First day home alone

wallace101610 · November 2011

Today is my first day here without anyone with me. My DD is 2 weeks old, and I am a NERVOUS WRECK! I am still pretty emotional anyways, and when my H left this morning I started to cry! I feel like a big loser, because I know that made it harder for him to go, and I tried so hard not to!

Anyone else on their own for the first time this week? I guess I will feel a lot better after I get a day or two under my belt, or at least I hope so!

morsey2011 · November 2011

I felt the same way when DH went back to work when DD was 2 weeks old. I was scared, and I even got really sad because I felt abandoned. It DID get better. It was a challenge at first because I felt like I couldn't get things done because she wanted to be held constantly. I recommend getting some sort of carrier. I didn't have one, and think it would helped me out a lot! GL! You will do great!

jgoetz1 · November 2011

Aww. I felt the same way when DH went back to work the first time. It gets a lot easier and before you know it you and LO will have a routine down and it will be no problem. I tried to get out of the house once a day even if it was just for a walk outside to help with the loneliness.

julieb00lie · November 2011

You will do great! It is scary at first but you'll get the hang of it. This is my second child so I wasnt scared about being alone with him. However, I was totally freaked out when I was first alone with both DS and DD at the same time. I still get this scared feeling everytime it approaches.

nicki731 · November 2011

DH stayed home with me for the first week, and I cried almost every day about how much I was dreading him going back to work. Looking back now, I feel like it was a little silly (not that I'm saying you're stilly -- I know it is scary) but I just mean that I did fine by myself and I already can't imagine why I was THAT scared :] I think I was just still so emotional with the "blues" but that went away after a week or two anyways. Some days are still tough when you could use a hand or are getting frustrated, but it does get better. I just make DH talk to me on the phone a couple times a day so I don't lose my sanity :] Hang in there, you'll be great!

wallace101610 · November 2011

As if learning to care for a child, and being sleep deprived isn't enough! Then we all have all of this anxiety/hormones to deal with! It just isn't fair is it?? LOL

I have this fear that she will know it's just me, and turn on me! She has seemed a little more cranky than usual, ha!

AngLK987 · November 2011

jgoetz1:
Aww. I felt the same way when DH went back to work the first time. It gets a lot easier and before you know it you and LO will have a routine down and it will be no problem. I tried to get out of the house once a day even if it was just for a walk outside to help with the loneliness.

This! The first couple days were hard, I pretty much started in the recliner and held her all day for the first couple days but after that cabin fever set in and I had to get OUT! I bundled up lo and we went to visit my mom at work, she works at the grocery store in town, we went for a walk in the stroller when it was nice out, anything to get out for a couple hours.

wallace101610 · November 2011

somebodysmama21:

This week isnt my first week but I was really afraid of my first week. A few tips I received from the SAHM board. Your baby wont die if they cry their eyes out while you avoid getting a UTI-go to the bathroom if you need it!

While it would be awesome to have a clean house, a clean fed baby, and a clean fed wife hopefully your DH has an understanding that getting a routine and figuring it all out takes a while. The first few weeks I didnt get anything done except feed her and feed me and diaper her. The house was a mess I believe I even left the dogs outside for a few hours at one point. And we were both still in PJs when he came home. It will get better we are figuring it out and you will too. You cant do that forever but its not a big deal if it happens a bit in the begining! Dont beat yourself up. And last tip I received PB&J is your friend!

Good advice for sure! I had peanut butter yesterday, and my DH was like, you need to eat real food you know! LOL I am having a super hard time eating right now. It's all from the nerves, and it's killing my H. He thinks I am going to get sick and he's going to have to take a leave to care for me!

GnomeLuv · November 2011

Today is my first day alone too. LO and I had a rough night so we were asleep when DH left otherwise I know I would have cried as well. You can page me anytime if you need a first day buddy! We'll get through it.

AllieCat16 · November 2011

today is my first day home alone too...but i recruited my best friend to spend the day with us for a little moral support...so i guess technically it isn't our first day home alone. but i am pretty paranoid!

nic326 · November 2011

Get a carrier. It will free your hands up to do things. Get grab and go things to eat. Preparing and sitting to eat a meal is hard early on. Let some of the household things go for a while. You are only responsible for taking care of baby, not making sure the laundry is done. Ask for and get help from DH, friends, family. Get out of the house for a bit, even if it's just to walk the neighborhood and lastly sleep when baby does. GL!

brigitted82 · November 2011

My husband went back to work 7 days after our LO was born. I spent a lot of that week crying. I was so tired and overwhelmed, I even had him come home from work a few days early. After that first week alone though, I started to feel much more confident and things were starting to settle into a bit of a groove. Keep strong, you will feel much more able to handle this really soon! And in the mean time, if you need help, ask and I say if you feel emotional and need to cry, cry!

Brie2006 · November 2011

Today is my first day home alone as well. I am lucky though because DS is 4 weeks old so I have had more time to settle in.

It is a bit weird and lonely which is strange because before having DS I have never felt lonely being home alone a day in my life!

Good luck!

CurbsideProphet · November 2011

I hope the day goes okay. It does get easier!

canaussie · November 2011

Just popping in to say ditto to all of the above posts and that each day it gets a bit easier : )
I had a lot of anxiety and was very emotional and found myself counting down the hours until DH would be home some days. I wasn't eating, obviously sleep deprived and worried I wasn't doing anything right :P
DH actually started making lunch for me the night before when he made his for work and bought instant breakfast protein shakes for me...lol.
It's an adjustment period for sure but things that phased me in the beginning I don't even think twice about now and yes, some days are always going to be a bit trying or lonely but I absolutely love being a SAHM.
Each time you try something new, like a quick shower while LO is napping hehe or an outing to the mall it will get easier and you will feel less nervous.
It is *so* true about sleeping when the baby sleeps. I didn't listen and paid for it, I chose to do the laundry or dishes, etc during those times b/c I thought I would feel better- nope! I learned to set everything (other than DS) aside for sleep and food and it made a world of difference : )

ImAnRN · November 2011

Today is my first day home too, although, I'm not nearly as scared as I was with my 1st. With my DS, I cried all day long now I just don't have time to think about it:-) It will get easier.

mrsjenniferg2010 · November 2011

It's my first day home alone with my toddler and 3 week old. I have been nervous for weeks. I feel so silly being nervous because I work for a gym day care, so I should be fine with caring for more than one. I am fine at work but at home it just feels different. So far its been fine . It's only the beginning of the day though.

gajumper · November 2011

Its my first day at home alone too...very overwhelming!!! I am so glad to hear I am not the only one crying my eyes out for what seems like no real reason..well..I mean, there IS a reason...I really wish men would get some of these hormones!!

wallace101610 · November 2011

Ive been crying all day! This sucks!!!

Mama2Be11911 · November 2011

Our first day too. I cried a lot when hubby was leaving.

GoldenPeaches · November 2011

DH went back to work when LO was a little over a day old so I know how you feel. Do you have a friend or family member who could come hold the baby for a bit so you can shower and eat? My friend has come over for a few hours on Friday and again today and she's been a lifesaver. If we had family around you bet I'd be seeking their help too. I hope your day is getting better.

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