Sometimes there is hope and things work out -long (nbr)
I had a very good friend in high school and when I moved back to my hometown after several years away we reconnected. We were inseparable and I was even in her wedding. I had been friends with her husband in high school, and her husband and my then-bf were good friends from high school too. We all hung out together and it was amazing.
Then we had an incredibly stupid falling out. Like not even just her and I, our husbands too. It was terrible. We tried many times to talk and see if we could go from there but we just ended up fighting each time.
It killed me when I got engaged and married and not only was she not in my wedding, but wasnt even there. I couldnt even invite her 
Then we both got pregnant, and were due within weeks of each other, and we still couldnt seem to find our way back to each other. I cant even count how many times I cried thinking about her being on the other side of town, pregnant too, and we couldnt even talk. Our boys were born a month apart.
A few months ago I had had enough. I wanted her in my life so badly, and it killed me how much time we had wasted with stupidness. At the very least I wanted closure on what had happened, if we couldnt manage to be friends. We agreed to talk and that we both wanted a relationship again, but then we didnt talk all summer.
Finally we connected again last week and agreed on a day to meet up. It was just like old times! Amazing how 3 years didnt change how we felt about each other and how we got along. We talked out everything that had happened and agreed to talk all together with our husbands.
We are both extremely sad about all the wasted time, and not being able to share my wedding and our pregnancies, but things will be better from here. Maybe we needed the time to grow up, I dont know, but I am very excited
and hopeful. We are going to get together this week and have our sons
meet 
Moral of the story I guess is- even if you think there is no hope, and you have lost someone who is important to you, things truly can just change in an instant (even after 3 years!)
Thanks for reading my ramble I know many of you ladies struggle with losing friends, and I really wanted to share. My heart feels very full!
Re: Sometimes there is hope and things work out -long (nbr)
YAY for your repaired friendship! I haven't seen my best friend Jenny since 2006 (because she still lives in my hometown, and seeing my family is difficult), but every time we're together, it's like time hasn't passed.
I'm glad that everything's better with you and your best friend! I have a young college student now who I also taught a few years ago at the tribal high school, and I asked her if she had kept in touch with a classmate of hers who is due to have a baby next month. She said, "Omg. I didn't even like her in high school. Why would I stay in touch with her?"
So, I just said, "Well, there are people I didn't like in high school, but now that we're in our 30s, we've gotten past some of those things."
She then sort of said, "Oh. Maybe I will see how she is." Baby steps. Baby steps :-) (In my students' case, the tribal high school only graduates maybe 10 people a year, and I feel like Native American kids from the same reservation should have a bond...I don't get why these girls have to decide to "hate" each other for the rest of their lives. Ugh.)
Mac and cheese lover!
I'm so happy you reconnected with your friend. I had a similar situation in high school with my best friend, but then we reconnected in our late twenties. Fortunately, she was around for my wedding and baby, etc. When we "got back together," she mentioned to me she doesn't know why we ever stopped talking, yet I rehashed our big fight in my head all the time! She blames it on being on drugs at the time...whatever the reason, we both have totally moved on and it's so nice to have her back in my life.
Enjoy all the times with your new-old friend!!!
I'm glad you have been able to work things out. My best friend and I have been together for 20 years at varying levels of friendships. We have lived all over the world from each other, and missed huge life events. None of that changes how we feel about each other, she will always be my best friend even when we can't be "daily" friends.
What a great time for your heart to feel full!