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One big mess :(, need advice kinda long sorry

AMBERDAISEYAMBERDAISEY
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So recently I became a single mom clearly not by choice i was 7 months pregnant when i caught my fiance cheating on me and sleeping with a girl from his work one of which whom knew i was pregnant. so now its just me and the two boys my 21 month old and my 10 week old. Their father is now telling me he wants to try and get back together and that  he misses us. I am afraid that it will just happen again is it wrong to watn to be with their dad? or is it fair for the boys to try to give them a happy home. We do love each other but he spends hours on end hounding me about if i have been with anyone since him.  And i constantly say no because its the truth and any of you single moms wiht two infants knows its so hard to even find time for yourself let alone have time for dating.  So would you try to fix things or just go your seperate ways

 

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Re: One big mess :(, need advice kinda long sorry

  • achase123achase123

    You caught HIM cheating but he's constantly hounding YOU about being with someone else?  And now you're wondering whether or not to work it out with him?  Really?

    Dating is hard when you're a single mom but that shouldn't be a good reason to stay with someone who's clearly a douche.  That's my advice.

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  • AMBERDAISEYAMBERDAISEY

    Its hard i wish it didnt happen but i know i cant change it and i know wishing wont help anything either but i just feel lost ya know. im afraid i cant do it on my own and i just cant figure out why someone could do something so horrible. it still makes me cry our youngest son that he didnt bond with cause he was to busy with the mistress looks like a minature and it makes it hard all i see is him when i look at my baby im glad the boys are in my life and would never trade them for anything i would die without them. and now hes begging me to let our oldest son who is 22 months stay the night with him.  i just dont feel comfortable about it and i dont want some random girl around my kid that i dont know he had a daughter with is ex which was a year before meeting me and he told her that we were gonna get married and shes 8 and she calls me all the time and asks if daddy and i are back together yet and it just breaks my heart and its clear it breaks hers i just dont know how to handle my situation and am falling apart at the seams litterally

     

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  • mamastichmamastich member

    I just tried to work it out with my DH because he cheated when I was 7 months pg, come to find out the last 2 weeks weve been trying to 'work it out' hes been seeing someone else.

    Get mad, get everything and on to the next.

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Single mama - beautiful baby - learning to live
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  • AMBERDAISEYAMBERDAISEY

    you know whats crazy is thats just how my night went the last few weeks has been us trying to work to get back together and he was seeing another girl behind my back and all i want to do is cry but im just gonna get even now. and move on

     

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  • over35and proudover35and proud
    He's not going to stop and Why should he if you going to keep allowing him to treat you that way. I understand exactly what you are going through cause I have been there and done that. He's concerned about who u have been with because he is still doing his thing. It's not going to be easy but I can assure you that you can make it without him. I'm a mother of two and one on the way and refuse to be with someone who I can't trust, that is no way to leave believe me. Staying  just for the kids is not going to make everything better. You are just going to unhappy, upset, and insecure. Move and cut your loses. You will get through it...ijs
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