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August 2011 Moms
Let's hear it ladies! I love my MIL but...
I feel less guilty venting about my MIL when I start the sentence with love 
I love my MIL but...
she exaggerates to the extreme! She comes to our house once a week to watch both of our kids (which is wonderful for all of us) - but everyday when I get home she tells me some amazing story about something my 2 year old daugther said or did and something else super impressive that 3 month old son did. Things I know they either didn't do, or didn't do on their own. I guess I'm supposed to think they'll only do it for Grandma! I swear, she's going to tell me my son took his first steps soon...
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Re: Let's hear it ladies! I love my MIL but...
I love my MIL but....
ever since my wedding day when she was rushing in late to get ready and was swearing all the way to the bathroom and didn't even look at me to say, "Hi" (she had never seen my dress). I've had bad feelings towards her. I was downstairs waiting for others to take pictures, I was with my Mom and MIL's Mom. I cried.
I love my MIL but...
She's extremely high maintenance. Enough said.
HA! I have to laugh at yours because it sounds like she is making you feel bad for having time away from your kids, but yet, is willing to watch them. Guilt trip to the extreme!
I love my MIL but...
she likes to mess with my kids schedules/routines. Last night, it was an hour past Lydia's normal bedtime and she was very cranky...crying and upset. MIL said "Oh-- she's fine! Let's keep her up another hour to play a board game!" WTF?!
She then watched Quentin last night and kept him up until midnight! She called us today bragging about it, and in the background he was crying and whiny.
Good work, MIL.
I love my MIL but....
She is too religous, I mean terribly. DH and I are not very religous people and it drives her nuts. Everything she buys for DS has something to do with God or Jesus. I talked to her the other day and asked her what she was doing and she said "working on Blake's christening blanket". We NEVER discussed getting him christened, WTF?!?! That is just the icing on the cake compared to the other things she does...
I could second this, but also add that she's religious on Sundays only.
I love my MIL, but she drives me nuts all the time. Her family is officially AWESOME though!
I love my MIL but...
she's always rocking my baby to sleep! She watches him during the day and I swear from the minute she gets him that's all she does.
I love my MIL but...
She is always in Emmetts face. Yes, I understand that this is your first grandchild and you enjoy interacting with him but really?!? At Thanksgiving yesterday other people were holding DS and she was all in his face. And she will let him CIO. Okay I understand it worked for the boys when they were little but we are not chosing to do so yet. And she always has to be right and if she isnt she pouts like a child.
I take back my answer and change it to THIS!
For the win!!! lol
I love my MIL...but I don't like how she is fake nice. It is really annoying that she won't admit she doesn't like something or doesn't agree. It is always "well it is okay..." even though it isn't. Like "Oh it is okay that the waiter totally gave me the wrong food." No...it isn't...get it fixed.
Also...when we were over for the holiday she had about 20 people stop by all day without even asking me or DH. It was like open house from 7am until 11pm. Who thinks it is okay to have people over at 11pm? It was crazy and I didn't want to be mad at people because they came over when she said they could...but the child needs to eat and sleep at some point!
I love my MIL but...
she is a bit on the controlling side. She is still trying to figure out that DH is an adult with a wife and a child, which means that he DOESN'T have to do what she tells him. She is also trying to dictate to us when she gets to babysit Emmett. I am not opposed to her babysitting, but I AM opposed to her telling me when. I have two recent examples:
1.) She filled up a Cafe Rio card for a free meal and told us she was going to give it to us (it's one of DH's favorite places to eat) so that we could go on a date. But she was only going to give it to us when we dropped Emmett off at her house, because the deal was that she got to babysit.
2.) DH's aunt plans a dinner with her nieces and nephews every year. Well, MIL told DH that she told his Aunt that we couldn't be invited unless we agreed to let her watch Emmett. Um...excuse me? It's not her dinner, for one thing, and I will choose who babysits and when, thank you very much.
I love my MIL, but...
I hate that she doesn't respect our wishes as parents when it comes to LO's eating. Carter is breastfed & when she watches him she will NOT feed him the bottles of prepared BM that I leave in the fridge for her. She literally went out & bought her own formula & special "nursery" water to prepare her own bottles. She also thinks that he is under fed all the time & will literally feed him every time he cries. EVERY. TIME. The first day she watched him she fed him every 30-60 mins. (she wrote it down). He went through 7 pairs of pjs from all the spitting up. Oh, but that's normal according to her.
She thinks I have control of ALL my LO's actions. MIL-"He's doing this because you...."
Sounds to me like she wants to play mommy, and she can't do that if she can't make her own bottles. *rolls eyes*
Yeah, the first day she watched him she used all of the formula samples in our pantry. The second day she watched him she asked where the formula was & I told her there wasn't any, but that AGAIN there were bottles of BM in the fridge ready to go. I told her that she was not to overfeed him this time. Little did I know that she already had her own formula & "nursery" water in the car. Needless to say, she has not watched him since. If she won't respect our wishes then she can't be left alone with him. I put my foot down on this one.
Ummm...same here. ILs live in Orlando, we are in California. They were here when DD was born but only saw her for a second because FIL got diagnosed with shingles the day after she was born.
We are going out there in January for 7 days and I'm already stressing about it. MIL did not bf any of her three kids and doesn't understand why I doa and still am. She said she would borrow a high chair to feed dd when we are there...she'll be five. Oaths and we aren't starting solids until after 6 months, to which she was appalled. She also said she can't wait to give dd bottles...I dont plan to pump much while I'm there because I don't want to worry about wasting milk or traveling with extra...she's super butt hurt about it and says I'm taking waway from her grandmother moments.
I wish she would make her son take responsibility for his actions. Stop bailing him out, supporting him financially. He screwed up. Let him pay for it.
I wouldn't be letting her watch him then. Then I scrolled down further and see that you aren't good for you.
The brothers I Rule and OMG! with their faithful sidekickFootFoot.
My life has a superb cast but I can't figure out the plot.
I want to love my MIL, but i really don't think i do. She talks all the time about how DS is such a blessing and to our family. Dear Crazy lady, do you not think i know that?????? Then she told me the other day that it just warms her heart that DS has such good parents.. WTH lady! Did you not think we were going to be? UGH sometimes i really can't stand her. Then add to that her calling his boy part a little "weasel" and baby talking to him constantly. She really makes me want to scream!
Um, do we have the same MIL? Because mine does the exact. same. thing. omg.
ETA: I want to delete her but I'd never hear the end of it. I made a special list on FB and put her on it...then messed with the settings so I can choose which pictures and status updates and friends comments she sees. I also changed my picture tagging settings so that I have to approve all tags, because my ILs are constantly attempting to tag themselves in the pics of DD I do choose to let them see.
Now I just send them pictures via email or put them on my blog...but then she saves the pictures and uploads them to her own FB...even after I sent her an email saying that I'm not comfortable with her posting pics of my DD. *sigh*
BFP 12/10/10 - DD1 8/16/11
BFP 10/29/13 - c/p 11/2/13
BFP 11/29/13 - DD2 7/18/14
BFP 3/20/18 - DS1 due 12/2/18
Wow. If my MIL (or anyone else, for that matter) did that, it would be the last time they babysat LO.
ETA: I responded to that before I read your reply. Good for you for putting your foot down!
BFP 12/10/10 - DD1 8/16/11
BFP 10/29/13 - c/p 11/2/13
BFP 11/29/13 - DD2 7/18/14
BFP 3/20/18 - DS1 due 12/2/18