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Random gift giving question...

SpanishbeautySpanishbeauty
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If you split gifts between you/DH and another sibling, say the gift is for a parent, do you split it three ways (even though the gift-giving budget comes from one "pot" between you/DH) or do you half it with your sibling?  This would be for a gift that is over $100.
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  • michelleaxomichelleaxo
    I would say each household gets one share of the pot. If you were doing individual gifts, I doubt you and your DH would get separate gifts for one of the parents.
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  • Mrs.FroggiannaMrs.Froggianna

    imagemichelleaxo:
    I would say each household gets one share of the pot. If you were doing individual gifts, I doubt you and your DH would get separate gifts for one of the parents.

    This.

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  • SareBear30SareBear30
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    imagemichelleaxo:
    I would say each household gets one share of the pot. If you were doing individual gifts, I doubt you and your DH would get separate gifts for one of the parents.

    This.

    Yep. My little brother and I (and DH) are going in together for a gift for our older brother and his family. We are giving them one large gift certificate and we are paying for half and my little brother is paying for half. 

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  • MrsAJLMrsAJL member
    We buy a Chanukah and a birthday present for my MIL (DH's mom).  We split the cost between the three couples. So, we just bought MIL a GPS system for $120 and each couple will pay $40 into the pot.
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  • MrsBeckOMrsBeckO member
    Definitely halfsies.
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  • SpanishbeautySpanishbeauty

    Ok, that's what I thought too.  But my brother always wants to split it into three, even though DH and I "share" our gift giving budget.  I don't really know how to approach him to ask him to half it... he's single, if it makes a difference.  

    I suppose we could do our own gifts, but then we wouldn't be able to get my dad what he really wants/needs.  Plus he's so hard to find gifts for that when we get an idea we like to share it (so to speak) so that no one has to scrounge around for another idea.

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  • AustinMimiAustinMimi member

    imagemichelleaxo:
    I would say each household gets one share of the pot. If you were doing individual gifts, I doubt you and your DH would get separate gifts for one of the parents.

    This is exactly what we do. 

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  • shanwalk2shanwalk2 member
    imageSpanishbeauty:

    Ok, that's what I thought too.  But my brother always wants to split it into three, even though DH and I "share" our gift giving budget.  I don't really know how to approach him to ask him to half it... he's single, if it makes a difference.  

    I suppose we could do our own gifts, but then we wouldn't be able to get my dad what he really wants/needs.  Plus he's so hard to find gifts for that when we get an idea we like to share it (so to speak) so that no one has to scrounge around for another idea.

    Honestly, we would probably throw in more than brother because we are two income... And bil is one. I can see where is coming from. Maybe say "hey bil... This was our budget for a gift, and that's all we can contribute this year".
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  • SareBear30SareBear30
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    imageSpanishbeauty:

    Ok, that's what I thought too.  But my brother always wants to split it into three, even though DH and I "share" our gift giving budget.  I don't really know how to approach him to ask him to half it... he's single, if it makes a difference.  

    I suppose we could do our own gifts, but then we wouldn't be able to get my dad what he really wants/needs.  Plus he's so hard to find gifts for that when we get an idea we like to share it (so to speak) so that no one has to scrounge around for another idea.

    Honestly, we would probably throw in more than brother because we are two income... And bil is one. I can see where is coming from. Maybe say "hey bil... This was our budget for a gift, and that's all we can contribute this year".

    I get that, but would your DH really be going out of his way to get a gift otherwise? What if the gift is just from you and your brother? Then making it half each wouldn't be an issue. I know my mom wouldn't notice if I didn't include DH's name on a card.

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  • shanwalk2shanwalk2 member
    imageSareBear30:
    imageshanwalk2:
    imageSpanishbeauty:

    Ok, that's what I thought too.  But my brother always wants to split it into three, even though DH and I "share" our gift giving budget.  I don't really know how to approach him to ask him to half it... he's single, if it makes a difference.  

    I suppose we could do our own gifts, but then we wouldn't be able to get my dad what he really wants/needs.  Plus he's so hard to find gifts for that when we get an idea we like to share it (so to speak) so that no one has to scrounge around for another idea.

    Honestly, we would probably throw in more than brother because we are two income... And bil is one. I can see where is coming from. Maybe say "hey bil... This was our budget for a gift, and that's all we can contribute this year".

    I get that, but would your DH really be going out of his way to get a gift otherwise? What if the gift is just from you and your brother? Then making it half each wouldn't be an issue. I know my mom wouldn't notice if I didn't include DH's name on a card.

    For us, all of our gifts are from us both and set the budget accordingly. That's why I suggested the this is our total buget for mil's gift. Obiously every family gifts differently, though. I can see both sides.
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  • NessiaNessia
    The way I see it, it should be split between the siblings evenly and not take into account who is and isn't married. So if there is a total of five kids the parents gift should be split between the five kids. While some siblings may be married and have a dual income, they probably have more bills too.
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  • MammaOwl11MammaOwl11

    imageNessia:
    The way I see it, it should be split between the siblings evenly and not take into account who is and isn't married. So if there is a total of five kids the parents gift should be split between the five kids. While some siblings may be married and have a dual income, they probably have more bills too.

    I agree with this view as well.  I think the "this is our budget for gifts this year" might go over well with your brother.  My sisters and I are going in together to get mom a Keurig coffeemaker, but my sisters are still in school so even though we are all in it "evenly" DH and I will probably contribute a little bit more since we have a real income.  However it's not because there are more of us that the gift is from - we are just creating some wiggle room for different situations. 

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