Introduction...and looking for a TTC buddy :)

mcginnis22 · November 2011

I'm new-ish to the bump, and would love to find a buddy (or a few) who are in a similar boat or have been through similar stuff as DH and I have.

DH and I have been married for just under a year-and-a-half, and have been actively TTC for that long (17 months, off BC for 18 months). We m/c in February at just under 8 weeks, and since then, it's been a whirlwind of doctors, tests, procedures, research, etc. We just did our first round of IUI, with 100mg Clomid. BFN. I go in for a check/u.s. tomorrow for round #2 of IUI. CD3, HSG, and SA were all perfectly normal, no issues whatsoever. I have a couple cysts that my RE is not concerned about, and possible endo (EXTREMELY painful periods since mc-- have landed me in the ER, and I'm laid out, immobile, drugged up, for 3-4 days per month).

It was really disappointing to get the negative after our first IUI, as throughout the process, RE was super optimistic based on our ages (me-26, DH-30), test results, etc. I'm entirely sick of people saying to relax, stop trying, get drunk, etc. to get pregnant. It makes me want to punch them every time I hear it. I have a group of friends who are super supportive, but are not at all at the point in their lives where kids are even remotely on the brain- as much as they try, it's just not the same as someone actually going through it.

Sorry if there's an actual place to try to introduce yourself and get a TTC buddy...still trying to figure out where everything is on the bump

d3esika · November 2011

Sorry you are going through all of this. You've found the right place to be though! Welcome!

ukcats27 · November 2011

Welcome to the board. If you think that you may have Endo then please consider looking into having a laparoscopy. Endo is no joke and the longer you wait the worse it can get. Also, it can relieve you of some of the pain you are in. If you have any questions about the lap process feel free to PM or page me. Good luck!

jaguar2744 · November 2011

Aww you guys married right after us! Not sure that our story is exactly like yours but I do know how hard it is for my DH and I TTC. Hope that you are able to find support from 3T. There are a ton of great women and men on this board.

Temp878586125009588 · November 2011

I'm sorry you are going through all this. And I'm sorry for your loss. You've found a great place and wonderful group of women! And ukats is right about the Endo! (((hugs)))

lovin life23 · November 2011

ukcats27:
Welcome to the board. If you think that you may have Endo then please consider looking into having a laparoscopy. Endo is no joke and the longer you wait the worse it can get. Also, it can relieve you of some of the pain you are in. If you have any questions about the lap process feel free to PM or page me. Good luck!

I agree with this. Although I also have suspected endo as well (very painful periods, sex hurts as well as other symptoms) but my Dr. said she would rather get me pregnant before doing a lap. If I am not pg this cycle she wants to move on to medicated cycles to control my periods and induce ovulation since I normally dont ovulate. She said she'd rather try to get me pg first than do a lap right now b/c a lap would push me back with our TTC, we'd be on hold for a little bit...and a pregnancy would clear me up or at least stop the painful cycles (duh) lol.

But...your's sound so much more painful than mine. While I usually take vicodin during my periods to help I have never gone to the ER for pain....not yet anyway...it is something to consider but I also understand holding out. I think I will hold out 3 ,medicated cycles then do a lap if we dont get pregnant...

Anyway (enough about me sorry!!) haha...best wishes with everything...hope your pain eases up and welcome!!!!

ukcats27 · November 2011

lovin life23:
ukcats27:
Welcome to the board. If you think that you may have Endo then please consider looking into having a laparoscopy. Endo is no joke and the longer you wait the worse it can get. Also, it can relieve you of some of the pain you are in. If you have any questions about the lap process feel free to PM or page me. Good luck!

I agree with this. Although I also have suspected endo as well (very painful periods, sex hurts as well as other symptoms) but my Dr. said she would rather get me pregnant before doing a lap. If I am not pg this cycle she wants to move on to medicated cycles to control my periods and induce ovulation since I normally dont ovulate. She said she'd rather try to get me pg first than do a lap right now b/c a lap would push me back with our TTC, we'd be on hold for a little bit...and a pregnancy would clear me up or at least stop the painful cycles (duh) lol.

But...your's sound so much more painful than mine. While I usually take vicodin during my periods to help I have never gone to the ER for pain....not yet anyway...it is something to consider but I also understand holding out. I think I will hold out 3 ,medicated cycles then do a lap if we dont get pregnant...

Anyway (enough about me sorry!!) haha...best wishes with everything...hope your pain eases up and welcome!!!!

I have mixed emotions about that. If I didn't have my lap when I did then I could have lost my whole reproductive system because my endo had infected my appendix so bad. I know my case may be extreme but I don't think you should put it off too long if it is suspected. It sucks that it puts TTC on hold but it could be worth it in the end. Good luck to you both!

Robeano · November 2011

You are for sure at the right place. Welcome to the board, I hope your stay is short.

lovin life23 · November 2011

ukcats27:
lovin life23:

ukcats27:
Welcome to the board. If you think that you may have Endo then please consider looking into having a laparoscopy. Endo is no joke and the longer you wait the worse it can get. Also, it can relieve you of some of the pain you are in. If you have any questions about the lap process feel free to PM or page me. Good luck!

I agree with this. Although I also have suspected endo as well (very painful periods, sex hurts as well as other symptoms) but my Dr. said she would rather get me pregnant before doing a lap. If I am not pg this cycle she wants to move on to medicated cycles to control my periods and induce ovulation since I normally dont ovulate. She said she'd rather try to get me pg first than do a lap right now b/c a lap would push me back with our TTC, we'd be on hold for a little bit...and a pregnancy would clear me up or at least stop the painful cycles (duh) lol.

But...your's sound so much more painful than mine. While I usually take vicodin during my periods to help I have never gone to the ER for pain....not yet anyway...it is something to consider but I also understand holding out. I think I will hold out 3 ,medicated cycles then do a lap if we dont get pregnant...

Anyway (enough about me sorry!!) haha...best wishes with everything...hope your pain eases up and welcome!!!!

I have mixed emotions about that. If I didn't have my lap when I did then I could have lost my whole reproductive system because my endo had infected my appendix so bad. I know my case may be extreme but I don't think you should put it off too long if it is suspected. It sucks that it puts TTC on hold but it could be worth it in the end. Good luck to you both!

Oh my! So sorry U!! ....I totally understand that concern as well....I think about it every.single.day....uuggghhh...all the more reason IF sucks! PCOS alone sucks...possible Endo added to the mix even suckier....I think my judgement is a *little* clouded only because I was pregnant earlier this year....and with the loss.....and everything about it...I was so close I want a baby so bad...as we all do I know .....conflicting for sure..........