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ttarnold23
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Note to self...(CIO related)
ttarnold23
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Do not read articles on the internet about CIO while letting your LO CIO. I am at wits end with this sleeping situation. I've read the Ferber book and tried it but my kid goes even more insane with each "check in." So I gave it a few more months and I've just tried it again for naps because my DD will only nap in the car. I let her cry for about 5 minutes (without checking because it makes it worse) and she fell asleep. But during all of this, I've been reading about the horrors of CIO and how it causes traumatic damage, bla bla bla. There's even a self help web site for adults whose parents let them CIO as children...OMG. I feel like a horrible parent now. But, DD is asleep. I don't know what to do.
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Re: Note to self...(CIO related)
How old is your DD and what is her issue? Does she want to be rocked asleep? Does she want a bottle?
My DD's issue was wanting the bottle every time she woke up in the middle of the night. She wasn't necessarily hungry, but just wanted to suck (and didn't take a paci). How I got her off of it was by readin Ferber and using the diluting method, so eventually we would just give her a bottle of water (this was when she was 9 months old).
DD definitely didn't do well with the check-in menthod either...she would just cry harder and louder.
I looked up the website you mentioned for adults who's parent's let them CIO as children. If you really read what he is saying you can tell he is a little out there, his "therapy" that has helped him recover is a bunch of psydo-science. My parents let me CIO and I will assure you there is no lasting damage. I actually am a fabulous sleeper, I fall asleep so quickly it drives DH nuts that is it that easy for me (well except for the first maybe 3 months of DS life when I was freaked out about SIDS which made my sleep crap) Take a look at a bunch of the books out there, there are some cry methods and some non cry methods and figure out what works best for your family but don't feel bad for trusting your instincts.
The bumpie formerly known as First Time in MI
This. Now she goes right to sleep with no crying most of the time, and she's a totally happy baby. I'm pretty sure you haven't screwed your kid up!
I think CIO has it's place. I see nothing wrong with letting your DD cry for 5 min. My DD a few months ago was waking up about every 2 hours and now she normally wakes 1-2 times a night. I think it is something they outgrow also. It's so hard at this age because you never know what is causing them to wake up. Currently my DD is waking up a few more times because she's in pain from teething. If it isn't horrible for you, just give it time and it'll get better.
I always thought that I wouldn't be the kind of parent that would be comfortable with CIO, but my DS is 9 months old and sometimes if he wakes up in the night, I will set the timer on my phone to 10 minutes and let him go (as long as he is not crazy hysterical). Most of the time he is back to sleep in 5 minutes and I do not feel bad about it at all. Honestly, at this age, he is going to be okay if he cries/whines for 5 to 10 minutes. I also know the difference in his cries- I can tell if there is something really wrong.