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Soooooo mad.

WordSmith85WordSmith85
in June 2012 Moms

Today was the day we decided we would tell our really close family members about our pregnancy and ask them to keep it quiet. The only people who previously knew about it were my mom and dad and they KNEW we weren't going to make the new official to everyone until week 13.

My dad asked for clarification Thursday (less than 48 hours ago) as to whether we were telling everyone or just the people coming over for our family Thanksgiving get-together. We told him again, "Just the people who are coming to the house."

Well today my dad tried over and over to get his dad (my grandfather who I no longer speak to) on the phone because he was coming out of the hospital. During the coversation, he just blurts out our news! My husband was there and yelled at him, but it was too late.

Everyone in my extended family (around 20-30 people) lives around my grandpa and is down there due to his health and for Thanksgiving. My only hope of NOT having my secret blown is that my grandfather was still drugged up and doesn't remember, but it's unlikely since he's the kind of person who likes to use other people's happiness to cause others pain (ie: Oh, Jake and Ashley haven't made you grandparents yet? Well it looks like you'll be the last ones since Carolyn's pregnant.)

Even knowing I was pissed at him and that he did wrong, my dad then decided to rub it in later by saying "I wonder how many people your grandpa's told by now."

This was our first pregnancy and I'm so mad and hurt that with one careless little facebook message or something for some family member I haven't seen since I was a teenager, I might lose the chance to tell my family, my husband's family and our friends. I still don't want to preempt it though in case something goes wrong.

I know there's nothing I can do at this point, but I at least want to vent to some ladies who might understand.

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  • celestialnytecelestialnyte member
    I'm sorry he did this to you. I'd be so ticked off, too.
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  • CraftyBakerCraftyBaker
    I guess for child #2, you'll be telling your dad at week 13 just like the rest of the family... so sorry that happened.
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  • WordSmith85WordSmith85

    Thanks ladies.

    I know that when stuff begins hitting the fan, there's always someone on the bump boards who's been there, done that and willing to commiserate a little. It helps.

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  • claudiaudiaclaudiaudia member

    A similar thing happened to us with our first child, so I completely understand how annoying and frustrating and hurtful this is. 

    We told my mom and said not to say anything because it was really early. It later felt like the entire world was congratulating us and yelling out stuff to us in the middle of stores and stuff because she "just couldn't keep it in". And, because of this, my side of the family is not going to know because they just can't keep a damned secret! 

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    Little Dude: 16 Apr. 2009 | Little Doll: 10 Jun. 2012

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  • tara430tara430 member
    That really stinks.  I would monitor facebook pretty closely.  You can delete someones post if they write something about it.  Or you could just take it as a sign and tell the rest of the family. We had wanted to wait until 13 weeks but we ended up telling everyone at 10.  It's just so hard to wait!
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