiency Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia
Charlie DX Specific Antibody Deficiency & ASD