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3rd Trimester
Rant/Vent- WAY overly long sorry
So obviously yesterday was Thanksgiving, and I hope everyone had a great day! I am going to go off on a silly rant I am apologizing in advance if anyone others reading, you really don?t have to I just need to vent.
Not to sound completely selfish I REALLY hope I am not pregnant on Christmas I am not sure I could handle it, as all? what so ever? I am due on Christmas day? but I am shooting for sooner!
Yesterday DH and I went to my moms house, like we have every year for the last 3, this was my first pregnant Thanksgiving and I can honestly say if someone else touched me, pat my belly like it was a dog or yelled into it I was going to scream. I don?t know how you ladies feel about it, but usually I don?t mind if it?s someone I know, if I don?t know you? don?t touch me, luckily I knew everyone, and it was probably just hormonal but I really wanted to look at the next person that touched me and say ?touch the belly lose a hand.?
The touching isn?t the only thing that bothers me though, two of my Aunts which I CANT stand were there, ok fine, I find it very difficult to have a conversation with these women seeing as they used to use a lot of drugs are a bit slow now, they talk to everyone in pretty much what I would call baby talk and one feeds her dog? with her fork? from the table (whatever floats your boat but EW) The first thing she said to me? ?Hows wittle won and wittle Sawa doinnnn?? ?Translation, How is little one and little Sarah doing? SERIOUSLY SHUT UP!!! I kept my cool.
I was fine until about 4 when I started having constant BH and was very uncomfortable, I didn?t say anything because they weren?t regular and I didn?t want to send everyone into a panic, so I would get up walk around the house drink some water and sit back down and talk to people again? my other aunt comes up behind me and starts rubbing my back so hard and I couldn?t pull away I really wanted to cry? Firstly if you are going to massage someone?s back DON?T massage their spine?. And secondly maybe you should ask someone before putting your hands on them? JUST A THOUGHT! Not to mention she kept rubbing DH?s back? awkward.
Here is the thing; it seems like everyone just kept touching me? even my own mother grabbed me by the waist while she was sitting and started yelling pretty much into my belly button ?COME ON BABY, COME ON MY LITTLE BUG!!? and rubbing, all I could say was ?mom? momm..Mommmm stopppp!!!? What I wanted to say: ?My belly button isn?t a microphone? and you really don?t have to yell into it... I am sure the baby can hear you just fine. The only thing I didn?t mind was when my 8 year old bother came up to my belly and very gently touched it leaned down and said ?come out and see your Uncle now.? That was just cute.
So then I get home with DH and it?s about 7:30ish and I am still having these contractions? but I am not even 100% sure they are contractions so I cave and I call my mom? I say now please don?t rush into a crazy panic or get over excited and she agreed not to panic or announce it to the entire house. So I tell her I am feeling this ?wave? type feeling that starts at the top and goes down, along with cramping, and a wrap around back pain, are these contractions? No she didn?t announce it to the entire house, she answered in such a way that Every that was still there could have taken one wile guess what was happening, though they are the people that will be in the waiting room waiting for this baby to come out, and I didn?t mind that much it was still the simple fact of listen to me, but no that cant happen.
To finish my rant I called L&D and talked to the on call Doctor, I took a hot shower and rolled around on my exercise ball which helped a little, I was awake most of the night with contractions but they have stopped, the Doctor seems to think that I am ?getting ready? ha ha I have been hearing that for 4 weeks but she has a feeling ill make it to my appointment on Monday. I also LOVE that some of these doctors seem to think we can all just take time off of work, she says ?hunny if you are tired in the morning, because they may last stay home I will get you a note from me.? I understand that she is being caring but if I stay home? I don?t get paid, and while it?s a nice thought? I don?t want to think about it because it?s tempting! ? End.
Thanks for reading, sorry! Again hope everyone had a wonderful day yesterday! J
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Re: Rant/Vent- WAY overly long sorry
Families. What can you do? Grateful for them, but they drive us nuts.
I am so glad someone else can relate! My Grandmother didn?t make me sit but I get an earful all the time of what I am going wrong and why, literally I bought my diapers too early? Or Maternity photos ?pregnancy is something that happens you shouldn?t want to show it off.?
My thoughts? YES I DO!!!!! I was never supposed to get pregnant! I am a 23 year old married woman if I wear what I want take maternity pictures AND ill buy my child what I want when I want. Thank you meme for your advice that was probably really great 55 years ago!
Good Luck with the rest of your pregnancy only a few weeks left!
I must say your rant made me feel a little better.... I only had 1 person really "attack" my stomach - considering the number of people we saw on 2 separate days, I now feel rather lucky.
To share, my dad's, wife's mother (yes, technically my step-grandmother.... but that's not how I think of her) is Russian and despite 25+ years in this country speaks very, very limited English. Despite this, and despite the fact that I've only seen her a handful of times since meeting her, she has appointed herself my grandmother (nevermind I already have 2 that I am quite happy with). I know, I know, I should be grateful that she means well, blah blah blah. While I am, that does not mean I am grateful she feels the need to invade my personal space.
I am not a fan of anyone but my husband touching my stomach - and overall I can't complain because I can only think less than a handful of others who have. I don't think being pregnant means the world has a right to touch your stomach and find it insulting that people do it. Well unfortunately Sunday I got stuck near this lady and first I got a hug and a kiss (fine, that's normal), but then she grabbed my sweater and started rubbing my belly - and was speaking in Russian to me like I have a clue as to what she's saying, and keeps rubbing my belly. I was so repulsed that I almost started crying right then and there.
Being pregnant is difficult (emotionally) for me in that my mom passed away almost 10 years ago and as my dad understandably moved on and got remarried that is the reason this woman is even in our lives. But rubbing my belly like that was just too far for me and it took everything I had not to reach out and rub hers back or something far worse.
So although I'm sorry you experienced such a miserable time... I am a little glad I wasn't alone!
Not alone in the least bit, and like you said we should be greatful that we have such caring people in our lives but for some reason that doesn't make us feel any better. I guess the one thing that we should remember is that we are not alone in this, and that it is almost over and soon no one will be rubbing our bellies, talking to them in Russian, or wishing on them like we are freakin buddha!
Cheer up friends!