Planning the next baby already? Has it changed?

chillyupnorth · November 2011

I'm just curious how many of you are thinking about the next baby already, and whether your plans for your family have changed since LO was born?

Before DD was born, DH and I were sure we would have 2 kids that were 3 years apart. Now I'm thinking (at least) 3 kids, and that we should start trying for #2 when DD turns 1. I thought it would take some convincing to get DH on board, but I think he is open to the idea! After having DD, I know that 2 kids is definitely not enough for me. There were 4 kids in my family and I want DD to have more than 1 sibling!

tandb2010 · November 2011

I always wanted a big family, however I am 31 and I don't see me have 5 kids. Hehe. DH says in about 2 years we can start trying again, I say when she hits 1. I guess we will see. But I hated, no loathed, being KU, so I kinda want to get it over with sooner. Also I think I will be ok with only 2.

EmSue412 · November 2011

DH and I have a loose plan of starting to try for #2 when DD is a year old. We would love to have 3 little ones (I could go for 4!) but we will have to wait and see! This has always been our plan. I LOVED being pregnant, so I'm actually looking forward to doing it again... And hopefully again... And maybe again.

brittas · November 2011

Your family plan sounds just like mine! And yes, my plans have changed after LO was born. I used to want 2-3 kids, now its more like 3-4. Hopefully we will TTC when LO is 1 (or earlier if I am ovulating). But I plan on BF as long as possible, so who knows when that will start again.

I would love for baby #2 to be a girl, that way with baby #3 we can be surprised and wait to find out the sex.

I pray that we will be able to have a big family. My mother had secondary infertility, so I get scared sometimes about the possibility of it happening to me.

etoyama · November 2011

I would love to have one more but I don't know if we'll be able to. We have "unexplained infertility" and it took us 2.5 years to have DD. I had a bad pregnancy and almost had her at 25 weeks. I was on bed rest from then on. DH finds the idea of going through IVF again and then another difficult pregnancy very daunting. He's not sure we should try to have more. But as I said, I'd love to have one more child.

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha · November 2011

Our original plan was 2 kids, 2 years apart.

Then when DD1 was about 6 months old, DH told me he wasn't so sure about having any more kids. Did I mention those first few months were really hard for us? lol Thankfully DH changed his mind and we started TTC when DD turned one. Got KU pretty quickly DD2 was born a week before DD1 turned 22 months.

The second we laid eyes on DD2, DH and I both opened up to the idea of having a 3rd. Nothing set in stone as of yet, except we both agree we'll discuss it more seriously when DD2 gets closer to turning 1.

legaleagles · November 2011

Dh wants to start trying as, like before she's one. I'm willing to discuss it at 1, but likely won't be ready until she's 2. She's been tough but I do want at least one ore. Dh wants three. We live in such a hcol, though that we would be tight with three kids in our three bdrm house and I think it will 7-10 years before we can move to a bigger house.

We also had if to deal with. I have annovulatory pcos. We were lucky and got pg with our third medicated iui cycle but who knows what the next time will be like. And I'm 32 and don't want to be having babies when I'm too old.

betsy538 · November 2011

Our original plan was to not have children....looks like that one didn't work out to well for us!

I'm 98% sure that we're going to be a one and done family.

MandiNewMommy · November 2011

I always said two kids and that is it. Well now I am thinking at least three. I guess it kind of depends if the next one is a boy or girl. We only have a 3 bedroom house so we would have to look for something bigger as well. I would have TONS if I could.

itsmevkb · November 2011

Our plan hasn't really changed at all. We have a frozen embryo and will definitely do a frozen embryo transfer sometime next year, just not exactly sure when.

I've always wanted a lot of kids but now that we have three and our oldest is in full-day school with homework and activities I realize just how hard having three, four, five, etc. is going to be. It's one thing when they are babies, it's a different ballgame when you have differing schedules for each kid and you need to spend time with each one doing homework and going to school functions, etc. I'm still hoping to add a fourth to our family but realize more now than ever before how demanding that will be as they grow up.

Cobra11 · November 2011

betsy538:
Our original plan was to not have children....looks like that one didn't work out to well for us!
I'm 98% sure that we're going to be a one and done family.

This was us too, I seriously doubt another baby in this family.

MMS88 · November 2011

Plans have not changed..we plan on having 2 and 3 is still up in the air. DH wants to start trying in May or sooner. Only because we were unable to get pregnant on our own (I have PCOS) and had to have medical intervention.

leducsmith · November 2011

Plans for us have not changed since DS was born. DS was my first child I gave birth to but our families 2nd (he has a daughter from previous marriage). We knew we would always have the one and be done. Having a baby and a girl who is turning 12 next month...I have my hands full

sapphirewolfkdv · November 2011

Our plans haven't changed much. We are going to start trying when DS is about a year-and-a-half. We are hoping to have our second when he is two. We want 4 kids (though DH has said that he wouldn't mind having 5...we'll see, since he's not the one that has to be pregnant. LOL!)

silliestbunny · November 2011

First time poster here

We have two under one! Both adopted at birth... I wouldn't change it for the world.
I'd love one more but adoption is so darn expensive... we haven't close that door but I think this may be it.

AKBrideinMD · November 2011

We have always wanted 2-4 (really 3-4 but it depends on expense) and that hasn't changed...The only thing that has changed is I want them a bit closer together. I used to want no less than three years. We'll probably start TTC when DD is one, instead of closer to two.

bradandkatie · November 2011

I was not sure I wanted kids...so this one was a big deal! I am totally in love and definitely want a sibling, so I guess my DH wins in the whole having more argument! Dang adorable baby! I'm thinking just one more...but I love how cuddly she is I can see me wanting a third...

wintermama11 · November 2011

It's funny because before DD was born, DH wanted to wait to have kids until we were married 10 years while I would have loved to have started TTC after 2 years. (We compromised and started TTC after 4 years.) He knew he wanted a family but was in no rush whatsoever to get started. Now that we have DD, however, he's all of a sudden talking about having second. He's even encouraging my parents to ask for a second grandchild for Christmas. What?! I think we're still going to wait until DD is 2 before we start TTC again. I'd like to have her out of diapers before we put another baby in the mix.

daylight11 · November 2011

I always assumed I'd have 2 kids but in the past several years, both my husband i agree that we might want to be One and Done. We don't know yet though. It may still be two.

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