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An apology
To all of those with IL drama and bat s&%t crazy mothers in law.
I used to think "man I'm so happy I don't deal with that crap". I also thought you should just relax and not get uptight over your inlaw's craziness......
Karma is a you know what right?!
So I'm typing this from my last day at Disney. Last year Lennon's first birthday was a drama fest due to the fact my MIL and her wife refused to come because my FIL and his wife would be there. They actually planned a vacation on top of it and expected us to let her throw him another party later. She does this with our neices and nephew. The problem with that is it can be 6 months later when she throws it, talk about confusing.
So in June of this year she asked what I was doing, I said nothing big this year I think we're going to Disney for Thanksgiving and I'll do something for him then. So we booked it and she calls in September announcing they are coming too. Again, not that big of a deal, she promises to let us do our own thing since my mom and brother and his wife are coming and have never been. Ok, no big deal.
Saturday while we were at T-Rex she calls my husband and tells him she's bringing his sister and all of her kids. I'm annoyed because SIL is awesome at being a massive fun sucker and loves drama. But I let it slide.
They got here Monday but we didn't meet up with them because we were doing our thing. So Tuesday we had Lennon's first haircut and she was there. She immdiately starts giving me dirty looks and pulls me off to the side and wants to know what my problem is. I said nothing as there was nothing wrong, I was busy trying to get us checked in (disney is freaking insane at Thanksgiving) and make sure we were on time. She tells me since I have a bad attitude she's going to "see how you are today and then maybe I'll still let you have Thanksgiving at the house" WHAT A F-ING NUT JOB.
My feelings were crushed, I cried because I had no idea where this was coming from. Dh went crazy and now refuses to have anything to do with her (when she left his dad for a woman after 32 years of marriage he went 10 years without talking to her). What an awesome way of ruining a crazy expensive vacation.
She admitted to my husband that basically she was pissed that we weren't dropping my family to be with her because she's going on a cruise over Christmas and wanted holiday time with her family.
So I apologize for thinking you should get over it...because I won't. So sad.
Kevin & Traci
May 11, 2006
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Re: An apology
People like her are just attention whores. They'll do anything to get it. I think your FIL was on the right track when he decided not to speak to her for 10 years.
ETA: Oh sorry I misunderstood regarding who stopped talking to whom, well then it sounds like your husband should go back to not talking to her. Your lives will be much happier. I am of the camp that there is no room for toxic people in my life whether they are blood relative or not.
DD#1~8/17/96------DS~10/24/05
It was dh who didn't speak to her for that long. He will do it again. I almost feel sorry for her because dh. Considered these few years of communication as a trial basis and she just blew it. I don't want him to end his relationship with her over this because I have four boys and would be devestated of they quit talking to me. However I have NO intention of ever being as close as I was to her. I'm not even sure I will talk to her beyond " yes and no" again.
To be honest, the quoted/bolded needs more explanation. There had to be another reason to stop talking you a parent (especially for that long) just because they decided to switch teams. It sounds like she wasn't very good then and she's just as 'not good' now.
Time to cut her out again, I'd say.
She left him in the exact manner this went down. No signs or symptoms of anything wrong and he came home one day and she laid into him about how she always hated him and how controlling he was just out of the blue. He followed her a few days later after she moved and she went to her now wife's house. Dh's dad had a heart attack and was really depressed for a long time.
Dh didn't talk to her because of the shady factor. Even. Ow she lies to the current partner all the time.
I won't miss her now that she has shown her colors.
What made your DH change his mind after 10 years of not talking to her?
To be honest, if she's still got the same shady behaviors going on, it would be another 10 years before talking to her again.
I dont think you should be saying sorry. Why do people insist on acting like children!? I hope that you can put aside her games and enjoy your trip!