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MIL Vent

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I'm so annoyed! I've been on modified bedrest since 25 weeks, and everything has been going well! I take it very easy and spend most of my time resting at home. Tonight MIL thought she should lecture me on how I need to take bedrest seriously, and how someone she knows most their twins because they did too much. It seriously upsets me when people tell me stories about dead babies, and I have no idea what to say back. Any suggestions?
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  • erniebuffloerniebufflo member
    Tell her you're sure she means well, but telling you scary stories and stressing you out isn't good for the babies, either. You could even say your doc wants you to keep your heart rate down or something if you wanted.

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    I would probably say something like "MIL, I know you're just concerned about me about me and the babies, but honestly saying things like that makes me feel worse because you make it seem like I'm not doing all that I can to take care of the babies. Bed rest is difficult and not enjoyable, but I've been following all of my doctor's orders because I know I need to do everything right for the girls. That includes trying not to worry and stress out, so please just trust me to do what I need to do."
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  • snoangel79snoangel79 member

    That is so annoying! I can see my MIL saying the same thing to me! I would say as PP said that what she is saying is stressing you out more and it's not good for the babies.

    At 14 weeks I went into the hospital for a collapsed lung due to my left main bronchus closing from scar tissue from radiation treatment for lymphoma over 8 years ago. My MIL tried to tell me it was because I wasn't eating enough protein (I was having a large aversion to meat at the time). I was like no lady, I had this once before 4 years ago and unfortunately it happened again now when I'm pregnant, this has nothing to do with not eating protein (apparently she was googling lung collapse and pregnancy)!! WTF haha... I was stressed enough with having to go through a surgical procedure to fix it! Sometimes it's better to let your phone go to VM with MIL's!!

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  • annie145annie145
    When I was on bedrest, my MIL would constantly ask me the same question - when do they say you are going home?  And then, when my girls were in the NICU, she would ask the same question EVERY TIME - when are they coming home?  It would drive me crazy because we didn't know, and it just underscored that they weren't home!  I didn't want to say anything directly to her (because I'm a wimp about that kind of stuff) but I asked my husband to, and that seemed to do the trick :-)
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  • Temp6313048411121614Temp6313048411121614 member
    I would just tell her that you understand she's worried about you and the babies but it freaks you out to hear those kinds of stories and your OB said that you're doing great and to keep doing what you're doing.  I'm sorry you're on BR so early, are you expected to stay on it until delivery (or pre determined amount of time) or is it a play it by ear type of thing?  Good luck.
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  • politelypinkpolitelypink

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    I would just tell her that you understand she's worried about you and the babies but it freaks you out to hear those kinds of stories and your OB said that you're doing great and to keep doing what you're doing.  I'm sorry you're on BR so early, are you expected to stay on it until delivery (or pre determined amount of time) or is it a play it by ear type of thing?  Good luck.

    I talked to DH about it, and I think he is going to talk to her about it. She quite often tells negetive stories that I have a really hard time dealing with. I'm on bedrest till the end of the pregnancy unfortunately. I can thankfully still do some things though, like go out for a meal, as long as I'm not on my feet long. Stuff like that really helps break up the long days!

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