moms of 2+...question about going your other child(ren)

sept9107bride · November 2011

when you went into labor with your second/additional children, what did you do with your other kids? my family lives 3 hours away but DH's only lives an hour away. but they are NOTORIOUS for being late (example...suppposed to have a 2pm Thanksgiving dinner this Sunday...we ate at 6pm). I really don't want to be waiting around for hours for them to show up at our house to watch DS. what did you do with your LO when you went into labor? I'm thinking I should probably have a plan for this...

someso · November 2011

I only have one, but we recently watched our friend's kid when they went to the hospital. They basically called around in advance and got a list of 4 or 5 friends that were going to be in town around that time and willing to help out. Then on delivery day, they called and we were available. So they dropped their kid off here and his grandma picked him up 4 hours later. She brought over a little typed up sheet of stuff about him, and he brought a DVD and some toys from home in a bag. It was very organized and we were glad to keep him for a little while.

jinx75 · November 2011

My mother lives 5 minutes down the street from us so when I go into labor we are taking DD to the hospital with us and my mom will watch over her in the waiting area while I deliver. DD will be the first one to meet her sister and hold her. Our hospital allows for siblings to stay in the hospital. So DD will be with us throughout the process.

NY-allie · November 2011

This baby will be number 2 for us. My mom lives ~7hr away and works. DH's parents live 3 hours away and are retired. We have several neighbors who have volunteered to watch DS until DH's parents can get here - any hour of the day or night. We also have some friends that we will use as a backup if all of our neighbors are unavailable. DS knows our neighbors really well and they will just watch him at our house.

pottermommy · November 2011

We have absolutely no idea what to do with SD........MIL refused b/c she says she HAS to be at the hospital the entire time until after he is born, and b/c I am having a Csection and I want sometime to get my wits about me, she isn't comming to the hospital until the day after.

Her bio mom isn't permitted visits so I have no earthly idea what to do.......I know it doesn't help at all I just thought I would let you know that you weren't alone.

RunSchwartzRun · November 2011

We honestly don't know what we are doing with DS yet. My parents live 12 hours away and ILs are 6ish. Right now the plan is that my mom will come to stay with us about a week before my EDD just in case. If I go into labor before that we will probably take DS to the hospital with us until a relative can get there to help.

xnbride · November 2011

This is such a stressful topic. I was/am more stressed out about this then the labor especially because I have a history of precipitous labors. Last time, we had to take DS1 with us to the hospital even though they had a no kids allowed policy due to H1N1. They let him in no problem. He almost witnessed the birth of his brother though LOL. My parents live about an hour away so it took them some time to arrive but they came about 30 minutes before DS2 was born.

I still don't know what we are doing this time. Probably the same thing. I might ask a friend if I can drop them off but I am not sure if I want to do that or not.

LottaLattes · November 2011

I had my dad and step mom come stay with us for 2 weeks. In the case that I went into labor early, I had a couple of friends on "maybe watch" that could watch my son in a pinch. My X couldn't drive so it was really hard to balance it all. In retrospect, I should have just left him at home, haha.

Having a plan in place is definitely a good idea, unless you're ok with him being there for the birth!

ECHC829 · November 2011

I don't have personal experience, but growing up we were the only people in our family on the east coast so our family was a 5-6hr plane ride away. I know when I was born, my parents took my brother to my neighbors house (it was in the middle of the night.. on new years eve) and he stayed there until they came home with me... I think they came to the hospital with him after I was born too...

Do you have neighbors you are close with or friends that live nearby that would be willing to come to your house, especially if its the middle of the night?

LoriJ11 · November 2011

We recently moved across the street from my BIL and SIL so we will probably just have one of them come over here (if it's in the middle of the night or something). I am supposed to have a scheduled C-section so my Mom will plan on being in town for that date. If all goes as scheduled she will take her for a few days until I am discharged.

If I didn't have either of those options I would have left her with my friend that I am really close with. She lived close by until one of my family could get her.

BritanyV · November 2011

Ask neighbors and/or friends, if all else fails, look into a nanny service or a babysitting service that can send someone on short notice. You would want a service that screens their people very well, since you are likely not to meet them prior to needing them for the birth.

My mom lives 2 miles from us, so we will drop off ds on the way to the hospital and she can bring him back to our house if she wants. My mom is SUPER SLOW at getting ready, this woman will be late to her own funeral! So I would not call her and expect her to be at my house quickly. lol

gardenandread · November 2011

This will be our second child, but we already have it planned. DS will go with some of our friends who have volunteered to take him if it happens on a weekend. If it is during the work week he will go to his in-home daycare provider for the overnight and then MIL will take him after the new baby is born. We live 1500 miles from our whole family, so we tend to plan way in advance!

sabrina69barnes · November 2011

I've never gone into labor before. I've either been induced or had a planned c-section. I'll have another planned c-section again but it's possible I could go into labor before. MIL will take off work the day of my planned c-section. I'll get DS1 on the bus before we leave for the hospital. MIL will stay with DS2 and after DS1 gets home from school she will bring them both to the hospital. If I go into labor before my c-section I have a friend who works about 30min away and said she could leave to watch the kids for us. Depending on what time it was either she or MIL would bring the kids later.

UsafWifey09 · November 2011

My family lives on the other side of the world! My husband had to bring our daughter along everywhere. He got some days off from work and we were getting ready to send DD to my mother but I ended up having my son a few days after I went into the hospital.(I was 22 weeks) This time around, she goes to school. So hopefully she is in school most of the time. If not shes going to be there again

UsafWifey09 · November 2011

LottaLattes:

I had my dad and step mom come stay with us for 2 weeks. In the case that I went into labor early, I had a couple of friends on "maybe watch" that could watch my son in a pinch. My X couldn't drive so it was really hard to balance it all. In retrospect, I should have just left him at home, haha.

Having a plan in place is definitely a good idea, unless you're ok with him being there for the birth!

I just wanted to tell you, you make me crave coffee every time LOL

sabrina69barnes · November 2011

Do you have a crisis nursery near you? They will take babies and children for a family emergency. If no one else was available this could be an option.

LottaLattes · November 2011

I just wanted to add, make sure you tell your child what to expect beforehand as well. A friend of kind's daughter thought they gave her away when her parents didn't come back overnight, poor thing.

noah-bear · November 2011

I am not even pregnant and this thought terrifies me. I am nearly crying because it is nice knowing I am not the only freaked one. We hqve a neighbor that has two daughters. I hope during the pregnancy we can get things a lot closer between us all and she can watch him. Once i hqve the baby, DH will be with DS and just come for visits until I go home. Otherwise, i will go have new LO alone and call DH with updates...not ideal, but knowing who DS is with and trusting them will help me focus on having new baby.... :::returning to lurking:::

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