I hate to say this, but it was awful. I went to a family gathering (we are out of town) and was totally unprepared for how we were treated. I expected to feel uncomfortable, but not for everyone to completely ignore what just happened to us. Everyone knew, but no one said a word. I get that people feel uncomfortable and don't know what to say, but not even an "I'm sorry" was said. Even my mom & dad just acted like everything is normal and fine. Wow. I guess my son doesn't matter to them.
Now I know why they say that grieving the loss of a baby is an isolating experience. I really feel like my husband and I are the only ones grieving.
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Oh I am so sorry. That is one of the reasons I did not want to take part in Thanksgiving. Either someone says something wrong or they ignore the situation.
So sorry. Big, huge hugs. I can't wait for the holidays to be over!
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Hugs all around, ladies. I hope the rest of the long weekend goes reasonably well for everyone. (((hugs)))
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I am so sorry that any of you ladies had to experience that! I am sure that was very painful!
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Yeah - it was actually a lot harder than I had anticipated. My SIL has basically ignored our loss. It sort of stung. I'm getting so nervous about Christmas now. My family can be pretty oblivious.
It is really isolating. It think it is because no one understands unless you've been through it. I'm sure that your family memebers had it on their minds but just didn't want to upset you. This is def one of those things that no one ever knows how to act.