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TTC After a Loss
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Anbody Else a Little Bummed about Thanksgiving?
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Ack. I just don't want to do it. I am feeling so bitter. I should be pregnant and I should be waddling around the kitchen. Instead, I am messed up on Clomid, tired, and just plain sad. All this family stuff and everyone with their kids is just really exhausting.
I am also 99 percent sure my friend, who has been trying for two, maybe three, months (one of which she saw her husband for only a few days due to living in separate countries) is pregnant. She didn't tell me, but she kept saying things that were definite hints and she usually uses me as her fertility/TTC confidant and when I asked about her irregular cycles, she said, "Oh, it basically worked out." and her face completely gave her away. I have known her for a very long time, and she is a horrific liar, so I know something is up. Lol. I really want to be happy for her, I truly do. She is a wonderful person. But, I am struggling right now. I am sort of glad she didn't come out and say it directly because now I will be prepared when she does.
Anyway, this combined with the holidays has me totally bummed out and feeling kind of inadequate and incomplete. Please let me know I am not alone out here in mopey-ville. It has been a long day. Thanks, ladies.
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Re: Anbody Else a Little Bummed about Thanksgiving?
The holidays are sooo difficult for me. You are not alone. Spending so much time with my pregnant sister and cousins, is not something I'm looking forward to. I'm very anxious for the holidays to be over.... Is it 2012 yet?
((hugs)) to you, girlie. I hope you get through tomorrow okay.
Jenn
IVF#1 BFN IVF#2 BFP, loss at 19 weeks FET#1 BFN IVF#3 BFP, m/c FET#2 BFN
Missing our twins Zachary and Madison, lost at 19 weeks on 11/13/09, edd 4/9/10
BFP 7/17/10, m/c 7/25/10, edd 3/25/11
Ectopic, lost left tube 4/20/11, edd 12/6/11
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You are not alone! We had hoped to be able to be able to call our friends and family tomorrow telling them we were thankful for our baby coming in June but that won't be happening any more. I did share our story on Faces Of Loss Faces Of Hope the other day but it certainly wasn't the announcement we were expecting to make.
I'm feeling really sad, and like you, I suspect my best friends who has been TTC for a few months is now pregnant. When I shared our pregnancy early on with another close friend she disclosed that she is also pregnant and I do wish them both healthy pregnancies because I would never wish this on them. I definitely find myself bitter at times that this spring they'll be welcoming their babies in to the world and we won't. I keep trying to reminding myself that I do have a lot to be thankful for and that we will have our time eventually to be parents.
Hope you (and everyone else here) have a happy Thanksgiving. My husband and I are going to try and be grateful for the blessings we do have while looking forward to new beginnings in 2012 which will be here before we know it.
BFP #2 on 2/10/12 - Little Nugget's EDD 10/23/12, Natural Miscarriage on 2/29/12
BFP #3 on 6/7/12 - BB's EDD 2/19/13, arrived 2/18/13!
Mother to DD, born sleeping on 9/28/11, and DS, born 3/12/13, 5lbs 13oz, 19in
You are so definitely not alone. We were going to tell our families this weekend and instead I'm still bleeding from my natural m/c. If I coud drug myself through the rest of this year, I would.
Hugs.
*BFP #1 9/10/11 Natural m/c 11/1/11 at 11 weeks, 5 days*
*Diagnosed as unexplained infertility*
*BFP #2 12/6/14 after IUI#2 Hopeful! EDD 8/14/15*
Your're definitely not alone. I love the holidays but am definitely feeling a little down. I would have been 11 weeks on Saturday. We're also not with our families tomorrow bc it's just too far to travel. Wah. Trying to summon up some thankfulness but it's definitely hard right now.
Hang in there. ((hugs))
Tomorrow will be hard for me too, and I know the next several weeks will probably be tough for all of us. Although I am new here, I am glad to have this board to come to at times like this. Everyone here can understand what you are going through and will always have an encouraging word for you.
I try my hardest not to let others' TTC journeys affect me, or compare them to mine, because at the end of the day I don't know what they have been through. With that being said though, it doesn't make it any easier to hear friends say they are pg or to be around my friends or cousins who are pregnant. (((hugs to you))) Holidays are hard and this doesnt make it easier.
ETA: I re-read the second paragraph and don't want it to sound preachy or anything...I am not trying to say what works for me or what i try to do is what would work for you in your situation. I understand where you are coming from and just wanted to clarify that!
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
To those of you were planning to announce your pregnancies on Thanksgiving, I am so sorry. I cannot imagine how hard the holiday is for you. I know it's hard for everyone on here as holidays are supposed to be happy, and we are carrying so much grief with us.
It's good that we can come here to "get it out." I feel so supported. Thank you very much. You have helped a lot.
My thoughts and prayers will be with you all tomorrow. We will get through it, and one day, the holidays will be fun again (or so I choose to believe). ((hugs))
This, exactly. I usually love, love, love the holidays, but the last two years have been so bad, filled with bad news! This time last year I was pregnant with twins, and I had been planning to tell my family after the new year, only to lose them after being a victim of rape. This year, we were planning to tell our family after we passed the 1st trimester mark, but I had a natural m/c in September. The holidays just feel like SO MUCH right now. I just want to climb under the covers and hide from everyone.
Add me to the list... I'm actually really dreading today. I'll be at my ILs house, so I'm already missing my family (they're in Dallas with my grandparents). Today I'd be 14 weeks and we had planned to tell DH's extended family today. Instead, I'll have to smile and pretend to be excited when everyone talks about BIL and SIL having a baby due in May (2 days after our EDD).
I hope, for all of our sakes, that today goes better than we think it will. (((HUGS))) to al of you.
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BFP#1: 9-13-11 EDD: 5-26-12 MMC: 11-4-11 D&C: 11-8-11
BFP#2: 7-6-12 Elizabeth Faye ("Zuzu") born 3-21-13
Married my love 6/11/11 | MMC 10/11/11 | Eliza Frances born 9/18/12 | Rhett Garland born 2/24/14
TTC since 7/10, BFP#1~6/28/11(4wks2d)~EDD 3/4/12, missed m/c(8wks)~8/12/11, D&C~8/16/11
BFP#2~12/15/11~EDD 8/25/12, Hannah born 8/22/12~ 7lbs 10oz & 21 in. long.
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