Babies EVERYWHERE today...just tell me it is going to get easier.

Re: Babies EVERYWHERE today...just tell me it is going to get easier.

• sillygirlio member

  November 2011

  Hi.  I'm sorry you're having one of those days... but I can tell you that it WILL get easier.  I never thought I would be ok again, but this week I went to a first birthday party... and I opened an in home daycare (am I crazy?!) and it's going well... and we've been at the end of the end or the road since some time this summer.

  It takes a while especially if you haven't accepted it fully yet.  DH and I stopped and started again several times before we finally quit... and even now I have my good and bad days.  If I remember right, you're just out of treatments, right?  This up and down thing you're doing is normal...

  Have you read any books?  It helped me to know that what I was feeling was "normal".  Also, if you're the creative type you could try writing about your experience... that helped me A LOT.  It's good to get it out.

  And of course, keep posting here!

   

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• irishfrenchgirl

  November 2011

  Thank you...I needed to hear this today.  I know in my heart that things will get better but it is hard to see the forest through the trees. Indeed I am fresh out of treatment and am riding the fantastic roller coaster called SUCKVILLE!  Ugh...The worst thing is that I feel guilty for not being able to gush and ohh and ahh over my friends pictures and experiences.  It is too hard.  Lately, I have been writing in my journal, painting, and looking for anything crafty to help me through it all.  Can you recommend any books that really helped you?

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• ahappywife

  November 2011

  Sorry you had a bad day.  It will get better/easier, I promise!  It does take some time, but it will happen.  I still have some bad days, but not very often anymore.  On those days, I let myself have a good cry and then I feel better. 
  

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• ahappywife

  November 2011

  sillygirlio:

  Have you read any books?  It helped me to know that what I was feeling was "normal".  Also, if you're the creative type you could try writing about your experience... that helped me A LOT.  It's good to get it out.

  And of course, keep posting here!

  Do you mind sharing which books you read? 
  

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• sillygirlio member

  November 2011

  Yes, I read Sweet Grapes:  How to stop being infertile and start living again.  and Silent Sorority.  If you go to amazon.com and search either of those titles you'll get a bunch more in the "customers who bought this item also bought..." section.  I haven't read most of the rest, but there are quite a few.

  I enjoyed both of the books listed above.

   

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• ahappywife

  November 2011

  Thank you, I will look these books up.
  

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• hollymichael

  November 2011

  Yes, it does get easier. It really does. I still have moments when I feel sad, but most of the time I feel good and can honestly say I am happy. When we first made the decision to stop treatments, I read a couple of books and saw a therapist a few times to help me get through those first few weeks. We are all here for you if you need anything.

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