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northernvabride
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It's a.....bittersweet gender announcement (sad and long)
northernvabride
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We're having our third girl. I am so excited about that, but today did not go as it was supposed to go, so I am having a really hard time being happy about this when everything else is so awful. As I posted last week, FIL is sick with cancer (just diagnosed a week and a half ago), but was given some time, 3 mo - 1 year, before he passed. Well, he was re-admitted to the hospital over the weekend for difficulty breathing and was doing better one day and worse the next. DH and his brothers spent the weekend with him with the older of the grandkids, while I was home with our young girls. This morning at 1:30am, the phone rang and it was the hospital saying that he had gotten much worse and they were trying to resuscitate him, and had been trying for more than 10 minutes. So, DH called his brothers and they all headed to the hospital (1 hour away). They eventually found a pulse and had him on a breathing maching, but now he has fluid in his lungs and his kidneys are failing, so basically, he is about to die, if he isn't already brain dead, which I assume he would be after that long trying to resuscitate him. So DH couldn't come to the ultrasound. We had initially decided to have the tech put the gender in an envelpoe that we could open with FIL if it looked like he wouldn't live until the baby was born. Then last night I was having such anxiety about it and little panic attacks about how I felt like there was nothing in my control in my life now, so I decided we should find out and tell him this week for Thanksgiving when we all went to see him in the hospital or at home. Then the call comes in from the hospital and that was that. If he wakes up today by some miracle, I wanted DH to be able to tell him about the baby. And I have to be at work, because I am acting AVP for my boss, who is on vacation, but I am a complete mess, basically in tears at my desk. but so thankful to have my wonderful family, and my third little girl on the way. She was healthy and kicking, which I was so relieved to see.
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Re: It's a.....bittersweet gender announcement (sad and long)
Oh my. First off, big congrats on having a third girl. Your older two will adore having a little sister to dote on.
I'm so sorry about your FIL. My thoughts are with your family.
First, congrats on expecting your third girl and glad that everything looked well with your LO. I'm one of three girls and it's very special.
I'm sorry that your FIL is in failing health and that your DH wasn't able to be with you for the ultrasound. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family during this time.
oh, I am so sorry about your FIL. How bittersweet ...
congrats on another healthy girl!
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I don't pretend to know exactly how you are feeling, but as you know we just went through a very similar thing with FIL this fall. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Such a lot to try to and process and manage. Hang in there!!!!
What an emotional couple of days for your family--I'm so sorry to hear about your FIL.
Congratulations on your third girl. I hope that wonderful news helps you and your DH cope with everything else that's going on.
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what a rollercoaster of emotions for you right now. i'm so terribly sorry that your FIL's health deteriorated so quickly. i'm glad you came to an agreeable compromise about finding out baby's gender. i'm sure your FIL would be honored to know that you did this for him.
HUGS
I am so sorry to hear about your FIL. Like everyone else said what an emotional roller coaster.
Congrats on having a 3rd girl, we have three girls and just adore it!
I am so sorry to hear about your FIL, that is heartwrenching and I hope he comes to so your H can tell him the happy news.
And congrats on your 3rd little girl--as the youngest of 3 girls, I happen to think that being the youngest of 3 makes her pretty special! ;-)
I'm sorry about your FIL - that must be just awful for everyone. I think it's so nice you intended to share the news with him - I would be a wreck if I was you.
But a girl - another little girl - how absolutely wonderful. What an amazing blessing.
Congratulations on your little girl!
I'm very sorry to hear about your FIL.
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Such sad news about FIL, and so hard to have such good news and such hard news at the same time. Congratulations on girl #3 for sure! Lots of thoughts for your family at this time.
I'm so sorry about your FIL. How terrible. I'll be thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.
Congrats on your new girl!!
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